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Are you my mother? Sí, mija.

Daniela, Oklahoma City, OK. Are You My Mother by P.D Eastman was one of my favorite books growing up because I loved how graciously and lovingly the mama bird at the end confirmed her son’s pleading for a sense of belonging. I am aware that I am not the only multi-ethnic person out there who […]

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Are you Chinese or something?

Brigitte Dees, Stillwater, OK. Growing up half Japanese, Native American, and white in Oklahoma was a challenge. I don’t look like anyone else and people have reminded me of that my whole life. As an Asian girl I was expected to be quiet, studious, and polite. The reality is I have ADHD and dyslexia, which […]

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Is the ticket together or separate?

Taylor Norman, Norman, OK. White man. Black woman. Two babies that look in between. People never really think before they speak when they see my family together. For some reason they can’t deduce that my mother is married to my father and my sister and I are their two girls. Instead their eyes only see […]

You’re Pretty, For a BLACK girl.

Courtney, Moore, OK. I am told this quite offten and it makes my heart ache, not because I let it bother me personally, beause I don’t. But for the other black women and young ladies that are told the same thing and don’t have the courage to say that I am a beautiful black women, […]

Delaware, Kiowa, Comanche, Mexican, Oh My!

Kristina T., Oklahoma City, OK. I’m half Native American and half Mexican. I have 3 tribes’ blood that runs through my veins along with Mexican blood. Most people consider and see me as one or the other. I speak and know my Mexican culture, but when it comes to my Native culture, I’m completely lost. […]

I walk in two worlds daily.

Lenzy KB, Tulsa, OK. Like many Native Americans, I’m mixed and frankly, don’t look like the stereotypical “Hollywood” Native. I have to balance the Native world — both its contemporary and traditional components — daily with life in modern society.

Ladies Needn’t Wear Long Gowns

Susan K. Schmidt, Oklahoma City, OK. It was the mid 50’s in Miami, Florida. It was the time of “white only” and “black only” water fountains and bathrooms. I was 6 or 7 years old and riding in the back of the family car with my Grandmother, who was raised in Savannah, Georgia. We passed […]

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White In Oklahoma….Unwanted Racist Thoughts

Taryn, Tulsa, OK. Being white in Oklahoma for the last 15 years is annoying sometimes. I grew up in a very tolerant family in CT then CA and was the minority in a mainly black neighborhood. My first boyfriend and love was black. all my friends were black. I was actually racist against white people. […]

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Sorry, this AMERICAN sings it better.

Aaron Matthew Villalobos, Norman, OK. While I’m admittedly more apple pie than beans & rice, I have never felt my heritage as a Mexican-American detracted from my ability to honor my country with the gift god has given me–my voice. I love singing our national anthem. I feel like it’s the biggest contribution I can […]

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It’s okay to be black, Promise

Maureen Shaw, Durham, NC. Thank you for doing this. This is a photo of my mother’s family, this is the reason why I wrote it’s okay to be black. I look at it an feel so proud of this photo. We let ourselves believe we are a people are people with shattered history. I’ve discovered […]

Yes I do fear Black men

Rachel, Tulsa, OK. Black men are many times more likely than White men to be thieves, rapists, and murderers. When I see a Black person I am more fearful. This is a natural reaction, it is the same reason that most White people in my city live in White neighborhoods, because living in those Black […]

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My children won’t rob you

Shamica, Oklahoma City, OK. I never knew that becoming a mom would be different based on race. I was raised on military bases, everyone got along. I knew that people could be racist but I never really experienced it. I was . . . naive. Then I married my husband, at a young age, then […]

Black but gay so it’s ok

Fred Wherry, New York, NY. An administrative assistant remarked to my (now ex) European partner: “When I first saw Fred I was a little scared of him. Then I found out he’s gay and your partner!” Somehow, if seen alone or if I appeared too “hard,” I was intimidating. By being “soft” I could disarm […]

Why’s it always gotta be racial?

Anna Russell, Mangum, OK. #TheRaceCard is used by government to muddy the REAL ISSUE, the class divisions. When ppl are crammed in the ghettos of the largest cities it breeds contempt. Jobs and parents are scarce. Violence reigns supreme. The majority in the inner cities are black but not all, every color is there and […]

“You’re Mexican???? I’d still date you”

Gianna Gonzalez Roland, OK ………………excuse me? I was talking to a guy I liked when he asked me if I was Native American. I told him that I’m actually Mexican, White, Italian, and Philippino but I could only get the first one out before he interrupted and said “oh you’re Mexican? That’s ok I’d still […]

Equality Promoter Becomes Racially Inferior

Amy Blue Tulsa, OK As a white girl in a top-ranking and racially diverse high school, I could not understand why the student population segregated itself racially. I saw all of my classmates as equals and felt a strong sense of responsibility to make others see their classmates in the same light. I climbed out […]

People see white- but I’m Mexican!

Mikah Broken Arrow, OK A lot of people are surprised when I tell them I’m Mexican… I’m light-skinned with dark hair and it disappoints me that it’s hard to get a dark tan or that people can’t tell. I’m proud to be a Mexican American and I’m still finding my identity as a person and […]

So much darker… Is she adopted?

Rebekah Day Vinita, OK As the only brown complected person in my large family, I stand out against the pale white. I am constantly asked if I am adopted, or a “half-sister” in relation to my siblings. I am a woman of mixed heritage of various European and Native American blood, along with the rest […]

You are the whitest black man

M. King Oklahoma City, OK College educated, and my profession, is IT training and consulting. When whites gain that friendly level of comfort, they try and say that my manner of speech, an education, makes me white. Once I posed the question, what made them think that education, intelligence and standard speech are attributes only […]

I’m me, not my intolerant family.

J.S. Oklahoma City, OK I am me. I come from a long line of intolerant, hate filled family that would sooner walk away from those who are different they are rather than stay and learn and revel in the diversity. I am me and I am never going to be that which I seemed destined […]

Those kids will ruin your life.

Shelley Cadamy Munoz Tulsa, OK This was said to me by a very upstanding member of the Oklahoma City Community, just after he said a public prayer. Many years later, my kids have clearly done just the opposite of ruining my life. I can’t imagine my life without them.

Because I’m White, I’m presumed racist.

Robert C. Reynolds Sapulpa, OK All races and societies have racist individuals. Yet because I am caucasian, I feel I am singled out, profiled as a racist by non-whites, merely because of my appearance. That is as wrong as any profiling of hoodie-wearing black youth as up to no good. Who speaks up on my […]

That was then, this is now.

Abby Oklahoma City, OK I was working as a hostess at a restaurant a few years ago. We would seat servers/sections based on a rotation chart. Two older black women came in and were taken to the next section in rotation, which happened to be located towards the back of the restaurant. They were immediately […]

I am me, do not panic.

James Eliot Griffith Stillwater, OK It’s irritating how in this day and age if I just tell someone I’m Mexican (which is the side of my family I identify with a bit more since I grew up on the border in South Texas) everyone is perfectly fine and its all cool. But if I happen […]

Pacific Islanders are not Asian ok!

Luis David Garcia Huntsville, TX I am Mexican, my wife is Pacific Islander and our girls were born in Virginia and Texas. My girls are the minority among minorities and yet are lumped together with the largest population in the planet (Asian/Pacific Islander). Now try to tell my Chamorro wife that she is Chinese and […]

Hoodies were popularized by gang-bangers

Oliver  Lackey Fairview, OK Hoodies were popularized by gang-bangers ( I’m not implying that anyone deserves to be harmed because of what they wear, but when the popular style is to emulate gang-bangers it becomes hard to differentiate between innocent teenagers and dangerous gang-bangers

Race regardless, you still have culture

Jasmine Elizabeth Smith Oklahoma City, OK “But I’m White. I don’t have a culture I identify with.” I often hear this rueful phrase during discussions about multiculturalism with my non African American friends. I think Americans need to redefine the meaning of the word ‘culture’. Culture does not refer to ethnicity or nationality, but should […]

Not my problem, now my kid’s

Courtney M Oklahoma City, OK I’m white. I was raised in a military family that traveled everywhere and was taught to love what makes us different. Then I had children with a man who isn’t white. Now, race has taken on a whole new meaning. Explaining race issues to them is painful…for so many reasons.