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“Brains, beauty, curves — envied, judged, fetishized.”

Cornelia Amoussou,
Des Moines, IA

I chose these six words because they capture how my identity as a Black woman is often reduced to stereotypes. Growing up as a first-generation American with Togolese parents, I experienced the weight of others’ assumptions early on. My body was judged and sexualized before I even understood what that meant. Friends envied me, strangers stared at me, and men fetishized me, leaving me to question my worth beyond appearance. These words highlight how race, gender, and body image intersect to create a complicated reality, one where intelligence, strength, and heritage can be overshadowed by objectification and judgment. People always talk about pretty privilege, which does exist, and I know a lot of people deal with the opposite. Sure, I was liked by lots of guys. But people rarely address the dark side of pretty privilege. People always want it all, but let me tell you: being smart, pretty, strong, and Black is hard, and you have to be truly mentally strong to deal with all of the judgment, stares, and everything that comes with it. I am now determined not to judge or envy others without knowing the person inside. I’m still judged, but I’ve learned how to manage it. Those experiences left scars and trust issues, but they also shaped my resilience, independence, and empathy. I fight to protect other girls from the same pain. This card is my reclamation: I am more than envy, judgment, or objectification. I am intelligent. I am strong. I am whole. I am proud of my heritage, my body, my mind, and my voice.

School that introduced me to The Race Card Project: DMACC or Des Moines Area Community College.

I Really Love Who You Are

Alexandra Zaver,
Des Moines, IA

I chose this particular sentence because while I understand that race and ethnicity are sensitive and intense topics, I want to genuinely recognize the love and celebration I have for others and how I believe that has made me a better person. In embracing other cultures and getting to know other individuals unlike myself, I have grown beyond words and experienced opportunities I wouldn’t have had I stayed within the circle of other people who walk and talk just as I do.

Des Moines Area Community College

Black, but I do White activities

Ke Se,
Des Moines, IA

Black, but I do white activities

There are so many people who can relate to this sentence. Whether you are Mexican and like black music, whether you are White and love the Asian culture. Or being black and doing activities that are more common to white people, such as myself. Growing up there were television shows that labeled white people activities, such as Jack A**.

Growing up in Chicago, IL, I was different than my surroundings for sure. Panic At the Disco “I write sins not tragedies” was the first “weird” song I had on repeat. I loved listening to Pink and Christina Aguilera, but the rest of the household did not like nor understand the way it sounded. Fishing and hiking caught my attention in the Girl Scouts, but it was not a regular activity for my neighborhood. Now, I am living in Iowa, and I go to DMACC. It has given me the opportunity to do common ‘white people activities’ with no judgement. I love to fish and listen to pop music in the car. Going to country concerts has become a yearly tradition, leaving me in suspense for who will perform the following year. This does not mean I do not look forward to hip hop artist coming to little old Des Moines, IA. These ‘white people activities’ are nothing more than a preference every person is entitled to have or experience, if they so choose. Going through scrutiny for my music preference as a child should not have been an identity battle. People should not have to look in the mirror and question if they belong in the skin, they’re in based on the limited opportunities their community has to offer. This world is full of alternative lifestyles, and I am happy to experience all of it. This is a part of my identity now. These are descriptions I can say when someone asks, “what makes you, you?” There are no longer limitations on myself based on what is socially acceptable in my community. And I am proud of that.

My Speech Doesn’t Define My Skin

Ari Wiggins,
Des Moines (DMACC), IA

I chose this phrase because throughout my childhood and adulthood I am asked often about the way I talk. Most common questions are… “Why you talk so proper?” , “Why do you speak like a white person,” “Were you adopted by a white family or are you half white?”. I would like to express to society that not all African-Americans talk with slang or have an ignorant speech. I as an African-American young woman can have an proper and educated speech and be a stereotype.

I was the only white teacher…

Alena,
Des Moines, IA.

I was the only white teacher in the City of Little Rock Early Childhood Center, a school partnered with Little Rock School District that hired certified teachers and had a great full-day program for young, inner-city 3 1/2-5 year old students from “the projects.” Many of my young charges had no previous direct contact with people like me, but they soon got used to and welcomed the morning greeting hugs and departing hugs that were routine for my class. These kids brought joy and meaning to my life. Everything went smoothly until we began focusing on a new unit on the family. One day I received an irate, loud phone call from my director, who began yelling at me about how parents had complained that I had pictures of white people all over the classroom, and how inappropriate that was. She sent her assistant over to view the pictures I had, presumably to gain documentation of my inappropriateness. Yes, there were pictures of white people, but they were only of my own family. I never received an apology from her, but then I also did not get written up after all. It still shocked me that my supervisor made assumptions without first checking out the facts. The yelling phone call had shaken me to the core.

I taught there for three years. I held parent workshops that went well. The school district recruited me for a full time teaching position because I became a model teacher on how to get young preschoolers operating at higher levels of thinking, something that they had previously believed was not possible at a young age. I accepted their offer because it paid much more than I was earning, and I also wanted to stretch myself with the challenge of teaching inner city 6th graders. However, when I began to prepare to leave the Early Childhood Center, my director sent her security guard over to make sure that I didn’t take anything that was “theirs” with me. Oddly, no other teacher had that experience when they left. Even more strange, and heartbreaking to me, was that they deemed all of the hand-made displays that I had made, two closets full, as theirs because I had laminated them with their machine. I therefore was forced to leave without all my themed and seasonal displays.

Even though these (and other incidents) were negative experiences, they were so good, too. It was good to experience unfair treatment, as it gave me just a taste of how Black teachers can be treated in a predominantly White environment – how people can make assumptions based on race. It was a lesson worth learning. This took off at least some of my own culturally-induced blinders and hopefully made me a tad bit more understanding and more sensitive.

What beautiful children! Are they yours?

not the nannyKate Lechtenberg,
Des Moines, IA.

The statement is spoken as a compliment, and the question is asked with genuine curiosity and is often followed with qualifications: “I mean, are you their real mother? Their birth mother?” Together, these six words set off essays in my mind, essays full of my own questions, frustrations, challenges, and poems. But the simple answer is a smile and a word: yes.

Weaponized white shame alienates poor whites

Harris Marvin,
Des Moines, IA

The BLM movements members need to differentiate between lawmakers who code racism into law and poor white people in the hood who have to work just as hard to survive. I’ve been harassed and threatened frequently at work because I am white but I am racist trash forever saying anything about it, and this has been going on long before George Floyd.

No English. Standardized assessment. No chance.

Katrina
Des Moines, IA

As an ELL teacher, this came from when I had to give a student who was new to the country from Vietnam an annual standardized assessment. She hardly new English, had been in the country for less than two weeks yet she was still required to take a standardized assessment in English. I felt terrible!

NOTE: English Language Learner (ELL) Teacher

Black youth obligated to be intimidating

Brent Hixson
Des Moines, IA

Why is our culture so tied up in image? For a young Black or Latino to walk into a store with hood down and face fully exposed is perceived as weak. Actions must always portray power, in charge and make others around them uncomfortable and then ask the question why are you so suspicious of me, racist?

Constant awareness is difficult but necessary

Mark Reiter
Drake University
Des Moines, IA

I grew up in a very white Catholic community. I always understood that there was more to the world then what was in my community growing up, but there’s no way I could have anticipated just how different everyone’s backgrounds could be. It’s hard to always be aware and sensitive of the differences of others but it is something that I try to remind myself of throughout every day.

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