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“Shonda?” No interview. “SK?” Wow, interview!

Shonda Kay Purvis,
Green Cove Springs, FL.

I have had to rebrand myself and change my name because “Shonda K. Purvis” (and her “BLACK” resume) doesn’t get job interviews, but SK Purvis (and “his” “WHITE” resume) does. (By the way, I am a Caucasian female. You thought I was black, didn’t you?)

White Males discriminated against at work.

Mary Fruin,
Charlotte, NC.

I think that Rev . Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s Dream is nowhere near being fulfilled when our big corporations are illegally paying big bonuses to managers to hire & promote minorities and women (read: not white men) and giving soft metric well paying jobs to minorities while chasing white males out of jobs to give them to minorities in many situations. We are surprising one race to elevate others, in many cases lowering the bar. Why not hire the best person? Why not promote for good work? Many men in my community are becoming stay at home fathers, not because of want but because their wives have a better career path due to hiring practices.

I’m sorry I’m staring at you.

Jessica Flake,
Amelia, OH

I work as a demo’s assistant at an international grocery store which will not be named for advertising purposes. Being in Demo’s means I make samples for people to try of various products that we want to sell. I have been called various ‘slurs’ by some people of color in the past (mainly cracker, because I often work in the cheese department) and this has lead to my thinking in overdrive when it comes to race at work. If two people are coming at me and I call to one first instead of the other, have I done that because the first person was closer to me than the second, or because the first person was white and the second was a person of color? This leads to my constant hyper-awareness of the customers that walk past that may be a different race than my own, and I try to call out to them but then how do I know that I’m giving them more attention without meaning to? Thus, my indecisive glances that would easily be perceived as obsessive staring if I didn’t try to occupy myself in other ways.

Caucasian in Hawaii, treated as outsider

Annie H,
Honolulu, HI

Even after living in Hawaii over 25 years (moved for employment – my husband was recruited for a hard to fill position in health care, and I have worked for two prominent Hawaii organizations), I still encounter people assuming I do not live here, and asking, “How are you enjoying your visit?” Also other examples of being seen as an outsider, when using the local park where we live 2 blocks away, we often experience the vibe, “Why are you using our public spaces?” from other folks who drive in from other neighborhoods. It has been very eye opening with the tables turned from when we lived on the East Coast as part of the majority. Have honed my humility and empathy.

I fell for the assimilation trap

Brian Roberts,
Gaithersburg, MD.

I am a middle-aged American black man. I thought that if I lived my life as a solid citizen, went to the right schools, secured a good career, raised a family, I would not only provide for my family, I would set an example that would make white people less frightened by black people. I thought my example of hard work and assimilation, and that of others who followed a similar path, would improve race relations. This has not been the case. In fact, my example is used to discredit other black people who have not had the same success. What I hear is, “if you made it, what’s wrong with other blacks? Why can’t they do it?” As if racial prejudice, discrimination and institutional racism did not exist. It’s very frustrating.

People of Quality Respect Race Equality

Saheba Cuccia,
New Orleans, LA.
Aspen X

Adopted and raised in the South, I have seen and heard of the racial barriers that some people use to divide us. The color of your skin should not determine anything such as relationships, jobs, and social standing in society.

My Race Works For My Race

Daniel A. Rodriguez,
Philadelphia, PA.

Hello, my name is Daniel A. Rodriguez and I am 15 years old. I am of Mexican and White descent. My parents came from Mexico shortly before I was born here, in the United States. My father is a construction worker and my mother is a house cleaner, which many consider “Mexican” jobs. I listen to them tell me of how they see the beautiful homes and things of the families of these “Americans”. I then say to myself, “Why do my parents have such stressful, life absorbing jobs, when my “American” family have good paying jobs and nice lifestyles”? My parents tell me on how they wish they could do the same for us, and how they came to this country so that we wouldn’t have a childhood like their own. They tell me on how they wish I can get a good job as an “American” and be the fruit of what they worked so hard for, leaving their whole family, constantly being discriminated, and being put down due to their limited speech. I now realize that i’m not either White “American” nor poor “Mexican”, but unique. I will excel as an individual, just like any other race, ethnicity and person can.

Not from here, nor from there.

Maria Sefchick,
Seattle, WA

My father is American, my mother Mexican. I was born in the US, went to live in Mexico when I was 8 and returned to the US when I was 39. My kids were born in Mexico, first language Spanish. First time I heard Hispanic as an ethnic label I was in the US. In Mexico I was called a “gringa”, here I am “Hispanic”. “Ni de aqui, ni de alla” is a common phrase in Spanish which means I do not feel I belong anywhere. I feel more comfortable when I am with people of “color” although in Mexico I was considered white. Being privileged in Mexico it was a culture shock to be discriminated here and find that I am part of the underrepresented and underserved minority. I have faced discrimination, mostly unintentional intolerance by “nice people” reacting to unconscious bias. For example I have been told by my white male colleagues “you know you only got your job because you are Hispanic” or what should I call you people? Hispanic or Latino? or my favorite at University where 80% of the staff is made up of white males: “we are just worried you people will take our jobs”. I love many of the opportunities my children and I have enjoyed in the USA but I am shocked at number of poor people and the belief that we all have the same opportunities in this country. I work in a community college striving to increase access for all and awareness that there is such a thing as white privilege, racism is alive and well and that equity and justice must be worked for.

How Did You Get This Job?

Charlie Perkins

This question was posed to me by one of my staff when I started my career at Mayo Clinic. I joined Mayo after a 30-year career as a bank vice president in Chicago. A black manager, managing an all-white staff in Rochester, Mn. I thought it was an interesting question. I took the high road and gave an intelligent answer.

Someone said it best: “Life is like a camera. Focus on what is important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives and if things don’t work out, take another shot”. Keep your head up so your crown won’t fall!

Yes, I am the Racist Salesman

Sam Smith,
Stafford, TX.

Ya I figured that would catch people off guard. I’ve been a salesperson now for about 10 years in Houston. Love the city and the culture, made a pretty good career out of it too. I’ve sold cars and motorcycles for a living.

One thing I will readily acknowledge is I’m a bit racist. Now I don’t mean that in a “White supremacist” or “KKK” kind of way. I mean that over time you tend to recognize certain patterns of people and how to best sell to them or to simply cut your losses because there is no way in hell a sell can be had.

If you think I’m a jerk now…..you’ve never been in sales. I can promise you that most who are in commission sales do have “to a degree” a bit of racist thinking. Ask a car salesman how he feels when 4-5 Indian customers come in to the show room floor with the last name “Patel” and all are in support of one family member buying a vehicle. Guaranteed the salesman reading this now is laughing his butt off because he knows exactly what I mean. The Indian will ask for everything to be at cost, point fingers in your face and say that you are not giving a good deal. You will waste hours with him and stay till damn near midnight if only in the hopes of getting that guy to commit.

Asian people tend to be very similar, they act much more polite till you get to the commitment in the sale. If things don’t work out 9/10 the asian customer will always try to have the last word and save face, they feel the need to show how right they are and how wrong you were in not taking care of them exactly as they saw it.

Latino families usually come in droves as well, similarly they argue on the price….while pretending to know very little english until its time to commit to the sale. The man of the house will push on the numbers, not for the sake of savings but to show how macho he is that he forced the salesman down on prices. At least with these folks you shake hands and you can remain friends and he’ll probably send you his business again.

Black families are more interesting, specifically the men. They prefer keeping all their cards close to the chest as if someone couldn’t read them from a mile away. Guy gets out of his Escalade that he’ll later pretend to tell me he got at 0%APR with a 480 credit score that plummeted when he stopped paying child support. He’ll haggle over the price, not because he can’t afford it but because he is trying to squeeze his monthly payments in with his past due bills…..am I saying this is most people…no, but it is definitely a decent amount of this community…..

The black man will ask me to show all the numbers before we run his credit, again not for the sake of the bottom dollar but because in his head he thinks he knows better when using the calculator to divide the amount into monthly payments. Him and I will argue about this later 🙂

The white person isn’t that much better. We tend to hold our cards as well, but its because we think we’ve been screwed too many times and vow that it will never happen again. We think driving up in that supper clean Honda Accord or Chevy truck that we just washed an hour before….will suddenly increase the value of the trade in. Before we came in we did all the freakin research that google could spit at us and then ask our salesperson the same questions only to correct them in mid discussion because we feel we know better and will try to use it against the sales person later.
We don’t trust black people because we think they won’t be honest, we won’t trust indians because we know they aren’t honest, we will usually work with latino and white people cause we think they really understand what “hard work” means and earning your own money.

Truth is, I think we are all racist to a degree as humans. As a sales person I know I am because life has taught me all to often the usual ways of dealing with any particular people group. Does that bother me, not necessarily. It means I’ve learned how to tackle each issue that comes up and I know how to correctly sell to the black, indian, latino, asian or white man.

Back into closet, fear of unemployment

Luke
Flint, MI

Coming out in college was an amazing thing. My family accepted every part of my life. The man I met and have been with half way though college is my best friend and hopefully life partner. We now live together and I currently do not want to bring co-workers to hang out at my house.

I am a very “normal” person. We play video games, watch TV, drink shitty beer. Normal dudes.

“The worst gays ever” is what our flamboyant buddies call us

But it is love. And our families love us around and our friends love us. But starting a new job with major heteronomatism is difficult. I will have to explain the group outing to the strip club is not for me. And am unsure of how to finally say how to leave 🙁

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