when attending a teacher parent conference my husband and I didn’t expect what we saw on the faces of teachers when they realized WE were the (white) parents of our adopted daughter. We could see in their split second recalculation on their face as that they struggled to take our daughter out of a less favorable category into one that required them to acknowledge her actual circumstances. Whatever we experienced in that moment felt significant to us. It was then we realized race alone can put you in a”marginal” kid category. Something only people of color can know and, maybe, an adoptive parent can witness.