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P8022086Sherry Weaver,
Woodstock, GA.

Our family is a beautiful rainbow. We are pink with brown spots and brown with pink spots.

We are just a family. I didn’t “rescue” anyone-we gave each other gifts. I was given the incredible gift of love and diversity, and they got a family who loves them and can appreciate them. Just like all families, each individual brings something different to the whole. My first son is empathetic, my second son is a great athlete and my daughter is beautiful and caring.

It’s not about surviving being black, It is about realizing how wonderful it is to be of African heritage and how wonderful it is to be of Scottish heritage. I tell my daughter how beautiful she is while I put on my makeup and tell her how lucky she is to have such gorgeous mahogany skin.

She understands this is just one of the the many joys of being black. Anyone who can’t see that is just not looking.

And no disrespect Chris Rock- She does have “Good Hair”. It is as beautiful as the rest of her.

Good hair is well maintained hair.

Jessica Elaine Burks,
San Diego, CA.

I am Black, Irish, and Native American. My paternal grandmother had straight long hair. My maternal grandmother had 4c textured hair. All my life I believed the myth that “good hair and long hair” do not belong to black women with 4C textured hair. My friends and even family members of non-black origins had no clue that actresses wore weave- even when they were white. None of my friends in grade school understood what a “kitchen” was. So I said I did it with a toothpick- and the next day five blonde haired blue eyed girls brought toothpicks to school so that I could curl their hair. It was a long time before I would realize any woman of any race can have bad hair. Overprocessed, dry, brittle, color damaged hair can happen to any race or ethnicity. But Good hair is well-maintained hair. Hair is not meant to be divisive pitting one woman against another. Hair is in fact, a woman’s individuality, her expression of glory. I had to cut my hair off after finding out I had Systemic Lupus. I am growing my daughter’s hair. As I was detangling her hair I told her she has GOOD HAIR. My mother was laid to rest before she could see the natural hair awakening. I wish she were alive to hear my say she has beautiful good hair.

You’re lucky; you have good hair

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mephotoAminah
Columbia, SC

Being a light-skinned African-American has afforded me the ability to kind of live on multiple sides of the race coin in terms of my superficial assets. Many people assume that I’m mixed; I’m not. Many people assume that I lucky because, since I’m fully black, I have good hair. Man, if one more person, black or white, says that I’m lucky because I have good hair…basically you’re saying that my personality sucks and all I have to fall back on is my awesome hair (I know they’re not really saying that). But really, why can’t we stop looking at the superficial and start looking at the internal? My hair doesn’t make me who I am, nor does my skin, nor does my “race”.

Bad hair good. Hair, me roar!

Dad-70th-Bday-Wknd-2012-033Susan Williams Frappier,
Canada.

It`s just a hair thing. I spent my childhood wanting to have bouncy, floaty, flippable hair. It`s only now at 37…38 tomorrow, that I have embraced and called beautiful and amazing MY hair. I no longer want to be like everyone else. I still think the others are beautiful, it`s just that I think they are beautiful too – NOT instead of.

Skin says black, hair says mixed.

me-2Carolyn Hipkins,
Largo, MD.

All my life I’ve been told that I have “good hair”. Its very soft and with a loose curl pattern. If I straighten it or put a relaxer in it it looks like Caucasian hair. But let the humidity go up. My hair reverts to its natural curly state. I spent many years fighting with my mother and my hair trying to get to look and stay looking like Caucasian hair.

When I was 40 I made peace with my hair and put it into Sisterlocks. It was then I learned that I had 3 or 4 different hair textures. As my Loctitian said, I can’t be racist, I have everybody living in my head’. I kept them my hair for several years.

I know longer have Sisterlocks. I had to take them out because it is expensive to keep them maintained. I’m in the process of looking for another job and once again, hair issues have come. The picture posted is me on a day when I had an interview. I had flat-ironed my hair so I would look “professional”. I was stressed that day because it was very humid and my hair was reverting back. It turns out all the stress and hassle over my hair wasn’t worth it. The organization canceled the position.

I’ve decided to make peace with my hair again. This weekend I’m getting a cut that will let me keep my hair in its natural state and look professional. I’m done fighting with my hair. It is what it is.

Girl, you got that good hair.

hair-imageClare Norris-Bell,
Los Angeles, CA.

In the Black community, hair has been been a measurement of one’s value for generations. In the African-American culture, “good” hair refers to hair that is not kinky or not what is pejoratively called “nappy”. It is hair that is closer to the texture of people in parts of the world away from sub-saharan Africa, like Europe, Asia, or the Middle East. My hair has almost always been at least to my shoulders and wavy when pulled back and braided, fuzzy when left to its own devices, but formed small, uniform ringlets when controlled with a handful of hair gel or mousse. Obviously, “good” hair is a judgement call, not just an objective observation, and those Black girls and women who called my hair “good” as I grew up were giving my hair texture value usually superior to their own. Unfortunately, with the advent of the trans-Atlantic slave trade, it was to the advantage of Europeans to convince Americans of African decent that their features were inferior to European features. That message was powerful and pervasive. Its remnants remain strong in our society. I teach at a community college with a large African-American population, and I look at students who cannot afford books but invest their money in straight, Indian-hair weaves that hide their natural hair. That investment speaks volumes to the value Black women place on possessing what they classify as “good” hair. So I dedicate my race card to all of those beautiful Black women out there with beautiful kinky, curly hair. I am so gratified to see the slowly burgeoning movement of Black women embracing the texture of hair that grows from their heads and trying new styles and products to care for it. I am eager for the day when the weaves and relaxer chemicals stop selling and I hear Black girls and women refer to the wide variety of textures in the African-American community as “good” hair.

One white, one brown, same parents.

image-2Adana,
Seattle, WA.

I have 2 children. My son looks just like his papa: dark, wavy hair and alabaster skin. My daughter looks like me: golden skin and curly brown hair. When I’m out with my son, I’m asked if I’m his nanny. When I’m out with both kids, I’m asked if they have the same father. We worry, often, about the prejudices my daughter will face that our son will be spared. All because one has white skin and one has brown.

What? But you don’t look Cuban!

Beatrice Miranda,
Grand Terrace, CA.

When I’m overheard speaking in Spanish. Really? My response… Yes, I’m Cuban and it was my first language. (As I’m thinking, well, what am I supposed to look like?) But you’re so WHITE! Yes I know…I own a mirror, thanks. (As I cringe at being compared to say a sheet, a toilet bowl, or maybe an egg) and again I respond “well yes, my background is primarily of Spaniard descent and most of my immediate family is light skinned). Occasionally I well get “oh…I knew you were “something” I just didn’t know what”. Ummm…ok, first I’m white, now an object as opposed to an college grad, nurse, mother, friend etc and a pretty decent human being? Okay. “Well you have good hair, and your freckles are cute”. Well thank You, thank you very much. (good hair? ¿que carajo?). I can also shake it to Celia Cruz, cook a mean arroz con frijoles, and wear my heritage proudly regardless of your opinion, approval, or lack thereof. Thank you in advance for your cooperation, vaya con Dios.

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