Black but gay so it’s ok

Fred Wherry,
New York, NY.

An administrative assistant remarked to my (now ex) European partner: “When I first saw Fred I was a little scared of him. Then I found out he’s gay and your partner!” Somehow, if seen alone or if I appeared too “hard,” I was intimidating. By being “soft” I could disarm my detractors.


Tweets by Michele Norris