what are you

“So, what are you?” they ask.

Karen Gephart Altschul, Vernon Hills, IL. I was five, the first time I can remember somebody asking me that question. “What are you? Chinese or something?” Huh? Um, what are you talking about? I’ve been asked this question, “what are you”, on the first day at a job. A girl from China asked me if […]


Where are you from? No, really

Michael Kenji Yamasaki, Rio Rancho, NM. OBSERVATIONS – Where are you from? No really … Where are you from? I can relate to Mr. Marc Quarles (African-American, with a German wife and two biracial children). There were times when I too have been asked, “Where are you from? No really where are you from?” However, […]

My wife calls me ethnically flexible.

Paul Kuck, Portland, OR. I could talk about this all day. Race, ethnicity, and ancestry fascinate me. The question of who I am has been with me since I can remember. When I was little, we lived near the reservation in South Dakota, and everyone thought I was Native. My sister who is pale, blue […]

Fake friends slandered my wife’s ethnicity.

Gary Kraemer Phoenix, Metro Area, AZ Two different former friends put up hate speech about people of my wife’s ethnicity on the internet. They were directly confronted, given an opportunity to make it right and choose not to. I broke off both friendships. They actually needed my friendship much more than I needed theirs.

Mixed Family all about love, always

Jeffery Sweet Kenosha, WI I am white and my wife is black. We have a son who is the most beautiful person in this world. I hope he grows up to understand that race isn’t an issue, just a fact of life and a reason to try harder to show people that look, I am […]


Married a white girl, now what??

Kyle Lim, Grand Rapids, MI. As a biracial individual, I learned early-on how to de-emphasize certain aspects of my racial identity depending on who I was around. When I met my wife Claire, we were both attending a predominantly white private college and although she knew that I was mixed, her experiences with me have […]

Chihuahua? Do you mean my wife?

Kristle Elise Siggson Fullerton, CA This was my husband’s response when an elderly gentleman was asking him how his chihuahua was doing after moving to a new city. It was eye opening for me to realize that after moving from a highly diverse area in greater Los Angeles where race was not as much part […]

FLEW through Security :) …husband stuck behind. :(

KB Louisville, KY I can’t count how many times I have been through airport security, worldwide, including dozens of times with my husband. I’m a white “girl next door” type. My husband is harder to peg (he has been “read” as Chinese, Okinawan, Thai, Indian, Arab and more, although he is from Mexico). Whenever we […]

My President is black, and white.

Kenneth L. Fisher Saint Michaels, MD My wife is white and I am black. I want my children to be Black AND white since they are. America loves labels, neat ways to categorize things. We have no problem celebrating and acknowledging an Irish-American person who has never been to Ireland but a child of mine […]

Where did you meet your wife?

Brian Comerford Aurora, CO I notice when many husbands are asked a similar question, the word “where” is substituted with “how”; my impression is that because I am a white Anglo male married to a Southeast Asian woman with a foreign accent, the question is actually front-loaded with curiosity about whether or not we were […]

Yes, they are my REAL kids

Paul David Binkley Delaware, OH My wife of twenty two years and I are interracially married, she black and myself white. Over our years together we have dealt with countless thoughtless comments and questions. Here is one such event recalled here to explain my six word story. A few years back, when our youngest still […]

I see color in every thing

Shanita Nelson Fort Wayne, IN I hate when people say they are colorblind…because then they are ignoring pieces of everyone. Please notice me is what I say when I hear those words. I am black, I am a teacher, I am a wife…do not ignore any parts of who I am!!!