Maggy Wolf, New Orleans, LA. Other than voting my liberal conscience and trying to be extra kind and generous to black people I meet in my daily life, I feel helpless to make any significant difference. How can one person help the poor, the disenfranchised, the under-educated escape from the cycle of poverty?
Nena Clark Rochester, MN I am an old, white woman. I work in the govt center and I see all kinds of folks there who probably aren’t having their best day. I try to be pleasant to everyone, but I make a point of being friendly toward young black men. I know that in my [...]
Brandi Schroeder, East Lansing, MI. I have a rather diverse group of friends, and the other day one made a comment about my origins. I grew up in a predominantly caucasian town where my high school held maybe 10 black students. My friend, who happens to be Somali, asked this question, and upon my answer [...]
Stephanie Siegmund Richmond, VA
Jackie Barclay USA Years ago, I had a run-in at a convenience store with a black woman who apparently hated me because I’m white. I didn’t know the woman and had never gone to that store before but she started calling me a huzz, a bitch, etc. Just when I was getting angry enough to [...]
Isabel “Scottie” Dalsimer Alexandria, VA It was a bright and sunny day in August 1963. I was 25 years old and just back from a two year assignment in West Africa. My household effects were arriving at my Washington apartment that afternoon, but I had time to go to the March on Washington beforehand. I [...]
Sylvia Anderson Albuquerque, NM Raised in Detroit, parents liberal, family on both sides of civil war. Grandfather said “The south likes the black man and hates the black race, north likes the black race and hates the black man. My six words relate to a trip south in 1963. I desperately needed a restroom and [...]
Jennifer DiBrienza Palo Alto, CA Growing up as a white woman, I never had to think very much about race. As an adult I have tried to better understand the experiences of others and I was shocked by how drastically different experiences of other Americans were. I have the luxury of not having to think [...]
Arianna Mariotti Seaside, CA I am white. I am a woman. I am part of the upper middle class. I grew up in Orange County, California. I am a student in college. I am discriminated against because I “have it easy.” But the fact of the matter is, I don’t see color or class or [...]
Jill T. Brooklyn, NY Though I keep hearing that as women we have common causes, common concerns, etc, I’ve learned that I should never count on white women as my allies. Color privilege trumps everything else therefore.
Sarah Brookner Minneapolis, MN I am a white female. I grew up in a wealthy suburb of Minneapolis. My students are mostly Somali, African American and Mexican American. They all have different needs. I care deeply about all of them. Some days are hard for me to connect and relate to their experiences, which are [...]
Joanne Pope Melish Wakefield, RI
McKenzie Messer Eugene, OR …In a hospital parking lot
Julia Chicago, IL I tried to post this last week but don’t see it. I hope it gets there this time. I listen to non-whites talk about how they are treated and I’ve been treated the same way. Since I am white, I think some of it is elitism. The elites think everyone who is [...]
I am a white woman married to a Mexican American.
CBP Falls Church, VA I’m a white woman engaged to a black man, and I hate feeling like a stereotype. “Typical, another self-hating brotha stolen by a white woman” I imagine them thinking. I know the tide is turning and there are plenty of black women who don’t feel this way and/or date out. But [...]
John Doe San Francisco, CA I’m a large black man. I have issues leaving the store right behind women. I have had women obviously cross the street and change directions. I make sure their are no women directly in front of me as I leave the store; If their are I pretend to answer a [...]
Meredith Christensen Katy, TX
KIRSTEN SCHOENLEBER SAINT PAUL, MN As a professional woman, I wonder about the differences between racism and misogyny. I have gone to meetings held at a country club. As I walked down a hall lined with pictures of past leaders, all white men, I wondered which would be more bothersome to them: me joining the [...]
Kristin Esty Bethlehem, NH I was raised in New England. I worked with a company doing business in the south. I went to a restaurant in a rural southern area, it doesn’t matter where now – really. I went with peers doing the same work as me. One however was a black man…I am a [...]
Margaret Davenport Vienna, VA This was said to me by a black male student in a high school program for disadvantaged but very bright, high potential students where I was academic adviser and counselor. It was said with a combination of dismay that there were few men or blacks working in this kind of program, [...]
Thomas Voracek College Park, MD University of Maryland My thought after accidentally rear-ending another car and watching the driver get out.
Bethany Banner Kalamazoo, MI I realized this today when I walked out of the grocery store, into the rain, and pulled up my hood so that I wouldn’t get too wet while walking to my car. I’m a petite white woman; even with my hood pulled over my head, I’m not perceived as a potential [...]
Erin R. San Antonio, TX For too long I was unaware of my own racial privilege (as a white woman), but thanks to my graduate studies, my mentors, and my conversations with friends it is overwhelmingly apparent that slavery exists today in the US. To believe in a post-racial US is to ignore one’s own [...]