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DON’T ASK ME TO JUST FORGET

Thaddeus,
Nashville, TN.

I was raised poor in Louisiana where the generations of my family before me farmed and picked cotton, fished and lived off the land. Our water was rain water caught in a ground cistern and we used an outhouse for a toilet and boiled water for each night to bathe. So please don’t tell me how “privileged” I was raised. My first year of junior high, I was suddenly bussed halfway across the parish for desegregation instead of going to school with the kids I’d known since first grade. Our family cemetery started as the cemetery for a Confederate fort because it was high ground that never flooded. I cannot and will not forget the sacrifices that my ancestors made and the path that was blazed for my life. I’ve researched my genealogy back to the early 1800’s and there’s no documentation that any of them ever owned a slave. Instead, pictures show that the families as poor farm folk who led hard lives and were devoted Christians. They worked hard for what little they had. Even with more education and 12 years of military service, I, too, have had to work and scrimp to save for what I’ve accumulated over the years. I certainly don’t count myself as privileged, merely that I’ve been taught how to be happy with little and have some peace of mind with a hope for a better life on the other side of this one. I’ve learned to quit looking at what everyone else has and be thankful for what little I have. After all, it’s unlikely anybody is going to give you much. You’ve got to take some responsibility and get it for yourself.

No, I am not an oreo.

S69bdOlgSarah Staples,
Nashville, TN.

I grew up in a predominantly white community in a city that was predominantly black and hispanic or latino. My best friends were always white, my parents made me study classical piano for 12 years, I played soccer, I read Shakespeare and Jane Austen, and I went to boarding school. No, I am not an “Oreo” (black on the outside, white on the inside). I’m black, specifically Caribbean American, and calling me “white on the inside” is actually saying that a person can’t be wholly black and enjoy things outside of the stereotypical “black culture.” You don’t need to explain my personality or interests by ascribing a race to it. Don’t cast me into whatever mold your debilitated mind compels you to put me into. I’m not an oreo. I’m a person. My name is Sarah. You may refer to me as such.

I am more than 3/5ths person

Lynell,
Nashville, TN.

“We live in a system that espouses merit, equality, and a level playing field, but exalts those with wealth, power, and celebrity, however, gained.”
― Derrick A. Bell, Ethical Ambition: Living a Life of Meaning and Worth

Ignorance of history, convenient or willful?

Emily Green-Cain,
Nashville, TN.

I grew up in the city where James Lawson led teach-ins for non-violence that led to sit-ins throughout the Southeast. No one in my schooling, neither my parents, my church or the local education system taught me anything about these events. I did not know the specifics of what happened here until the series “Eyes on the Prize” did an episode on the Nashville sit-ins in 2006. Is not sharing the pain and difficulties of recent history convenient for the white community who still holds the power to make it invisible? Or is it a willful act to keep their children in the dark about what really happened? Now, the Nashville Public Library has a civil rights room that teaches the historic struggle…I wish it had been there in the 1970’s when I grew up.

Which side do you identify most with?

Gentry Hopkins,
Nashville, TN

Being biracial presently gives an interesting viewpoint on many social aspects. I often get the questions “are you more white or more black?” or “I’d say you act more white”, but what if I were just wanting to be biracial.
The University of Tennessee, Knoxville Sociology 110.

I unpack my white privilege daily.

Sarah Walton
Nashville, TN

I descend directly from southern slave-owners and, more recently, racists. My family’s wealth is built on the backs of over a thousand slaves.

It is my karmic duty to be a social-justice & race-relations activist; to call for reparations; to march; to force as many friends & family to look through “Without Sanctuary” as possible; to feel happier inside whenever a black person is hostile or self-protective in my company instead of acting deferential – “yes! yes! BE ANGRY towards me!”, i think; to call for FEDERAL funding of public education; to own my own inevitable bias & prejudice; to speak about the elephant in the room… I struggle with my own intense hatred towards white people and white culture… and i am almost always alone in all of this, even among my most progressive, “enlightened” white friends.

I wish our country could learn from South Africa and begin a process of Truth & Reconciliation… we will be choked and paralyzed by (very appropriate) white guilt until such occurs.

Thank you, Michele.

Slave trader descendent attempts healing words

Lyn Franklin Hoyt,
Nashville, TN.

I’m on a search, a journey for words, to figure out how my family heritage can be used for good to heal atrocities, rather than become a memory of evil. Not to hide that evil, but face it head on as recognition slavery was wrong and to talk about what really happened and how it resonates today. My family hid it. We were ashamed. Some in denial we have any responsibility for our past. I did not even know or understand that I descended from one of the worst slave trading families until I was in my 30’s. Now as a public school advocate I see clearly the generational impact that seems inescapable for some as legacy of slavery and the continuing racism and oppression that exists in this country. The Franklin family is well known in slavery history circles. Ironically my children carry the HOYT name, a family well known for their participation in the Underground Railroad in Ohio and leaders of anti-slavery abolitionist societies in Michigan. How can speaking out help heal rather than hurt? How do I honor my dead relatives while still recognizing they were very flawed? We are entering a time where people want to talk about this. For that I am grateful for this site.

Know who you are, be proud.

Cole,
Nashville, TN.

A lot of my family comes from Spain and Latin America. And I take pride in that. Every once in a while there is one person that is stuck with stereotypes of what Latinos should look like. I’m part Hispanic, the person said to me “You don’t look Latino, your not dark” That person pointed to my friend Esteban and said “You would look like him” What she said made me feel lost and angry. I don’t know why people think that all Latinos should look “dark” I’m part Hispanic that doesn’t mean I’m going to be dark. I know who I am and I’m proud of it.

Yes, I’m white. But not privileged.

JMM,
Nashville, TN.

I’m white. 100% pale as can be white. I grew up as one of a small handful of white children in my elementary and middle school, and was relentlessly teased. White girl. Cracker. White b****. All names I was called. I had gum put in my hair. I was beaten up. I was bullied. I was threatened, and I was made to feel as less than a person because of my skin color. As if I were being punished for being a “white girl”. Never once have I received better than someone else because of my skin color. Never once have I been given something that I didn’t work for because I’m white. I’ve been made to feel almost ashamed to who I am because everyone thinks I get what I want because I’m a “white girl”. I won’t apologize for being white. No one should ever be made to feel as though they’re less than anyone else, and that includes people of ALL color. Even white.

Now we can talk about race

Gary Seven
Nashville, TN

All during the election season, conservatives were claiming that President Obama did nothing to unify the country about issues of race, (as if he were capable of, and was singularly responsible for doing so by himself.) Their claim was that he was the most divisive president in history when in fact that whole regrettable episode served to highlight their own inherent racism, especially within the tea party and Fox news, (which they would both quickly and ineptly deny.)
We’ve come a long way as a country…From this “Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe, in order to assure the survival and the success of liberty“…to this…“The single most important thing we want to achieve is for President Obama to be a one-term president.“ I submit to you that we are forced to accept that there is both overt and covert racism in this country. Only then we can finally begin a discussion about something that does in fact exist, rather than desperately trying to deny something that is so powerful, as to insist that it is a figment of our collective imaginations.

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