Kevin Moses, Logan, UT. As a 6’3″, young, Black man, at all times I am painfully aware of my presence in a room and the constant strain of worrying about being perceived as threatening is exhausting. I’m incredibly friendly, and the dissonance that comes from people assuming otherwise hurts.
Lynne Shotola, Waukegan, IL. I’m a white woman. It was a Sunday night right after Ferguson. I had spent a host, sticky day doing chores. When I went to take the used cat litter out to the dumpster, I very obviously swerved out of the path of a black man. All I could think was [...]
Alexandra Gradwell, Pittsburgh, PA. I come from a mostly white town and have heard that many of my friends have heard this from their parents as they go off to college.
Barbara Young, Stockton, CA. I’ve realized my own white privilege for some time now. But being the white female half of an interracial marriage, I suddenly experience America in a new frightening way. My husband is a 6’4″ 300 lb black man. I have a plan worked out in my mind of how I can [...]
Arlinda Vaughn, Dayton, OH. My partner is a tall, dark muscular black man (with a PHD). When he lived in Texas, the police arrived at a gas station that he was in and tased him 8 times without warning or discussion. My brother (with a degree) has been regularly pulled over. Once, a police officer [...]
David, Submitted via: NPR’s Talk of the Nation. The potential for violence from an angry black man is so much higher than any other source it’s scary. An unarmed black man is a threat unless proven otherwise.
JC Ousley Houston, TX In 1998 I bought a new red corvette despite my mother’s plea, she said the car was trouble for a black man. On the day the car was delivered, I was driving to my parent’s home to show off my new vette when I was pulled over by three Chicago police [...]
Morgan Fort Lauderdale, FL My now three and a half year old brother named Kendall was born to two crack addicted parents. My grandmother now has full custody of him and is his Mother figure. My grandma goes a few times a week to the Walmart across the street to do her grocery shopping. Benny [...]
Isabel “Scottie” Dalsimer Alexandria, VA It was a bright and sunny day in August 1963. I was 25 years old and just back from a two year assignment in West Africa. My household effects were arriving at my Washington apartment that afternoon, but I had time to go to the March on Washington beforehand. I [...]
Tom Edgerton St. George, UT
James Henderson Houghton, MI I’m a black man. There is this stereotype, that all black people steal, so whenever we walk into a store we are followed around the store and or watched from a distance. I have money and don’t need to steal form anyone. Watch me pay for this.
ARGIE Brooklyn, NY Original Submission: WATCH TERRIFIED BLACK MAN RUN FROM DOG, I CRY
Glenn Wilson Des Moines, IA And I’m white. Throughout grade school and high school, I never had a black classmate. I don’t know the “struggle” nor did I grow up near the rough areas of a large city. Nevertheless, my roommate of two years is black. So what’s the big deal? All I did was [...]
Joan Maxwell Chicago, IL This happened to me in college in 1971. I was an education major, and a black student spoke to our Philosophy of Education class. He asked the students to raise their hands if they felt they were not racist. I raised my hand. I was the only one who raised my [...]
McKenzie Messer Eugene, OR …In a hospital parking lot
Joan Bowden Kailua Kona, HI
Michael Leibowitz Atlanta, GA I challenged two young men that were harassing a young girl. They drew knives. A large man behind me said that if they came closer (to me), he’d shove the knives down their throats.
Bart71 Chicago, IL I am who I am. I accept who I am. I love who I am. Black men have jumped over all forms of racism in the past and will continue to jump over them. I know that daily I defy all stereotypes. It makes me stronger. It keeps me on my game. [...]
Babara Sloan Wallingford, CT In Myrtle Beach, SC, Mr. Joe White was a local black man who washed windows of many stores, including that of my father. Town borders put all African-American homes outside the city limits. I remember Mr. White on his adult tricycle. There was no high school for Black teens. Most Blacks [...]
Anthony Augusta Tempe, AZ
Tracey Rae Palmer Myrtle Beach, SC I was told never to kiss a n***** or get close to them; they would only rob you or kill you for money. I found myself in collage in 1979 and a black man got an “A” in his class. With arms held wide and incredible excitement, he kissed [...]
Charles C. Chatman Hanover Park, IL As a black man, I feel that when I enter a room, I must explain my reason for being there. When I go to work, I have to explain every decision I make. When I show interest in things that are obscure or not typical of the preconceived black [...]
John Doe San Francisco, CA I’m a large black man. I have issues leaving the store right behind women. I have had women obviously cross the street and change directions. I make sure their are no women directly in front of me as I leave the store; If their are I pretend to answer a [...]
LSSteph Washington, DC I’m a white woman, ever since I read this article back in college by a black man discussing his revelation that he always instinctively looks down or away when encountering a white women because he didn’t want her to be afraid of him and how he no longer does that, I say [...]
Marria Bratcher Oklahoma City, OK
Stephanie Diane Scott-Melnyk Washington, DC My father is a light-skinned black man. My mother is an extremely fair white woman. For at least the 40 years I can remember, I have felt required to fight for the recognition of my black heritage. My race card is a statement made to me at least once a [...]
John May Franklin, MA I was a salesman of warehouse equipment . On an ordinary sales call, I would drive to a warehouse and try to meet with the boss to deliver my sales pitch. Most times I would go in a back door, loading dock, or other path that would avoid the receptionists and [...]
Eugene Covington III USA In business, building strong relationships is the most important thing. Finding common ground is the first step down the path to a good relationship. This first step is often a challenge because many older white males have had very limited interactions with black men (most of them have been negative). This [...]
Thomas C. Hofstra Los Angeles, CA My spouses six words are “I try to understand our world”
Drew Mills Greenville, IN I grew up in a tiny town in Kentucky where black people lived in another part of town, always. Although I don’t think of myself as racist, and I’ve had black friends and; colleagues, and church brothers, I still see black people as black and not as just people. I can’t [...]
Andre A. Clark Los Angeles, CA As a hard working, young, black software engineer, I am often praised for my contributions, but equally (if not more often) overlooked for chances to lead or to be cultivated into a leadership position.
KIRSTEN SCHOENLEBER SAINT PAUL, MN As a professional woman, I wonder about the differences between racism and misogyny. I have gone to meetings held at a country club. As I walked down a hall lined with pictures of past leaders, all white men, I wondered which would be more bothersome to them: me joining the [...]
Beniyam Matewos Alexandria, VA I stand up for myself and my beliefs. I stand up for those i love! I speak my mind, think my own thoughts, and do things my way. I won’t compromise what in my heart. I live my life MY way. I won’t allow anyone to step on me. I refuse [...]
Kristin Esty Bethlehem, NH I was raised in New England. I worked with a company doing business in the south. I went to a restaurant in a rural southern area, it doesn’t matter where now – really. I went with peers doing the same work as me. One however was a black man…I am a [...]
Paul Hursey Bloomington, IL Being a Black man in America is like running through “An American wildfire wearing gasoline drawers”. It is difficult to let your guard down because someone is always chasing you.
Anonymous Berkeley, CA This is the struggle I have inside ever time I am walking alone at night and come across a man or group of men, often men of color. Should I cross the street to be safe and be “that girl” that crosses the street in fear of the black man? Or should [...]
Kenyatta Yamel Milwaukee, WI Heard about this through twitter so I thought I would have my say.