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A Cajun Girl in her Kilt

Michelle Blanchard Ardillo,
Rockville, MD.

A Cajun girl in her kilt, that’s me. My dad was born and raised in southeast Louisiana, as was I, but my mother was born to Scottish immigrants who came to the US for economic and religious freedom. Upon marrying my father, however, she abandoned her Scottish heritage and adopted my father’s culture, cuisine and customs. For example, although she grew up with oatmeal every morning, she never had it again after she married my father, switching to grits, the hot cereal of Louisiana. It wasn’t until one of my mother’s first cousins starting visiting us from Glasgow, Scotland, (after her retirement and the passing of her own mother) did I come to understand my Scottish heritage. My image of myself shifted. Was I just my father’s daughter? Was my mother’s past inside of me as well?
When I first visited Scotland in 2000, I felt like I had “come home”. The highlands and the lowlands; the heather, the thistles, and bluebells; the shortbread and the never-ending cuppa tea; the heavy accents; they all tugged and tugged at my heart. Now, I consider myself a series of contradictions: Community Coffee in the morning and black tea in the evening, gumbo for lunch and scones in the afternoon, Zydeco to energize me and Mozart to relax me. With my very French maiden name and my fair, freckled skin, I remain a Cajun girl in her kilt.

I wish he was a girl.

Kristen Moorhead,
Silver Spring, MD.

I’ve always told my son, “You can be anything you want to be.” Before Shani Davis’ won gold, POTUS was elected – prior to Neil deGrasse Tyson gracing our screen in Cosmos. What was once – is still – momentous to me is his normal: ‘I like ice skating, why not? The President’s black – and? Of course African Americans do astrophysics!’

Initially it was comical: trying to impart the earth-shattering significance of things he finds hopelessly mundane. Laying the groundwork for ‘the dream’ was hard, I guess living it is easy.

He’s twelve now – almost my height and swears he ‘doesn’t see color.’ His possibilities are infinite, yes, but there’s a cruel catch: “You can be anything you want to be, but first, you must survive. And your survival is dependent on knowing this: you are young, black, male – perceived guilty until proven innocent, aggressive, ‘a demon,’ America’s prime suspect. We all bear the burden of knowing the procedures and pathology that come with that.”

White wrestling girl in small town.

Jayden Housh,
Mt. Pleasant, IA

I was born and raised in a small town, surrounded by corn and bean fields. In a small town of Iowa, there is not many diverse things about it, but it is not just a giant field of corn. There is girl’s wrestling here which is big thing because wrestling has always been thought of as an all-male sport. Iowa girl’s wrestling has been growing and a lot every year and makes everyone have the opportunity to wrestle.

Mexican Irish Girl: agnostic and dry

MG_5441Joan Socorro Sullivan,
Minneapolis, MN.

I’m a quarter Mexican and over half Irish, I don’t attend church and I don’t drink. My hair is dark brown, my eyes are blue, I freckle like no one’s business; there’s the black Irish. My hips and bosom refuse to fit in anything smaller than a medium since I was 14 and my accent when speaking Spanish is unidentifiable as American. When I was little my mom spoke some Spanish to us which means I can pronounce the language I’ve spent 19 years learning. It’s odd to be such a mix and look so basic, breaking stereotypes.

The “quiet girl” in the back

Alyssa Banas,
VA.

Before I attended college, I was known as the “quiet girl” that sat in the back of the class. I loved meeting new people, but I just had a hard time communicating with people without being shy. My teachers always told me to participate in class because the ideas I wrote down on paper was considered as “intelligent.” When I reached college, I realized that I need to step out of my comfort zone. During my freshman year in college, I rushed in a sorority and was involved in plenty of clubs. Those who bump into my in college are now always saying “Wow! You used to be the quiet girl in the back of the class. What happened?” Going to ODU has definitely helped me step out of my comfort zone and allow myself to open up without people judging me.

I Want To Know You, Too

Deirdre Stoelzle,
Casper, WY.

In Rwanda there were times that I was the first white person some Rwandans had ever seen. Mostly people wanted to touch my skin, my hair, but at one prison there were two little girls with their mother, bringing food to their imprisoned father. They saw me and screamed in horror. I crouched down, cooing my safety to them. They kept whimpering, shaking. “There’s nothing you can do,” my interpreter said. “In the village they say ‘If you’re bad the muzungu will come and eat you.'”

Meet My WHITE AFRICAN AMERICAN Son

brnadonJanice Davidsson,
Norfolk, VA.

You can’t help who you fall in love with and this American girl fell in love with an African boy. So that makes our son African American. Here’s the catch that a lot of people have an issue with… He’s white. He has blonde hair and blue green eyes and is the reason I have taken out stock in sun screen. For all who claim Africa what country is it that you are claiming? My Husband and son are proud to be South African and they shouldn’t have to deny their roots that are still deep in both South Africa and the States because it upsets the few who claim a continent full of countries.

My husband calls me future girl.

Jennifer McCadney
Bethesda, MD

Growing up as a kid with a black dad and white mom in the late 70s and early 80s — in what was then a non-diverse industrial town — I struggled a lot with racism and my own racial identity. I felt strangely uncomfortable in my own skin and fought, on both instinct and principle, against the senseless labels I felt society trying to impose. When I left my hometown for college in Washington, D.C., which is a sort of multicultural mecca, things dramatically changed. I felt liberated. I blended in, as opposed to standing out. I was just one of many shades of brown. When I traveled overseas, some assumed I was either a local or from the local indigenous population, as the case may be. People seemed to gravitate toward and were curious about my racial ambiguity, but not in a racist way. It took time, but I eventually became comfortable being me, and for the first time, feel distinct pride in being a person of mixed-race. Cab drivers commonly ask me where I am from, later explaining that I looked like someone from their country – whether it be India, Pakistan, Ethiopia, Egypt, Palestine, Iran, Greece, Turkey, Brazil, or the Dominican Republic, to name a few. “I’m from Pittsburgh,” is my usual response. My husband, who is Jewish, tells me I should say I’m from the future. But I think perhaps our kids will have a better chance pulling that off.

From a white teenage girl’s perspective

Victoria N.
Fortson, GA

My ancestors came to America just like many others. Just because I am white, does not mean my family “owned” “slaves”. When an African American girl says to me “you’re so lucky to have that hair” or “I would pay a lot for some of your hair”, it makes me mad. Hair or material appearances should not be what you see when you look at someone. It’s about what is on the inside, not the color of one’s hair or skin! I have strawberry-blonde hair so I get called a “ginger” from all races. According to some people, I only have “half a soul”.

Being called a ginger hurts just as much as being called the N word. I like to drink Starbucks so I’m a “Typical white girl’? That term is degrading to teenagers like me. Just because I am white, does not make me privileged. My dad only makes about $30,000 a year. My mother is unemployed and homeless! Being white does not make someone racist or privileged. Do you see colleges or scholarships for “white” people? No, but you see them for African Americans. Also, to the African American boys that get mad when a white girl says she has a preference: For MOST of us, it’s not because you have dark skin, it’s because our mind is not physically attracted to you. Stop calling us racist or our DNA makeup. Our generation only has control of the future, not the past, so get over it.

Trust me, I’m not a stereotype.

Jazmine McKinney,
Winter Garden, FL.

Yes, I am black. No I am not angry. I actually smile all the time, and I get odd looks because of it. I guess I don’t act like people think black girls should act? Yes, I love Disney. I honestly don’t like rap music all that much. I love all kinds of dances, not just hip hop. Yes I follow Christ, and to make things interesting, I speak Mandarin Chinese. Does that make me black? I’m not sure. Depends on your definition of black. Am I any other color? Well, no. One good look at me will tell you that. I guess I am who I am. I don’t fit all stereotypes, and apparently, I can’t put my identity in my race. At the end of the day, your race really does end up being just your skin color. It doesn’t define who you are. It never will.

Little brown girl, white man’s world

264008_10150275426913933_6043823_nBeatriz Mallory
Newfoundland, PA

My father was one of the first black men to work at IBM in the late 50’s; my mother a Puerto Rican who migrated to NY to go to college. My father embedded this mantra in my head from a very age. I was a “little brown girl” in a world dominated by people we could never be. Thus, I had to be not just as good at everything as any white person could be — I had to be far better. This tenet was not lost on a growing mind experiencing integration unfold as IBM transferred us from city to city, but the constant pressure to be perfect were to ricochet through our family’s complex life, and still reverberate today.

Not just a spoiled white girl

Cassidy-Rae Bastarache,
Gardner, MA

I’m white and some people assume that I am privileged and have money based on some of the expensive things that I own and the vacations that I have taken. The truth is that my parents are hard working middle class people who work lots of overtime to give me and my brother all the things in life they never had.

Mexican girls don’t need a Quinceañera

Yadhira,
8th Grade Holland New Tech High School,
Holland, MI.

My friends and cousins tell me that I need to have a Quinceañera and I tell them I don’t want a big party with everyone dancing, Some of my family members say I should have my quinceanera at Mexico, but I don’t want one I just want a normal party with my family & friends when I turn 15. This bothers me because not every Mexican girl needs a Quinceañera and I’m fine with not having a Quinceañera it’s not a big deal.

“What are you?” I’m a girl…

IMG_2874Amanda Totteana Muniz,
Anderson, IN.

All my life I’ve had to face the question, “What are you?” This always made me uncomfortable, and irritated. Last time I checked I was a human. When I was younger I would try to explain that I was mixed,(black white, native American) but then I got tired of explaining myself and starting to simply tell them “I’m a girl.”

We shouldn’t need to fear each other

Jen,
Corona, CA.

What would it take for us to coexist in love? I am Korean and since I was a little girl, I’ve seen peers and adults look down on me or exclude me for my color. I see people cry for justice, and yet they still feel uncomfortable associating themselves with people outside of their group. It’s time people step out of their comfort zone.

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