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Can Anyone Believe I Love Everyone?

MG_1717Lisa Johnson,
Holden, MO.

I am, unfortunately, from very rural America. There was a short period in my life (approximately 1/4 of it) that was lived in larger areas where I got to know various people. My most favorite experiences were the multicultural atmosphere of the Modern Languages and Literatures Department of a college I worked at. There people were enthusiastic to celebrate our differences, learn about them and even share them.

I was astonished when I later joined the Navy and was told by someone that, as a person who had very little experience living around people different than me, I would not be able to ever be friends with anyone unlike myself because I was incapable of not being a racist. From a very young age, between songs in Sunday School (“Jesus Loves the Little Children,” anyone? “Everyone Is Beautiful?” “He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands?”) and “The Electric Company” and “Sesame Street,” it never occurred to me that the color of someone’s skin or the accent of someone’s language was so insurmountable of a barrier that I would choose to make assumptions about them without knowing who they were. It honestly never occurred to me.

Today we were listening to a religious program on the radio and the man teaching mentioned those with the gift of mercy, at which point my very merciful husband (oh, the irony) patted me on the head with teasing condescension. My heart breaks for any injustice, and I often wish for a magic wand or unlimited funds, because I really believe that the most invisible among us are those who deal with poverty, regardless of where they come from or anything else. It is a terrible trap and probably, in some ways, the continuing stagnation of the world economy is doing more to create racial tension, etc., than anything else, because when you are struggling, resentment seems to grow.

I keep hoping for the day when I, too, may actually not be judged by the color of my skin, the place I grew up, or what my parents’ choices might have been.

I carry hope through young musicians

Image-3Virginia Jones,
Danville, VA.

I’m a 54 year old white lady living back in the south after 15 years away from home. Its not the same everywhere. I’ve been an RN in central Phoenix, a wife of a Vietnam Veteran who was terribly discriminated by his own country and I’m a mother of a blonde haired blue eyed 28 year old female musician thats lived a little LA and now lives in Brooklyn. Her house reflects very determined strong women and men of all shapes, colors, backgrounds and musical interests; they intertwine theirs hearts, their talents and their respect for each other and their races. I am proudly all of their mothers at times and I love them all with all the protection and realness I can give them. America do the same for your young people! Listen … and they can now teach us something … about freedom. Listen to the music they are making together and feel the times turn. Believe in our kids!

“Mexican? Good joke, you’re clearly white.”

Alfredo Holguin
Ann Arbor, MI
Understanding Race Project- University of Michigan

Shorty Summary: I decided to choose these 6 words as my race card because this is something that I have heard A LOT since living in the US for the last 10 years of my life. Every time that I tell people that I am Mexican, they never believe me simply because I’m also white; something that to me is not that uncommon at all. I’m a 6th generation Mexican, my whole family is born and raised in Mexico, I was born and grew up in Mexico until the age of 10, I speak fluent Spanish, and for some reason people always question me when I tell them that I’m from Mexico and a proud Latino. Then they ask me to speak Spanish, so I do, and then they assume that I must be from Spain then because, to them, since I’m not dark-skinned then I can’t be Mexican. This is something that always annoys me when I have to deal with it, but now I’m not as surprised by it as I used to be. Hopefully one day people will be able to learn that there are many different types of Hispanics that just because they aren’t white doesn’t mean they are any less Hispanic, AND any less proud of it.

I believe in the hyphen!

3-Compressed (1)Roberto Jara,
Alto, MI.

It drives me nuts when people say, “Let’s all be color blind, forget our cultures of origin and just be ‘American,’ instead of ‘Latin-American,’ ‘Asian-American,’ etc. I can be American and preserve by culture of origin! Those of us who come from cultures other than the dominant Northern European Culture, have something to contribute to North America as our country evolves. Life would be boring without Chinese food, Salsa music, etc. I’m proud to be Mexican-American. My suspicious side suspects that when people say, “Let’s just all be American,” that they just want me to forget my culture and be absorbed into their dominant Northern European culture and story. The story needs to grow! My ancestors didn’t come across on the Mayflower, they waded across the river and I am not ashamed. I’m proud of what they have done to make this country better by not being absorbed into a melting pot, but making a wonderful stir-fry of people from all kinds of beautiful cultures living side by side and creating a whole better than the sum of the parts!

Don’t believe everything that you think

yourbeautifulJim Schultheiss,
St. Johns, MI.

I have always felt that I needed to be very careful and thoughtful on issues related to prejudice. Growing up in as a white, heterosexual male in a community largely lacking diversity, I learned I needed to listen very carefully to the thoughts and experiences of others and not impose my own assumptions or uninformed thoughts. I simply cannot place myself in their shoes and presume to know what that feels like, or how I would react faced with a prejudice I simply have not experienced.

I recently took a job teaching in a very ethnically diverse setting. As I work through recent events with my students, I continue to be reminded that I need to not rush to judgment, but really listen if I can even begin to presume to understand even a little bit.

I’m Black but NO-ONE believes me!

meKristi Webber
Las Vegas, NV

Growing up, there were several clues and incidents which occurred over the years which hinted at some sort of non-European ancestry in my mother’s background, and which would eventually lead to me pursuing her family’s ethnic roots. I had heard vague rumors of “Cherokee” blood but had long ago dismissed that notion and had instead zeroed in on black ancestry as being the likely choice, due to various factors, but mainly because my maternal grandmother’s family was rooted in the Danish West Indies, as she was born and lived until her late teens on the island of St. Croix, USVI. So when I unearthed the 1940 US Census Record entry for my grandmother, her parents and siblings, and her maternal grandfather, I wasn’t really surprised by what was listed for them in the Race category: Grandma, her mother and her siblings were all either “Mulatto” or “Mixed”; her Danish father was “White” of course, and her grandfather was listed under “Negro”. DNA testing has confirmed my genetic ethnicity as being from within a range of up to approximately 12% African, but no less than 5%. This pretty much fits in with my mother (who is very dark skinned) being up to 25% black herself, and reveals Grandma was up to half black–and no one in my family knew it! After coming to America as a teenager, to a country where no one knew her or her brother and sister, they all were able to “pass” as white due to the extremely “white” genes inherited from their Danish father. If the three children born to Grandma, my mother was the darkest complected. But she married my father, a redhead, and I was born pink skinned, blue eyed and white-haired. That hasn’t changed much, but my racial identity has. Even if no one believes me when I say I am “mixed”, I continue to proudly identify myself as being from both “black” and “white” ethnic origins.

I believe in the melting pot.

Dustin F. Hecker,
Needham, MA.

Identity politics will be the death of the grand American National experiment. In my humble opinion, we need to stop focusing on the 2% of our DNA that makes us look different than others and focus on the 98% of our DNA that makes us really quite similar. That does not mean we should ignore race or racial prejudice, when it exists. But we must learn to define ourselves as something other than the skin color, or gender, or ethnicity with which we were born. The content of one’s character, I thought, matters much more.

Believe it or not, I’m white.

Austa H.,
Sandy, UT.

I got my dark hair, skin and eyes from my father’s Italian side of the family. However, I’m a gigantic mix of nearly every European nationality, making me much more Caucasian than Italian.

Because of my overall brown-ness, I’ve been fortunate enough to personally see both sides of the “white privilege” coin. I’ve been called Asian, Mexican, Indian and even Filipino. I’ve had colleagues suggest that it should be easier for me to get into college, than for them, because of “that affirmative action business.”
People have suggested to my mother that I apply for certain scholarships, “because she’s Mexican, so I’m sure there’s something she could qualify for, for that.”

It’s all been very interesting, but it’s never offended me. I just think it’s completely silly to assume that you know someone’s “race” just by looking at the color of their skin.
Don’t make any assumptions regarding someone’s heritage. It’s likely that you’re wrong, and not only does it make for some awkward situations, it makes you look stupid.

Colorblind? How can you believe that?

Alec Malstrom
Ann Arbor, MI

I chose these words based on an interaction I had with a close friend who believed social justice work isn’t necessary anymore because racism doesn’t exist in our society. I was so taken aback that I didn’t even know how to respond to him. As I come to think about race more and more, this interaction continues to come to mind. It is the first thing that I think about when I consider what White Privilege is. And it has forced me to reflect more on other ways white privilege permeates my life, much like the race card project was designed to do.

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