I have no black best friends.

Kevin Maness PA I have colleagues, students, friends, and acquaintances who are black and who I love, like, and/or dislike, but I’m embarrassed to say that I have no people of color who are in my “inner circle,” so to speak. On the positive side, I guess I’m never tempted to use that old cliché: […]

Begin: Befriend someone different than you.

Karen Fritts, USA. We talk and talk about race, but most of us stay in their own corners during the discussion. We cannot begin to understand each other from a distance. We cannot begin to trust one another without understanding. Are you willing to foster a friendship with someone different…a friendship that you are comfortable […]

Black friends’s father forbid our friendship.

Patricia Armstrong St. Louis, MO I was no more than 7 years old and made friends with a black girl in the neighborhood. We really had a lot of fun together and my family did not object. After a few weeks, I was invited to her house. After her father saw my white skin, he […]

Teased as “Oreo” — our friendship abandoned.

Kay Wilkie Albany, NY I lost my closest friend following intensifying racial tension in Albany city schools during the early 1970s. It was just too difficult for her to be seen with me, her white friend, esp. since she was also ostracized for being in the “academically talented” program. Hard for me, daughter of civil […]

She really was my best friend.

Suzanne Axtell Santa Rosa, CA Despite years of developing a very close relationship, my friendship with the only black woman in my circle of friends crumbled with my first marriage. I’m not sure what role, if any, race had to do with it. We haven’t spoken in nearly 15 years, but I miss her terribly. […]