Last year I joined a group that focused on finding civil ways to improve the polarization in this country. We work on asking questions and listening first before sharing our own stories. I know there is a lot to learn about other people’s experiences, especially about race. So my goal going forward is to be more curious, more open to what people want to share, even if their message is painful to me. Allowing them to share their pain is the first step I an take in helping them heal.