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Lie. Pretend to be “less Black”

John-Paris-DinnerAnonymous,
USA.

Someone, maybe many people, in my family took on the persona of mixed race Black/Native Americans so they could be, what? Less Black? I don’t know if it was my father’s generation, or his father’s, or even farther back. I grew up thinking I was Indian and consequently less connected to my Black friends and family. All because someone in generations past thought it would be best to create a lie for their family than make them live in what they knew as the pain of truth. Now I am deconstructing my own story as I try to create a true and strong narrative for my children.

The young are not naturally prejudiced.

Photo-on-9-19-14-at-8.15-AM1Adam Jones,
Chaska, MN.

I am a para in a special education class, and the high school in which I work is very diverse. The longer I work in this field, the more I have come to see that kids are kids. People are people. I am frustrated, elated, encouraged, concerned, and inspired by all of them, irrespective of their race. But what I appreciate most is that THEY taught me to see them this way, because so many of them see the world this way themselves. There is hope, and it lies in time and the future generations to come.

Race is nothing. Family is everything.

Sheli Turner,
Los Angeles, CA

While I am now a biracial 62 year old woman, who bore living witness to the difficulties my parents had in this country due to their marriage, this means less and less to my sons who are now marrying, and will also have mixed-race children by default. What “race” will these children be as their Black DNA is further mixed with other wonderful characteristics reflective of their mothers? My grandchildren will still be wonderfully human, just like me. And I will carry their legacy, just as my grandmothers and grandfathers did for me. They will always be able to claim their heritage with love and great pride.

White supremacy I win needs dismantiling

Ken Woodward,
Germantown, MD

I’m a 49-year-old white male. I have primarily lived oblivious to the pervasiveness of white supremacy and mostly denied its existence. I raised a mixed race step-grandson from a 4 months old to now 24 years old.

Two years ago I started my journey into understanding the world of People of Color. Reading/listening to diverse authors, listening to different podcasts and asking people who look different than me about their lived experience.

This journey has upended my understanding of my American history, its venerable heroes, and the recognition the racial disparity, we encounter today, has been systematically built to benefit a particular group. I am this group.

During a trip home from North Carolina this week, I had to take a detour off I-95 after crossing into Virginia. I passed the remnants of a cotton crop on the edge of a field. All I could think of is the suffering this fluffy fruit delivered upon so many people; slave, master, and country. I then returned to the highway only to be welcomed by a horribly majestic Confederate flag billowing in the wind. Jefferson Davis said, “My pride is that that flag shall not set between contending brothers; and that, when it shall no longer be the common flag of the country, it shall be folded up and laid away like a vesture no longer used.”

The white man says, “what race problem, look how far we have come.” The black man says, “there is a race problem, see how far we have to go.”

Last month was the 400th anniversary of the arrival of the first slave in America. We continue to pay the price for how this horrific practice shapes our thinking and policies.

I have benefitted from this history and want to do what I can to dismantle the very structures that have given me this privilege. I never owned a slave, but I still reap the rewards of that system. Without shaming my white brothers and sisters, let’s work to give our children’s generation the gift of true equality.

Change hurts, but not changing hurts for generations.

White Privilege doesn’t exist for me

Justin Banks,
Mission Viejo, CA.

I was born into an average middle class family that is dominantly white. I know that my father was born into a working class family where my grandfather worked a number of odd jobs but mostly was a handyman for most his life. My dad was the first in his family to go to college and made his living through years of hard work to become a successful business owner. I will probably be traveling the same path with little to no handouts from him. I am not from a family with generations of wealth and wasn’t born with a path to success already cut out for me.

Race: A tightly tangled, knotted business

Catherine House
Philadelphia, PA

Racism is a terrible, complicated knot that some have tried to improve through generations. Abolitionists and the four civil rights workers killed in MS gave their lives. Other people cling to old ideas even today. The overwhelming apathetic majority contributes nothing. Somewhere in the huge knotted mess a new cottage industry was created. Middle class, educated women of color who appeal to liberal white guilt and make themselves the recipients of sizable conscious-clearing donations. Then I think of the poorest, least educated families of color struggling to make ends meet while raising their children. How are these families being helped by their middle class, educated counterparts accepting donations on their behalf?
It is all part of the huge knot that gets tighter and harder to untangle.

Passing down prejudices tragically survives generations

Ann Elizabeth Hemphill
Quartz Hill, CA

Born in ’46 in Midwest, visiting with relatives in Florida each year, adult years in California. From my early childhood to present, I’ve witnessed the persistence of racial prejudice passed on through the generations. I’m reciting 5 generations, from my grandparent’s to today’s youth. I spend time instructing teens, where, unsolicited, the issue surfaces more frequently than I’d have expected. These views are alive and well, a tradition we carry on into history.

Will there be seven more generations?

Dawn Walschinski
Green Bay, WI

I am a citizen of the Oneida Tribe of Indians of Wisconsin. As part of the Iroquois Confederacy, one of our philosophies is to plan seven generations ahead. Right now we are facing a potential enrollment crisis where we won’t have Oneidas with at least 1/4 blood quantum to qualify for enrollment in the near future.

Wouldn’t’ve been white 100 years ago.

Kevin Tierney
Italy

Nonnie was born in Italy and moved to the USA, 14 years old and a newlywed. Three generations later, I was born in the USA and now live in Italy. Nonnie wasn’t considered white when she moved to Brooklyn, but she was when she died 80 years later. I declare myself to be Italian-Irish-French-German-English American, and of course African, if we trace back far enough.

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