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White baby in the black projects.

Jamie Bishop,
Florence, MA.

I am a bastard child conceived in the back seat of a Chevrolet in 1965. When I was born, I was sent to an orphanage. I don’t know what all happened, but my grandfather, (Daddy, or Mr. Bishop) had strong feelings about family duty, and five days later, against my grandmother’s will, he went and got me. From what I understand, since Daddy was the one that insisted that I be kept, my grandmother insisted that I be his full responsibility. They adopted me, and my mother became my sister; the mystery of the details surrounding my adoption is a story for another time.

I don’t know a whole lot about my grandparents. They didn’t talk about their families or their lives very much. Most of what I know is very basic or learned second hand. I do know that you can’t be any more native Texan than my families and still be white. My ancesters were the first white people to settle Texas. My grandparents’ parents were farmers who grew cotton and raised cattle with the aid of share croppers. My grandparents were both born in North East Texas in 1917. Daddy was born in Krum; my grandmother was born in Prosper. They each had 7 siblings. They met in Denton, married in Oklahoma, lived in Denton for a while, then moved to Dallas sometime in the 1940’s.

Daddy enlisted in the army during WWII, and became a seargent in the motor pool stationed in the Phillipines. When he came back to Dallas he landed a contract with Ezell Randall, owner of Terminal Taxicab Company. Randall was one of the first successful black business men in Dallas. Daddy set up Bishop’s Auto Repair down on Munger Ave. across the street from the black projects where many of the taxi drivers lived. Down at the cab stand and all over the black part of town, he was known as Mr. Bishop. He was often the only white man in sight. Terminal Taxi grew to be the largest cab company in Dallas with a fleet of about 950 cabs by the mid 1980s. Bishop’s Auto Repair painted, equipped, and serviced every single one of them for 45 years.

For the first five years of my life, Daddy, the cab drivers, and their families were my primary caregivers. I was known down at the cab stand and in the projects as Little Bishop. My playpen was constructed of three tractor tires piled one on top of the other, and placed in the shade near the engine hoist and tire machine. I spent the majority of those five years happily playing in grease and dirt with taxicab meters, auto parts, and tools. I went to a local preschool. I loved loving and being loved to pieces by the cab drivers and their families down in the projects. I was happy and safe there. Those first five years were the closest I ever came to being nurtured. It all came to an end when I was five.

In spite of the situation, my grandparents were racists. My grandmother thought I was picking up bad habits in the projects, so she decided I should go to kindergarten at a fine private school in North Dallas. All of a sudden, I was thrust into a class conscious, wealthy white culture. I had no context, no social map, and I certainly didn’t have the proper clothes (I remember very clearly the importance of not owning a pair of Tretorn tennis shoes). Daddy, the shop, the taxi drivers, their families, and the projects were gone. Little Bishop got very lost, and she’s never managed to find her way back home.

Inclusiveness can be scary. Segregation’s scarier.

segregationCorinne R.,
Florence, AL.

All the time I talk to people who are terrified by the “worst case scenarios” of reaching across racial, religious, and other cultural divides. And I do understand–multiculturalism involves an element of risk, just like LOVE involves risk. But I believe that taking those risks–bridging those gaps–is our only hope for a better world. The suggestion that we not bother trying–now, THAT’S what truly terrifies me.

Are both your parents from Cuba?

BlondeBarbara Rodriguez,
Florence, SC.

Yes, they both are Cuban. The look of shock never ceases to amaze me. Is it because I’m blonde and have green eyes…yes! Is it because of where I live…yes! Growing up in New York, everyone I knew could tell me about their heritage. My neighborhood was a perfect melting pot – Italian, Jewish, Filipino, African-American, Irish, Indian and German families all on one street. It was a blessing to learn about the customs, culture and food of all my childhood friends.

Then after high school, I moved to Miami. I went from being a Latino minority to the Cuban majority. No one asked me where I was from, strangers addressed me in Spanish even though I look very “White”.

After graduating college, I moved to Georgia to work as a journalist and here, in the “South” is where all of a sudden my race became a big topic of conversation. I worked as a news reporter for a television station in a very small city. My first week of work, I received a phone call from a viewer who asked if “I was married to a Mexican”, since my last name is Rodriguez. I carefully explained that I was not married and that I was Cuban. That surprised him even more! The question “Are both of your parents Cuban?” quickly became the norm. I even created a quick explanation about my blonde hair and green eyes. Well, “My great grandmother is Irish, she married my great grandfather in Spain and my grandfather moved to Cuba.” And that seemed to appease their curiosity. In Miami and New York, it was not odd to see a blonde Hispanic person but in the South, apparently it was quite rare. I also quickly learned that a lot of Southerners didn’t really know what country their descendants came from. Their culture is “Southern”, not Scottish or Irish, a big difference from New York where just about every culture has a pride parade.

My appearance does give me a sort of disguise and I unfortunately over hear conversations in both English and Spanish which are racial and not morally or politically correct. People seem to forget that I am a minority because I don’t look like one. I hope that meeting the blonde Barbara Rodriguez can only open their hearts and minds, even if just a little bit.

My natural hair looks like this.

Sherhonda
Florence, AL

As a child, every time a white girl touched my hair, she had something derogatory to say about how my hair felt to her fingers. Those experiences didn’t end with adulthood. I was a career professional at a university in Huntsville, Alabama, when a coworker asked to touch my hair. My hair was chemically relaxed, hung to my shoulders and had cascading curls that, to me, were soft, the way curls should be, according to everything I had ever read about beautiful hair. She rolled my hair between her fingers, looked surprised, and said “Huh. It feels like straw.” and turned abruptly and walked out of my office. I knew she was embarrassed by her comment. She obviously expected my hair to feel as silky as hers. I expected my hair to feel silky. But her comments took me back to my childhood and the playground where all those white girls deliberately looked at my braids, tossed their hair and mocked that my hair couldn’t flow through my fingers. All my life, straight hair defined whether I could consider myself beautiful, not just in the white race, but among African-American friends and family who also were conditioned to like straightened hair over natural hair. The first time I saw Tracy Chapman on television, I marveled at her hair. She was beautiful. But barely had the thought entered my head when I heard a comment from someone sitting near me who wondered out loud what doesn’t she do something about her hair? When I HAD to go natural several years ago because my scalp revolted to all the chemicals, I cringed, knowing any feelings of beauty were over for me because my hair would be straightened. Since going natural, it has been quite a self-education journey. At first I was so angry my scalp was turning against me. I struggled to feel even remotely attractive. Truth is, I still struggle, but now I play with my hair just to see how it will look with this twist, or not, with this up-sweep, or not, and how quickly, or how long different styles take to achieve. It has been difficult to erase a definition of beautiful hair that’s been a part of my world for 50 years, even if I never understood the definition to begin with. Our society still is too bogged down in “good hair” “bad hair.” comparisons. There are hundreds of websites and YouTube videos telling us natural is beautiful – I’m so thankful that I went natural in this technological age because there was plenty of support online. Online had to teach me how to deal with the hair growing out of my head — it’s something I should already be intimately familiar with but chemicals and flatirons kept it disguised so I would be acceptable and beautiful. Until mainstream television, magazines and music videos depict the same message, we’re doomed to continue to define our hair as beautiful only if it is straight feels acceptable beneath a stranger’s fingers.

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