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Cannot White Males Change Discrimination?

Richard Holmes,
Durham, NC

As racism and hate-crimes have proliferated and reversed so much progress in the last few years, I despise that the haters are overwhelmingly the same race and gender as me — white males. This is especially pronounced here in the south. Those who are harmed are rightfully fighting their treatment and seeking a better future, but those of us who have always enjoyed white privilege, not to mention male privilege, perhaps have a greater power to change our demographic to be more humane and rational. I have searched and failed to find the right opportunity or organization targeting the real cause of the problem — my own demographic. Help?

Stealth lesbian: not what you expected.

Janice Vassar,
Champlin, MN

I often get comments like “You don’t look lesbian/gay”. My response is that I’m a “stealth lesbian”. People assume that I’m heterosexual. I make it a point to be very out at work. The thing about coming out is that it is endless; I have to come out to people all the time. It’s important that I come out because LBGTQ people come in all shapes, sizes, colors and gender expressions.

More Than Just a White Male

Rylan A Brooks,
Mount Joy, PA

I have never been discriminated against in my life, based on my skin color and my gender. I have seen discrimination first hand on many occasions, once towards one of my best friends. The level of anger I felt was indescribable. I was raised in a household where everyone is equal, where no one person is better than another, and I greatly appreciate that. No one person should be faced with discrimination based on their skin color, based on what gender they assume, or their financial status. The fact that this is still rife in today’s society is completely unfathomable.

Veil, black, nationality, gender, food, proper names

veilAsmaa Benbaba,
Auburn, AL.

In more instances than one, the veil is considered as a symbol of subservience and exclusion by western media. As a result, a lot of people reproduce the same thoughts and behavior towards those women who choose the veil as an identity and refuse to think critically of the socio-cultural and historical milieu that the veil represents.

I AM NO BETTER THAN ANYONE

headshotGraham Davis,
Malvern, PA.

I am a white Anglo-Saxon protestant male. I am 5’4 with dirty-blond hair. I am a heterosexual. I am no better than anyone. I was created an equal to you. I will die an equal to you. I am proud of my heritage, but it does not define me. I should have no advantage over others because of gender or race. My ancestors should contribute nothing more to me than genetic material. I am my own person. I can make my own decisions and decide my own opinions just like every other human being on this planet should be able to do because just like me each and every one of you is not defined by history or the majority but by yourself. We are individuals. Not a minority or majority.

We All Deserve Better Than This

Matthew Wisotsky,
Wayne State,
Detroit, MI

It’s 2018. LEADERSHIP is failing us. WE are failing us. We’re still going to war oversees and in our own streets over things that we’ve already gone to war for oversees and in our own streets. The nightly news highlights our setbacks. Leaving the last 30 seconds of the telecast to show that there is still good in the world. I’m embarrassed by my race. I’m embarrassed by my gender. I’m embarrassed that I’m not doing more. The bad should not outweigh the good.

We deserve better than this.
I will do better.

White privilege makes me feel sickened.

Jaime Misky,
Milwaukee, WI

I chose these six words because they have been a harsh reality I have learned as I grew up. From K4-5th grade, I went to a school in which I was very much a minority. Though many teachers were white and there were classmates who shared the same skin color, most of my peers did not look like me. However, this is not something I ever really thought about. I did not see color. My classmates were my friends. We played together at recess, shared stories and secrets, braided each other’s hair, jumped rope, held hands, and simply loved one another for the people we were. The best part was having the opportunity to experience these changes together. The following years brought significant learning curves from every side. We shared tough conversations that were ultimately life-altering. Through talking to one another we learned about each other’s cultures, the foods our mom’s like to cook, our different religions, the injustice blacks face in America especially, all spectrums of racism, white privilege, and more. We learned respect. In finally acknowledging our differences, and learning our common ground, we better understood one another and could more fluidly look past those differences to the people we knew before the prejudices of the world came crashing down on us.

I learned that it is important to see color and to recognize my own privilege; it is my duty to use my advantage to reach out a hand and help and be a voice for those who do not share my privilege. I learned to be confident in my beliefs, and to be unafraid to stand up for myself, others, and those beliefs. I learned a greater respect for every human being, no matter what. My high school experience at an all girls Catholic school brought many challenges, especially in regards to race and how far I was willing to go to stand up for my beliefs and the people I loved. This environment was drastically different, as I was one of many white people who looked a lot like me, and very few young women of color. I was now walking the halls, talking to, and becoming friends with girls who I knew varied in perception of the world, as they had had a different upbringing than I had had. I knew many of these girls were very well off and many held conservative and more traditional views. Through many experiences over the past four years, I have learned more than ever to respectfully have a conversation with someone who is drastically different than I am regarding politics, race, religion, gender, sex, money, and other controversial topics. There were many times I overheard or was directly targeted with negative dialogue regarding these issues. It was a significant reality check of just how privileged white people feel they are in this world, and how institutionally and ingrained in every part of life in America, white privilege is. My six word essay means exactly what it states: white privilege makes me sick. It is a part of life I wish I could erase and make it so that all people, no matter what, had equal opportunities and chances in having a successful life in the United States. I am hopeful, but apprehensive. I want to live out the ever-cliché concept of being the change I wish to see in the world; however, I know it is not simply as easy as that. I will, however, do everything in my power to make the world a more equal place. I will continue to evolve, as I continue my education in and outside the classroom. Though I am aware of the hatred this world can hold, I also see its beauty, unity, and hope. Maybe someday, white privilege will be nonexistent. I sure hope so.

Identity is the root of suffering

Scotty,
Detroit, MI.

Race is real. Sometimes, it is also necessary to play the role we are born into. Most of the time, however, we don’t need to look at the world through a racial lens. This causes judgement and suffering because of who we take ourselves to be. What you see, you cannot be. “My race, my gender, my sexuality, etc.” Who is the witness of all identity? Look for yourself. See what remains.

Belonging nowhere, I inhabit all spaces

Anthony Chicaiza,
Belleville, NJ.

Collection: The Race Card Project, On Location, Hood Museum of Art, Witness

I’m a first-generation Latino-American stuck between cultures and expectations of masculinity and gender on both sides. Which do I present today?

White Male, Can’t Talk About Anything

Joseph Palmieri,
Framingham, MA.

As a white male, I feel like I have been subject to a sort of stigma just like people of other races and genders have. Some may think that white men are relieved from a form of discrimination, but this is not the case. I have been told multiple times that I was not allowed to participate in a conversation regarding race because “I’m white and wouldn’t know anything about it”, or a debate about gender because “I’m a man and wouldn’t understand”. Many people, mostly of other races and genders, have a sort of stigma that white men have never had anything wrong done to them in history as a people, and therefore would know nothing about suffering or hardship. This obviously is untrue, but many people feel that white people should never have anything to complain about because they have not been historically oppressed, which is obviously false. Another stigma I encounter frequently is my gender. Despite having a very high rate of death in combat, suicide, and work-related injuries compared to women, as well as a very skewed custody percentage (women almost always get the children in the case of a divorce), men are seen has having no problems and being the only ones who can oppress others, ignoring the fact that around 50% of rapes are committed by women. Men have had a historical responsibility of being in control and powerful, two hallmarks of oppression, so when men are oppressed they are typically laughed at, rather than empathized with. This stigma against white men isn’t one that should exist, because no stigmas against any races or genders should exist.

I’m a white male; I’m unwanted.

Anonymous,
Purcellville, VA.

Living in a world where quotas of minorities must be accepted into major institutions, being a white male becomes a disadvantage. If I am paired against a minority of same academic and extracurricular achievements as me, I will most likely be brushed aside. I believe the only true way to make things fair is for applications to be blind to race, gender and age, only by making race no longer an issue will we truly reach equality.

Focus on me, not my appearance

Shelby,
Sunnyvale, CA.

Too many people in this world focus on how we look when we should be focused on our character and our personality. We are too fascinated with our physical appearance when we should be fascinated with our words, our actions and our intelligence. Those are the things that should truly define who we are. Race, gender, social class, and social class should not define who we are and should not dictate our relationships with people. The idea of race was created by society and too many times has it caused wars and senseless acts of violence both physically psychologically. It’s time to stop looking at each other’s physical traits and start seeing what’s on the inside. We are all people and we are all living among each other. Why can’t we do it in peace?

WHITE feminism. I live with contradiction.

Danielle Nelson
Winston Salem, NC

I’m proud to be a feminist, but I’m not proud of the unspoken privilege that comes with being a white feminist. Fighting privilege with privilege? It’s so contradictory, yet I cannot ignore both these parts of my identity. WHITENESS consumes me every day, every minute, but because it’s so ingrained in society, I sometimes fail to see it. The never ending battle…race and gender, gender and race. Inseparable, but yet such a complex, complicated narrative…..

A closed mind is most dangerous.

LyncRhonda Lynn,
Crowley, TX.

When we are unwilling to approach life with an open mind, we leave room for hate to fester and grow. With an open mind, we bring the willingness necessary to hear the other voice, learn the other experience, and try to understand the other perspective. Each of us has been allowed a set of experiences that shape us. If we keep that in mind with everyone, no matter the race, gender, religion, ethnicity, national origin, or sexual orientation, maybe we can pause long enough to hear and to understand, and to stop thinking that our own perspective is the ‘correct’ one.

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