Michele Kacmarcik Savin
Wilmington, DE
When I listened to the report on Wednesday I ached for my daughter… whose birth mother, my husbands first wife, was adopted from Korea. She was teased on the bus as a first grader, and told to go back where she came from… which was Wilmington Delaware! I never imagined we would have to deal with that so early! She looks nothing like her blond haired blue eyed father who was raising her as a single dad when I met them. I have been mom since she was two, and legally adopted her. The assumptions people make are enormous… people would stop me in the grocery store to tell me all about their overseas adoption journeys… when we moved into our current home the neighbors thought my husband so wonderful to have married a single mom with an adopted daughter! But for her when I was pregnant with her brother she hoped for a baby that looked just like her… not possible as I am also blond haired and blue eyed. I look every day for similarities.. and love to point out things that are unique to the two of them .. and their father! The irony of course is that I worry about my white son too… he will be a minority when he grows up… and will also be judged… on history he did not contribute to.
