I am mom, not the babysitter

The-FamilyMikaela Rejbrand,
San Francisco, CA.

Being a person of mixed race, my biological mom is white and my biological father is black, and having married an Irish man, my children are much lighter skinned than I am and therefore am often mistaken for “the babysitter”. The constant theme since my children have been born is that, “Oh wow, your kids look so much like their dad!”. I never understood that comment as I see myself in my children and beyond the color of their skin. With my children so young, my son is 2 and my daughter is 4, I have not yet broached the very complicated questions around race and the history of how people of all colors have had to endure discrimination, slavery, persecution, and hate. My children do not see color, they see people, and I hope that when the day comes that I will begin sharing stories of my ancestors, that the color of one’s skin will be just that, the color of your skin.

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  • escabrosa1 .

    You look like you have a very loving family, and I think that makes all the difference in the world.

  • barry irving

    …the world is full of purposefully ignorant and coincidentally ignorant people. Knowing your true community is your strength and dealing with the mass amount of ignorance in America is all of our responsibility.

  • Taylor Pederson

    I’m white and my husband is Korean. Our daughter is a gorgeous mix of both of us, but she definitely has more of my husbands coloring so people automatically see her as an “asian baby”. I’m the odd one out in our family too and I’ve been asked several times if I’m her nanny. I understand your frustration completely. I don’t see my daughter as a race or color. She is my baby and that’s that. But I really do worry about how I will be able to answer her questions regarding race. Especially as a white person. How do I guide her through challenges I’ve never faced myself? Hopefully we’ll both be able to find the right words when the day comes to tackle these complicated subjects.

    I wish you and your family the best of luck!

 

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