Don’t assume I’m racist like you.

255340_10151084324319235_1997720169_nNicole Moriarty,
Tallahassee, FL.

I’m white and I’ve been living in the south for about 5 years and this crazy thing continually happens to me: white people see the color of my skin and assume, wrongly, that I harbor the same ignorance and racism that they do. Don’t get me wrong, I’m aware of my white privilege and I’m aware that I knowingly and unknowingly harbor prejudices but I work on this every day and try to become more and more aware of myself.
These white people will lean in conspiratorially and say things like “It’s dangerous there, you know, because they’re black.” or “Well blacks and whites shouldn’t marry it’s just wrong.” Or they will use the N word word around me and I’ll have to explain how that is A) extremely offensive and B) how they aren’t allowed to use that around me.

It’s frustrating to me that they look at me and wrongly assume I would just naturally agree with them, it’s frustrating to me that excuses will be made for these people, and I will be told to get over it, it’s how they are raised, they are too old to know better, it was just a joke, don’t take it so personally. It’s frustrating to me that in Twenty Thirteen I can’t date a man of color without stares and outright criticism. But what I’m most frustrated about is this uncomfortableness that I feel in these situations is roughly less then 1% of my entire life, but a person of color however, will have these experiences everyday.
Every. Day.

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  • Curious

    Thank you for your self awareness and being active in fighting racism even though, as a White person, you have the luxury not to. Thank you for speaking up. Thank you for recognizing your privilege instead of getting defensive about it; by doing this you compassionately validate the struggles people of color face, as you say, every day. How did you get to this place of self awareness? of continuing to speak up and advocate even when people tell you to get over it?

    There are still so many people who in one breathe say racist bigoted things, and then in the next breathe say we are in a post-racial society. How can we foster the type of awareness and advocacy that you have come to live? How do we get the people with power and privilege to recognize they have power and privilege and be willing to stand up for those who do not?

  • Jen

    I think it is amazing and a small step in the right direction that you speak up to those that are ignorant.

  • Awsome

    I so feel you!

  • Dara Nicole Boyd-Galleguillos

    I moved to Texas and I get the same thing. It’s awful and uncomfortable.

  • Dara Nicole Boyd-Galleguillos

    Anyone can help end racism, no matter what shade we are 🙂

 

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