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Do you worry she’ll bomb you?

Abbey Gammill,
Lawton, Ok.

Im am from the south, and I have grown up listening to elders make racist comments. My mom and dad raised my brother and I to believe that everyone is equal. I never really had a personal encounter with a race issue until I moved into college. My roommates name is Ida and she is muslim. The fact that she was Muslim never has mattered to me, yet to my grandparents it apparently should. When I told them about my super awesome new friend they quickly asked what church she went to. After telling them she was Muslim my grandma asked “Is she a terrorist? Do you worry she’ll bomb you?”

Voluntary Segregation Is The Only Answer

J. Conway,
USA

My grandparents were against segregation until my parents school was desegregated in the 1960’s and suddenly it became a tribal battleground. Black kids didn’t want to go to school with whites regardless of what white uberliberals tried to claim. I’ve never heard blacks say they wish they had more diversity when it’s all black. I don’t think they feel blessed to have a white kid sitting next to them. It’s not like the white kid is going to do him any good, make him smarter or something. They don’t want to go to school or work with us, and only want to live in the safe orderly neighborhoods we create, not live with whites.

Separate but equal is fair and a win-win. However, both must be responsible for keeping theirs equal, or building, maintaining and improving it on their own. Start out with identical schools, roads, neighborhood facilities and stores.

Let them thrive in an environment without white people, therefore without racism. And white people can thrive in an area where black behaviors don’t create racism.

What did we lose becoming white?

Rosa Friedman,
Philadelphia, PA.

My grandparents came to this country as children of Jewish families from eastern Europe. In order to become accepted as part of the racial elite and gain access to white privilege, they had to leave behind the things that distinguished them, their culture, language, and values. Now there is a hole in soul where that history should be.

Was all the suffering worth it?

10320594_10152382309072002_183967502069326216_nTamara G.
Cincinnati, OH

When thinking of which six words I would use for The Race Card Project I had to ponder for a bit. I automatically thought of the fact that I am Jewish. Being so, I often get questioned about what holidays I celebrate or why we do certain things. Going to BGSU I do not really come across many others from my religion. Since this is the case, most of my peers and friends have really never been around someone who is Jewish. This came as a culture shock to me as well as for them. Where I grew up, in Cincinnati, there were always peers that were Jewish even at my public school. Transitioning from there to this university was very different. It was strange to not have anyone around that I grew up with that I could share this religious connection with.

I then thought of specific experiences I have had that could help me choose my six words. For example, last year one of my friends asked me if I celebrate Thanksgiving. This was very hurtful because as they well know, I was born in Ohio and have lived in the same city ever since. It is just strange to me that people are so unaware that just because I am Jewish it does not mean I do not celebrate “American” Holidays. Another example was this past Easter. Some of my friends were shocked that I have never celebrated Easter nor had an Easter basket before. It really upset me that those who I clearly care about do not care about my background enough to know what I do or do not celebrate. It may be because I am their first friend who is Jewish, but most should have an understanding of the basics of each religion from school over the years. Whenever anyone, especially my friends, makes ignorant comments about my religion, I know they hold their own dear, makes me feel like an outsider. Because of this, seclusion immediately came to mind when thinking of six words. My roommates this year would constantly talk about Church, which I completely understand. Since this was the case, however, I always felt left out. This is because I knew it was something that they could all share, but I could never be a part of it.

I could have made my six words on seclusion or ignorance, but I wanted mine to be more meaningful to not just me, but my family. My grandparents were both in the Holocaust. My grandmother lost both of her brothers as well as her father during this time. She was lucky that her mother was very resourceful and was always finding ways to keep her and her sister safe. For example, her mother made sure she lied about her age. To this day, we still do not know the real age of my grandmother exactly. Regarding my grandfather, I do not know much. He died when I was only four so I never had the chance to really ask him about it; although, according to my mother he never really desired to talk about it anyway. Since this horrid event in time has such impact on my religion as well as my family, I knew my six words had to be about it. I chose “Was all the suffering worth it?” because I have always wondered that myself. I always wondered why Hitler and the Nazis went through so much and hurt so many individuals, some not even Jewish, to commit this mass genocide. Not only this, but even with the mass genocide Hitler and the Nazis were still eventually stopped. Hitler was clearly not as successful as he hoped he would be. This also prods the question as to if it was worth it for him and his followers to lose everything, just like he made millions lose everything. I also chose these six words because they not only identify with the Holocaust, but they can identify with any other religion or race that was once treated poorly or as if they were worthless.

I’m white and southern as cotton.

Chasity Massey,
Trion, GA

Where I’m from it’s unusual to see a lot of blacks or mixed races. We rarely see a lot of Hispanics, Asians but there aren’t barley anything else. I’m from a small town from a very religious family and “mixing races” as they called it is wrong to them. They frowned upon any other races dating or mixing and even would stare… I remember once I was sitting in a doctor’s office as a child and I saw a women with different colored skin, wearing clothes I thought strange, she was from the Middle-East or her appearance appeared like she was. I didn’t pay more than a few moments attention till my idiot father started whispering about her clutching her bomb (she was holding a purse) then laughing. He made remarks to me growing up that if you have a red dot between your eyes that is the gun’s bull’s eye. Growing up I didn’t see why he was so unsure of it all, then I’d hear my grandparents say the word “n****” to me often or mumble about it, they’d act nice towards another race but as soon as that race did something that was the insult. How low are we to say something like this? How low can we be to think that just because of the race it means our actions? I see them being a redneck so maybe they’re right. No, they’re not. Just because someone was born with a color its not okay for them to mumble and joke…There are many more times they’ve done this but I’m truly afraid to say anything about my sexuality.. What if they’re just the same with this? Racist and homophobic? I’m scared as a white, southern, girl. And what if I become like them against races?

Who am I supposed to be?

Cascada Blanca,
Troy, NY

For over half my life, I thought I was Puerto Rican. My grandparents lived in Puerto Rico, they spoke Spanish, they were engrained in a local community and knew a lot about the island. My family visited them at least once a year. My grandparents started teaching me about the island and I jumped in headfirst. I was excitedly learning Spanish, making friends there, and learning everything I could about the history and culture. It was so wonderful and I was so happy to be able to be a part of it. Until my identity turned out to be a lie and I was an idiot for believing that. I’m just a basic, racist white girl with no culture at all. I took a DNA test to see if there was anything I could fill the void with, but it just made me feel even worse. I can’t talk about this to anyone so I just keep lying to the people who know me.

There’s no excuse for being racist

Megan Kean,
Fort Myers, FL

I have been accustomed to ignoring my grandparents when they state something ignorant. I’m told, “it was different back then, they’re too stubborn to change their minds”. Why should they get to say disgusting things to people who have done nothing but mind their business? It happens too often where an older person says a degrading statement to an innocent person, & it needs to stop. We need to start telling those people how hurtful & plain ignorant it is to say those things. It’s time to make a stand

Lizzie’s Journey from Plantation to Farm

2014-02-06-13.24.20 (1)Michelle Hill,
Oakland, CA.

Our family is so fortunate that my great, great, great grandparents were not separated from each other and their children during slavery. Because the family stayed together, we have a family Bible, pictures and records that document their lives in this country. My great grandmother, Mama Lizzie, was born in 1870 to a slave girl who was raped by her former master. Slavery had ended, but the freed slaves were still living on the plantation because they had nowhere to go. Mama Lizzie’s life spanned 94 years from the end of slavery to the mid-20th century; from a family of slaves to a family of land owners. She and my cousin Mary shared a room for 18 years in the family’s farmhouse. Mama Lizzie passed the family stories on to my cousin. Cousin Mary wrote Lizzie’s Story: A Slave Family’s Journey to Freedom to document the challenges, persistence, perseverance, ingenuity and strength of our ancestors. As African-Americans, we have been given a rare gift to know our family genealogy and heritage as far back as 1850. http://www.amazon.com/Lizzies-Story-Familys-Journey-Freedom/dp/0759699208

But you don’t look half Mexican

Denise Shirley-Carter,
Hudson, WI

My father is white, Irish, Scottish, etc. My mother’s parents were from Mexico, Spain, then El Paso, TX. However, both my parents are light skinned, my mother very white, so I have a very pale complexion. I have always gotten “but you don’t look half Mexican” or “I don’t believe you” or even from my own (half) sister, “I always forget you’re half Mexican”. Although I am not in contact with my mother, I loved my grandparents and am proud to have that as part of my heritage, my race. However, when people tell you they don’t believe you, it does cut. I cannot even imagine what others have to deal with. My issue is so small in comparison. I am seen as white from people who would prefer I be white, and seen as white by everyone else, as well. I wish I could say it doesn’t matter, but it does.

My great-grandparents fled pogroms in Ukraine.

Britt Trachtenberg,
Long Island, NY

p>I think part of my story is about how I ended up being born with privilege in an affluent community in Long Island, while my great-grandparents immigrated from Russian-controlled areas of the Ukraine in the early 1900s. My great-grandparents sought to leave because of instances of religion-based violence– called “pogroms” in Russia. They settled in Brooklyn, where they would open a hardware store and raise two children: my grandmother and aunt. My grandmother has fond memories of working in her parents’ hardware store and often speaks to how hard her parents worked to give herself and her sister a better life in America.

“Pogrom” is a Russian word that translates to “wreak havoc” in English. Historically, there are many instances of Ukrainian and Russian Jewish people being persecuted and attacked for their religion. For example, in 1903, Kishinev became a very unsafe place for Jewish Ukrainians to live after a newspaper used the minority group as a scapegoat for the death of two children. Such statements, unfortunately, resulted in many murders and homes destroyed (Source: https://www.history.com/topics/russia/pogroms).

Today, antisemitism is still a relevant topic all over the world. Many leaders, activists, actors, and members of our communities have spoken out against antisemitism and have started movements and calls to action to create change. The movement Grassroots Jews (www.http://www.grassrootsjews.org/new-page) works to bring together communities of Jewish people through things like services, communal meals, and even food recipe suggestions for holidays. Another movement called Bend the Arc: Jewish Action (https://www.bendthearc.us/) focuses on bringing together Jewish voices in America to fight for justice and equality in chapters across the U.S. Current campaigns include petitions to stand with Jewish communities in Florida against white nationalism. Movements like the ones named above are relevant to my story as an American Jewish woman because of how antisemitism hurts my Jewish friends, family, and neighbors and how much it has hurt my relatives and people that my relatives care about.

Great-grandparents were white illegal immigrants.

Robin Shudak,
Wilkes-Barre, PA

Both sides of my family are Polish, who escaped from Poland the rise of fascism.

Their destination: the US.

My maternal grandfather’s family, who were Jewish, were denied entry.
My paternal grandfather’s family, who were fleeing because they were caught as part of the resistance and his brother was already “sent to Germany,” were also denied entry.
No refugee status or asylum.
But they got in, because to return was death.
Both families, now without homes or countries, thought they could hide out here until the war was over. but the Soviet takeover of Poland made that impossible.
So, as a little girl in the 1980s, I was called a Communist by teachers, and severely disciplined for speaking Polish (which everyone thought was Russian).
Now, we have the opportunity to move back, and are considering it.
Because in our experience, we believe American whiteness also has a pecking order. In our experience, unless you’re a Daughter of the American Revolution or some other vintage of “heroes,” that formed this country or towns in it, you are looked down on.
I can’t even imagine how much worse it is when your ethnicity is on full display, and not just in your last name.

Privileged White Girl, Am I Really?

Tina Myrum,
Alexandria, MN.

Growing up in a small town, there was not a lot of racially diversity. However, I listened to the news, read papers, and learned as much as I could about other races. I learned that we were not that different. Most people looking at me would assume that I have had an easy life, but this is not the case. I grew up with my grandparents, rather than my parents, most of my life. I have had a full-time job most of my life since I was sixteen. I bought everything I have and there have been days where I was not sure where I was going to sleep or what I was going to eat. These options were not by choice, but rather by being so privileged to not have everything given to me, as most people often think. I get immensely frustrated when people tell me that I have had it so easy, I should not complain. I do not learn as most do, and struggled all through elementary school to pass my classes, because I was “illiterate”. Even after my mom and step dad taught me how to read, the stigma continued. After transferring to a different school, I excelled in all my classes and started to enjoy school. After school, I went to a technical college and continued to have to work two to three jobs at a time. I slept in my car some days to get an extra half an hour of sleep and ate at work, to save money. I know that I am more privileged than some people, but I wish that people would not look at my car or my going to a university and think that it was all due to my parents. My parents taught me to be independent, that is my privilege.

Hated wearing green on St.PatrickDay mom.

Daniel Luis Soto
New York, NY

I consider myself Puerto Rican. Grandparents from PR My great grandfather on mom’s side is from Ireland. Going further back on both sides my heritage spans the globe from Spain to England to various British occupied islands. Im proud of my diversity, but I look Puerto Rican speak Spanish as my parents and grandparents have. My wife was born in P.R., so my kids know their background but are proud of Puerto Ricans.

I’m Middle Eastern but I’m white?

Ilana
New York, NY

I grew up in Israel to a father born in Germany and a mother born in the United States. Yet every time I tick the “white” box I feel uncomfortable. The culture I grew up in was considered “white” but the Middle East is ethnically diverse. Everyone was a “mixed breed” because they had parents from all over the place. People know where their grandparents come from, whether it’s Poland or Morocco, France or Egypt, Russia or Lebanon. How can you label this kind of culture “white”?

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