Adoptive parents see teachers judge brown

image7 (1)Lynn Schilaty,
Snohomish, WA.

when attending a teacher parent conference my husband and I didn’t expect what we saw on the faces of teachers when they realized WE were the (white) parents of our adopted daughter. We could see in their split second recalculation on their face as that they struggled to take our daughter out of a less favorable category into one that required them to acknowledge her actual circumstances. Whatever we experienced in that moment felt significant to us. It was then we realized race alone can put you in a”marginal” kid category. Something only people of color can know and, maybe, an adoptive parent can witness.

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  • tacco

    As a person with dark skin, one of the most hurtful and reoccurring moments, is when someone who is not “of color” downplays the circumstances and criticize our feelings as an overreaction.

    Thank you for sharing. “It was then we realized race alone can put you in a”marginal” kid category. Something only people of color can know and, maybe, an adoptive parent can witness.” -Priceless-

    • barry irving

      …learn and know the world…the people who do this are insecure themselves and are part of the ignorant masses. They don’t count unless or until they get a more realistic view of life and actually understand that impressions from TV, Movies and other media are not life. Their ignorance has no real bearing unless you give them that power. Self confidence and knowledge will always rise above Bigotry.

 

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