Just another do-good white woman.

Margaret Davenport, Vienna, VA. This was said to me by a black male student in a high school program for disadvantaged but very bright, high potential students where I was academic adviser and counselor. It was said with a combination of dismay that there were few men or blacks working in this kind of program, […]

But what about your blue eyes?

Dilyn Grasp, Boring, OR. I am a white woman from a small town in Oregon (look it up, it’s a real place). My boyfriend is a first generation American. His parents are from China and Taiwan. When we started dating two years ago (when I was 20 and old enough to make my own decisions), […]

I’m Jocelyn, I do speak English.

Jocelyn Rueda, Napa, CA. I am a Mexican female. I once went to a store and went up to the register to ask a question and the women was looking for someone to talk to me. She was a white women and she thought I didn’t speak English.

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Witnessing people confusing anecdote with fact

Deborah Robinson, Los Angeles, CA. I grew up in profoundly white Eugene, Oregon, where I’d laugh at banners emblazoned, CELEBRATE DIVERSITY. “What, as long as it’s not here?” I’d wonder. Yet the whiteness of my hometown did not mean it was a racially hostile one. I nurtured no ill will for folks from different walks […]

White woman got six ‘second chances.’

Robin Dalton, Spokane, WA. I am not using my real name, and will obviously not post a photo. This is because even my family does not know how often I was picked up for shoplifting. I’m not a kid, I’m a 40-something white (Scandinavian pale) woman. The (white) security guards, defense/prosecution attorneys and judges continued […]

Dating Bi-Racially Has Changed My Life

Erika, USA. I am a white woman that is dating a black man. I tried to think racism didn’t exist anymore until I started dating my boyfriend. The stares we’ve gotten from white people while in public, the comments we’ve gotten from older white folks, and even the responses of friends have made me realize […]

Obama was black 148 years ago.

Kendra Jones, Selma, AL. As a white woman who voted for Obama twice, I found myself wanting to claim him as my own. “He’s half white, I’d insist to myself.” But then I began to think about our past anti-miscegenation laws in the 19th century. An individual with as little as 1/32nd percent African ancestry […]

Read Kingsblood Royal by Sinclair Lewis

Marsha Surkin, White Bear Lake, MN. I am a white woman, 72 yrs old. When I was 11 I disobeyed my mom and read Kingsblood Royal. This was the first time I was aware of racial diveristy. In the book a man finds out he has a black grandfather and is run out of town. […]

But where do you come from?

Caitlin Wong, USA. I am a White American woman who relatively recently started seeing a Chinese man. He was born and raised in American, but he is not biracial. It’s a fairytale romance – I am in love and I couldn’t be happier. At first it surprised me that we got stares, especially in New […]

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What are you so afraid of?

Addam Walker, Beaumont, TX, I’ve experienced white woman crossing to the other side of the parking lot to walk past me, the sudden locking of car doors when I approach, the clutching of purses, and so on. It hurts to treated like some kind of criminal when you’re not. Oh well; such is life.

I shouldn’t care more than you.

Chrissy Iemma, San Diego, CA. I am a white woman. I have an interracial young adult son. The injustices that the African Amercican community face troubles me to the core. I talk about it and talk about it – to my son, his father, my black friends and it bothers me that I seem to […]

Dear White People, See systematic racism.

Joscelyn Gay, Denver, CO. As a white woman, I’m frustrated with white society saying they are ‘color blind’ and their reponsibility is voer. I would like white people to understand the profound impact that decades of disparity in education, incarceration, and employment have had on Black society.

What can one white woman do?

Maggy Wolf, New Orleans, LA. Other than voting my liberal conscience and trying to be extra kind and generous to black people I meet in my daily life, I feel helpless to make any significant difference. How can one person help the poor, the disenfranchised, the under-educated escape from the cycle of poverty?

I smile at young black men.

Nena Clark Rochester, MN I am an old, white woman. I work in the govt center and I see all kinds of folks there who probably aren’t having their best day. I try to be pleasant to everyone, but I make a point of being friendly toward young black men. I know that in my […]

More than just a “white” woman

Brandi Schroeder, East Lansing, MI. I have a rather diverse group of friends, and the other day one made a comment about my origins. I grew up in a predominantly caucasian town where my high school held maybe 10 black students. My friend, who happens to be Somali, asked this question, and upon my answer […]

Go Ahead and Call Me Cracker

Jackie Barclay USA Years ago, I had a run-in at a convenience store with a black woman who apparently hated me because I’m white. I didn’t know the woman and had never gone to that store before but she started calling me a huzz, a bitch, etc. Just when I was getting angry enough to […]

My March On Washington Freedom Kiss

Isabel “Scottie” Dalsimer Alexandria, VA It was a bright and sunny day in August 1963. I was 25 years old and just back from a two year assignment in West Africa. My household effects were arriving at my Washington apartment that afternoon, but I had time to go to the March on Washington beforehand. I […]

White woman black restroom Frozen

Sylvia Anderson Albuquerque, NM Raised in Detroit, parents liberal, family on both sides of civil war. Grandfather said “The south likes the black man and hates the black race, north likes the black race and hates the black man. My six words relate to a trip south in 1963. I desperately needed a restroom and […]

Privilege is not having to notice.

Jennifer DiBrienza Palo Alto, CA Growing up as a white woman, I never had to think very much about race. As an adult I have tried to better understand the experiences of others and I was shocked by how drastically different experiences of other Americans were. I have the luxury of not having to think […]

I’m a white woman in America

Arianna Mariotti Seaside, CA I am white. I am a woman. I am part of the upper middle class. I grew up in Orange County, California. I am a student in college. I am discriminated against because I “have it easy.” But the fact of the matter is, I don’t see color or class or […]

White women are NOT MY allies

Jill T. Brooklyn, NY Though I keep hearing that as women we have common causes, common concerns, etc, I’ve learned that I should never count on white women as my allies. Color privilege trumps everything else therefore.

I teach. I build relationships with students.

Sarah Brookner Minneapolis, MN I am a white female. I grew up in a wealthy suburb of Minneapolis. My students are mostly Somali, African American and Mexican American. They all have different needs. I care deeply about all of them. Some days are hard for me to connect and relate to their experiences, which are […]

White woman knows it’s elitism too.

Julia Chicago, IL I tried to post this last week but don’t see it. I hope it gets there this time. I listen to non-whites talk about how they are treated and I’ve been treated the same way. Since I am white, I think some of it is elitism. The elites think everyone who is […]

Wishing more Black women dated out

CBP Falls Church, VA I’m a white woman engaged to a black man, and I hate feeling like a stereotype. “Typical, another self-hating brotha stolen by a white woman” I imagine them thinking. I know the tide is turning and there are plenty of black women who don’t feel this way and/or date out. But […]

Waiting one to leave the store

John Doe San Francisco, CA I’m a large black man. I have issues leaving the store right behind women. I have had women obviously cross the street and change directions. I make sure their are no women directly in front of me as I leave the store; If their are I pretend to answer a […]

What’s worse: Black Man/White Woman?

KIRSTEN SCHOENLEBER SAINT PAUL, MN As a professional woman, I wonder about the differences between racism and misogyny. I have gone to meetings held at a country club. As I walked down a hall lined with pictures of past leaders, all white men, I wondered which would be more bothersome to them: me joining the […]

Your presence is upsetting other customers

Kristin Esty Bethlehem, NH I was raised in New England. I worked with a company doing business in the south. I went to a restaurant in a rural southern area, it doesn’t matter where now – really. I went with peers doing the same work as me. One however was a black man…I am a […]

I’m allowed to wear a hoodie.

Bethany Banner Kalamazoo, MI I realized this today when I walked out of the grocery store, into the rain, and pulled up my hood so that I wouldn’t get too wet while walking to my car. I’m a petite white woman; even with my hood pulled over my head, I’m not perceived as a potential […]

1619 to 2012 – not enough change!

Erin R. San Antonio, TX For too long I was unaware of my own racial privilege (as a white woman), but thanks to my graduate studies, my mentors, and my conversations with friends it is overwhelmingly apparent that slavery exists today in the US. To believe in a post-racial US is to ignore one’s own […]