In the past several months, I almost dated two very nice guys who happened to be African American. To my shock and disgust, I had a very close friend who I would have never thought in a million years to be even slightly racist tell me, “It’s disgusting that you are even thinking about getting together with that n*****.” He said this about both of them. He also said other derogative things about both guys. I was deeply hurt that he would refer to anyone with that term. I never thought that dating someone of a different race would cause such anger in my friend. Like I am still trying to understand what happened, and I still get really upset thinking about it.