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How come I was not invited?

Carolyn Hisako Okinaga,
Honolulu, HI.

I asked this question when I was growing up on Ewa Plantation. Ethnic groups were housed in separate villages on the plantation based on race and position, e.g., Filipinos laborers lived in Fernandez Village, Japanese in B Village, etc. All of the caucasian (“haole”) supervisors/bosses lived in Renton Village; they had their own swimming pool and park. Since my father was a mid-level supervisor but of Japanese ancestry, we lived in Pepper Row which housed other mid-level supervisors of Chinese, Japanese, Hawaiian and Portuguese ancestry. We literally lived between the haoles and the other races. I could play with the haole kids on the weekends because of my dad’s position but during the week, they went to Punahou and I went to the public school and spoke “pidgin English” to be accepted by my classmates who spoke the same. One day while playing in the haole park, my playmate was called home by her mother. I stuck around only to see other haole kids armed with birthday presents troop to her house. I went home in tears to ask my mother that question.

Grandma said I looked too haole.

Carol Silva
Portland, OR

My step-grandma danced, taught, and had her own hula group who performed during the week on Oahu. Once when she and my grandpa were visiting us on the Mainland, my grandpa suggested that when I got older I could come to Hawaii and dance in the show. This was unlikely to ever happen, but nice of him to say. My step-grandma shook her head and said, “She looks too haole.” Very true, but it hurt to hear her say that I was not welcome. Later on my cousins danced in that group. They were also haps haole, but did not look it. Now when I see photos of me and my cousins I think, “Looks too haole.”

Haole is a very racist word.

Theresa Nakata,
San Diego,CA

Growing up a “haole” girl in rural Kona, Hawaii, every school year I was bullied for the color of my white skin and the shape of my nose. As I got older and experienced other cultures, the personal shame and pain I felt about being white in Hawaii was replaced with understanding and joy from living in the islands — a melting pot of culture where diversity is ultimately celebrated and valued.

He’s too dark for my friends

168209_483323417077_5168925_nLynn Li,
Hilo, HI.

I feel a little sheltered living in Hawaii. I’m 100% Chinese and my significant other, Angel, is Afro- Latino. No one looks twice at us on the islands. Mixed race couples and children are everywhere. Plus, we pass as locals because of our looks. But we met in San Francisco and my parents are in San Francisco. Although they have had friends of many races, their daughter is with someone who is black, which is different. Yes, he’s Venezuelan and Puerto Rican but his skin is dark. Some people don’t think we are a couple and others think it’s cool in the sense that I am a Chinese woman NOT dating a white man (which seems to bring out a whole other set of racial issues/ stereotypes). We have been together for almost 5 years, we want to get married and have children in the future. At first, my mother had excuses about why she doesn’t like him, “he’s too young for you. He doesn’t have his bachelor’s.” Now that he’s in university and on the Dean’s List, she finally fessed up and said, “He’s too dark for my friends to meet.” Angel and I laughed but it’s true. The little, old Chinese women at my mom’s church will pass out at the sight of me with a tall, dark man. I really wonder how my mom will deal with brown skinned grand children? No of us are getting younger. I think she will throw out all her apprehension once a baby is introduced into the family and just baby the baby like any dotting grandmother. Then I have a good memory: I remembered the last time I was in San Francisco in the BART station. A Chinese grandmother was holding the hand of her Afro-Chinese grandson and speaking to him in Chinese. It gave me hope for my mom.

Dichotomy matters AND full color spectrum.

Kaniela Kelekolio,
Captain Cook, HI.

The legacy of slavery and, for much of history, the demographics of the USA have led to ‘white vs black’ being the central racial discussion. But as America grows more diverse and East and South Asian, Pacific Islander, Hispanic communities and white and black ethnic subgroups flourish, they challenge a dichotomous discussion of race. And where has American Indian history been in the racial discussion??

I Am Because We Are Micronesians!

000_0051Vid Raatior,
Hilo, HI.

Being a Micronesian in America is as much my personal journey as it is a communal opportunity for common advancement. My success is rooted in the degree to which I help my brothers and sisters succeed in their journeys. How we succeed as a people to overcome negative stereotypes and prejudice as the newest immigrants, legal as we are by virtue of our compact of free association treaty with the united states, depends on how much we pull together to correct the wrongs, bridge the resource gaps, educate others of our uniqueness, support the needy among us, and above all be ambassadors of our islands, our people, our values. I am because we are!

If I’m Filipino, Am I Asian?

Danicka Sailer,
Honolulu, HI

I am 25% Filipino. My Father was 50%, and my grandmother was full. Although I look white and most of my ethnic background is “white” I am still Filipino. I have always considered myself technically Asian. Whenever I try to explain this to people they tell me that I am not Asian and I never will be but I am! The Philipines are in South Asia so I am Asian! I may not look it but I am it. Even though I do not look Filipino at all I still feel it. I often brag about being Filipino and I am very proud of it. I like being diverse and not just one race.

White but still the minority

Mackenzie Wasielewski,
Kailua, HI

Living in Hawaii I have always been “discriminated” against because I don’t look the other people. I am always told that I can’t surf or dance hula because I’m a “stupid haole.” What makes me a stupid haole? Many people think that it is impossible to be racist to a white person,, which is not true. People think that because years and years ago white was the dominant race that you can’t discriminate against them. Think before you say something about any race.

Are you having white girl problems?

Charley Birdsall,
Kailua, HI

One night, my friends were having dinner across the street from where my family and I were having dinner. So, I decided to go surprise them. They were all in the bathroom and when I went in there I startled them and they screamed. Then a very white employee that was a girl stormed into the bathroom and said without even thinking or looking at us “Are you guys having white girl problems”. A white girl problem is a way to refer to something as dramatic or ungrateful. To someone who doesn’t understand the situation a white girl problem could come across very pointless and stupid. This experience made me very offended since the employee didn’t know our situation and she atomically referred to us as spoiled brats. A synonym for white girl problems is a spoiled brat. She had no right to say this since she was also very white and young.

Is the word “Haole” racist?

Joel,
Honolulu, HI

I live in Hawaii and I’ve always gone back and forth about the word “haole”. I tend to use it but I wonder if it’s considered offensive. Perhaps it depends on the context and why you’re saying the word. I’ve used the word to describe a person; “So and so is hapa-haole” or “She’s married to a haole guy”. But I’ve also heard people add more emotion to the word; “That f-ing Haole!” or “Stupid Haole”. I’m curious as to how this word came about. I’m also curious about the race relations in Hawaii. We are of course a beautiful state with plenty of diversity but I’ve also heard people say some pretty disgraceful and racist remarks. I like to think of Hawaii as a mixed plate, but how do we feel about race relations in Hawaii?

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