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Gifted Black Girl’s Road Less Traveled

Giji Mischel Dennard,
Burtonsville, MD

While my cross-culture world view likely has been shaped by my early exposure to people with ethnicities different from my own, I can’t help but believe that by divine design I was wired for this often “road less traveled” life journey. As far back as 3rd grade, other Black kids called me names like “Black cracker,” due to my speech pattern…primarily the result of growing up in a family of educators. It didn’t help that from 3rd through 5th grades, I was the only Black child in the gifted program. Many of my other friends in this group were first-generation Americans, whose parents were from Cuba, Syria, Sicily, Lebanon and Canada. Until tenth grade or so–separated by relocation–my best friend was Jewish and hers was the only house of non-family members where I could spend the night. I was surrounded by affluence, but lived on the other side of the track. In 9th grade, I attended a prep school where I was the only Black kid in the entire school. But I was raised in Florida and experienced some violent racist encounters between 7th grade and my senior year in high school. I’ve dated guys from Lebanon, Haiti, Palestine, the Ivory Coast, Tonga, the Bahamas and a few African-Americans in-between. When I went to grad school at Stanford Law School, I often was asked how I was “adjusting” having gone to Howard University undergrad. The truth was Stanford was what I knew and Howard was quite a culture shock. Not many of my undergraduate peers had studied, Latin and classical Greek and I was the only one who went all the way through 3rd-year Russian. All these years later, I still often find myself a minority within a minority. I’m a conservative African-American with strong messianic Jewish leanings. I often find I am drawn to and most embraced by others, like me, who lead cross-cultural lives. While my race is a core part of my identity, it has much less influence on what defines me.

Mom, will I turn brown now?

Asheley Woodruff
Burtonsville, MD

My family recently moved from Idaho to Maryland. For the first time, my children were immersed in a racially diverse population. I realized, quickly, that my children did not understand that the United States is not a white country with a few Black, Hispanic, Asian people living in it. Furthermore, we live in an area where being white puts us in the minority category. The change from majority to minority, I think, is felt the most by my children who now ask questions I had never anticipated in a million years. Questions like “why is her skin so dark?”, “Is Maryland full of brown people?”, and “Mom, will I turn brown now?” The questions are awkward for me because they are usually blurted out in public and I find myself afraid of what other people might be thinking. However, I also understand that it’s not the questions I need to worry about, but my answers. How I respond will frame my children’s understanding of diversity for years to come. My hope is that, while we are living here, my children will stop noticing the color differences and somehow understand that America is a complex country of many people. Then maybe they will return to loudly asking me other awkward questions like “why doesn’t that man pull up his pants?”

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