They glare at my bi-racial son.

image5 (3)Linnette Derry,
New York City, NY.

I often think about the inevitable discussion about race that I will have to have with my son one day. That day when he will begin to ask me why people think I’m his nanny/housekeeper instead of his mother; the day when he will ask me why people keep staring at us when daddy is with us; the day when he will ask me what do the words “exotic”, “nappy”, “yellow” and “dark-skinned mean.

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  • Jade G

    I am black (a caramel color). My daughter’s father is black (on the darker side). Thanks to genetics, my 4-year-old daughter is a golden color with curly, sandy hair that is blond along her hairline. People CONSTANTLY ask me if she’s bi-racial. She has bi-racial friends from daycare, who are slightly lighter than she is. One started discussing race with my daughter when she was about 2 years old. So, I had to have that conversation with my daughter. I showed her pictures of my great-grandparents and explained that she has traits from each of them. We STILL have to talk about race from time to time because she doesn’t like many people that are darker than she is. People with darker complexions have to “prove themselves” to her before she is accepting. It’s kinda sad, but we’re making progress. I honestly think it might be easier for bi-racial children to accept their heritage than it is for lighter-skinned blacks.

 

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