Fear and reconciliation: oil and water

Dirk Elting, Honolulu, HI. People cannot reconcile their differences when they do not feel safe. We scare (and anger) one another not only through our acts, but through our criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. What psychologist John Gottman has shown to be true for couples, I believe to be true for race relations. I have […]

One drop rule says I’m black.

Gerald D. Franks, Town Creek, AL. But you wouldn’t know that by looking at me. I’m the typical American mixture of various European ethnicities (aka white), and I have Cherokee lineages as well (documented, not just family lore). While doing some genealogical work I decided to have my genome fully sequenced in case there were […]

poochootee

Haitian-Irish mix? That’s a first!

Josh Benjamin, Philadelphia, PA. Almost nobody ever guesses me to be a black-white mix. This has led to numerous identity issues for me in the past. Now, however, I feel blessed and enjoy my background without calling attention to it.

Snapshot_20130909_6

Proud and narcissistic about my mix.

Paula Sahyoun, Canada. I’ve always loved being half Chinese and half Arabic. It’s such a big part of who I am. Although, growing up, I’ve felt detached from both sides. I was too white to be Asian, and not Arabic enough to be Arab. I didn’t learn either language, which saddens me. People mistake me […]