Rebecca A
Portland, OR

But who am I to say he is wrong? My boyfriend is Filipino and I am white. He thinks people judge us for being in a biracial relationship, and I tell him he’s paranoid. When you’ve grown up in an environment where racist acts happen against you like he did, what else should I expect him to think? Maybe I am naive to the world we live in.

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  • Tam

    Being an African-American, you are taught from a young age to be aware of surroundings and how some actions can be perceived negatively based on your face. As a child and teenager, I thought that because my parents grew up in the Jim Crow era (which for most young adults is only one generation removed, believe it or not) and experienced racism they were being paranoid. I grew up in predominantly black areas and attended schools that were predominantly black. However, when I started attending one of the top predominantly white institutions in the country I understood what all their lessons and warnings meant. It is astounding how ignorant some people are when it comes to race. So while for you race has never been something to think about for you (which is great and how the world should work), for your boyfriend it has. For minorities, as long as their are ignorant people in the world, it will always be an issue in the back of our minds.

  • Pblack02

    Hi Rebecca, 

    It is a good thing not bad to see color.  We all should proud of who we are and where we came from.  It is what forms us and informs us.  My husband is African American and we have three kids.  My sister in law is Fillipino.  Another sister in law is Puerto Rican.  We have cousins that have one Mexican parent, one Japanese parent, and more.   Okay let me explain my opening remark, because it isn’t meant to down grade your comment which was very nice.  Only to affirm that each of our heritages has value and has wonderful things about it.  Don’t get me wrong, I just think that being color blind is a myth.  See me, see us for what we are.  We like who and what we are!

    Okay, and one more thing.  Actually, your boyfriend it right, there are people out there doing that, not everyone but it is something that pop up and slap you in your face.  But at the end of day, those aren’t people that you care about.  But you just have to be aware because some of those people are harmful in certain situations.

    I’m very proud of my heritage which is Finnish, Swedish, and Norwegian.  So I like being acknowledged for that as we all should for our own unique heritages.

  • LJ

    Yes, you are naive.