Marrying a white Hispanic isn’t mixing

Mary Spain I’m married to a dark haired dark eyed white skinned Spanish speaking man of pure European descent. He is Spanish. We live in Spain! When many of my American friends comment on our biracial marriage or our children being mixed I want to correct them but feel that by doing so i’ll come […]

Sad truth: racism is still alive

Javier, Roma, TX. I grew up in a little town in Mexico, near the border with the US, there was not as much cultural or racial differences as bigger cities have. I know that racism exists in Mexico, because I have read articles where they explain how Mexican people discriminate people who they consider Indians, […]

At least she doesn’t act Mexican…

Pamela Espinoza Fletcher, Redlands, CA. This is what my ex mother in law said when asked about her son marrying a Mexican. I was offended but truthfully really didn’t understand coment. I guess prior to that I had just been me. My parents are both Mexican. My siblings and I were raised in a Spanish […]

Husband Said Last Name Wasn’t Mine

Annie, IN. We just got married about 3 months ago. I am Hmong, and he is white. During some sweet talk, the subject of my surname came up. My husband said, “It’s not [your last name] anymore,” with a smirk. I cried. It was the kind of tears that just came, the kind you cry […]

Does Race Matter???

Mari Bailey Temecula, CA I am Japanese. I married to American man. However, when I tell people that Im married, people ask if Im married to Japanese guy. I answer, ‘no Im married to American guy.” well….that is not enough for some people. Those people have to know which Ethnicity he is, DOES IT MATTER? […]

“White girls should marry white boys!”

Janet Little Dayton, OH From a rural, small town- I hadn’t seen any couples that were of different races. During the 1994 OJ Simpson trials, at age 6, I ignorantly asked my mother, “Was that black boy married to that white girl that died?” Her only response was: “Yes, but white girls should only marry […]

Mixed Race Marriages are very hard

Vicki Dallas, TX I’m half Korean and Half White. As I grew up in an environment where I saw my parents overcome language and cultural barriers, in addition to the normal everyday marriage issues. When I was a kid, i didn’t think anything of it and thought that everyone had parents who would argue about […]

Where did you meet your wife?

Brian Comerford Aurora, CO I notice when many husbands are asked a similar question, the word “where” is substituted with “how”; my impression is that because I am a white Anglo male married to a Southeast Asian woman with a foreign accent, the question is actually front-loaded with curiosity about whether or not we were […]

Indian? At least he isn’t black!

Sherrill Dawn Koopot Phoenix, AZ …Worried how your baby will look? 41 years ago I married an East Indian Doctor; He was handsome, smart, kind and everything a woman could want. Both of those comments above were made to me, with all seriousness and , I think, with absolute ignorance as to how they sounded. […]

Sure, but would you marry one?

Tom Bethesda, MD When my (white) mother worked at NAACP in the 60’s my Dad infamously questioned her sincerity. Mom died a decade ago. Dad spent last weekend walking precincts for Obama in NH. Hope and change indeed.

Parents’ interracial marriage seems selfish sometimes

Anonymous, Santa Cruz, CA I’m tired of my bi-racial experience being used as proof of progress… Sometimes I think my parents were selfish to have kids and then act like everything would be fine. There are still unequal power dynamics, still racism in their relationship, and they wonder why their kids are insecure and damaged. […]

Interracial marriage isn’t a bad thing.

Ryan Wilcox Urbandale, IA My parents moved my sister and I out of Milwaukee in the early 1970’s to avoid the repercussions of desegregation. We were very young at the time so we did not understand the reason for the move. Later on my siblings and I attended an inner city high school, Washington Park […]