I will never be black enough.

Lagaria Farmer
Springfield, TN

This was hammered into me starting in the 7th grade – mostly by other black kids, but it extended to family members as well. As long as I like hard rock/metal and goth/industrial music, sound like a blond Valley Girl, date white guys and enjoy academics, I’m not black enough. Outwardly I give them all the finger, but it still hurts after all these years, because “not black enough” was translated to “not good enough” in my mind…and the minds of the black teens I went to junior high and high school with.

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  • Jennie B

    I’m sorry. This must be very difficult for you. Bravo for having the courage to be who you know you are, despite the lack of encouragement from those you are close to.

  • TerriHD

    From one who’s been there…Be yourself. There is no single way to be black. Trust me, society will remind you of your blackness. But there is only one way — YOUR way — to be YOU.

  • White Light

    “Outwardly I give them all the finger, but it still hurts after all these years, because “not black enough” was translated to “not good enough” in my mind”

    More like “not bad enough” ;}

 

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