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I’m their mom, not the nanny.

Allison A,
Yakima, WA.

Sometimes it’s nanny, sometimes it’s babysitter or neighbor, but being asked if I was their grandmother was a first for me. At times, the question is about adoption . . . “Where did you get her?” The questions come from complete strangers, usually white people. The need to figure out this “puzzle,” and what a white woman is doing at the store (insert anywhere public here) with these children is tangible. Maybe they can’t imagine themselves with three bi-racial daughters and want to know more. For the most part, these interactions are not malicious, it’s more out of “polite” curiosity.

Canada has a racism problem, too

Emma Lamson Edirisinghe,
Canada.

Following the U.S. election, hatred and bigotry have reared its ugly head in Canada, too, where many think racism isn’t a problem like it is in the neighbour to the south. There have been crimes and assaults particularly against Muslim and Jewish people, including a shooting at a Quebec mosque that left six dead — an extremely rare occurrence in Canada due to the strict gun laws. Canadians need to push back against the radical white supremacy that has taken over in the U.S., because it CAN happen here, too.

My dear friend’s current life below

Susan Nickason,
Penfield, NY.

Listening to the news this evening about the Charleston shooting, I hear “what harms our neighbor, harms us”

This speaks to me as it wasn’t even 2 months ago that I left Kemmerer, WY, under the cover of darkness because of the harassment and inexcusable behavior that seemed, well, normal. To them. A state that prides itself on equality.

While I was only there a year and some odd days, I quickly learned the values of Mormon speak, which was loud and in my face about my differences. I learned that God, while he was very present in almost all conversations, did not protect my kind as I was, am and always will be a sinner. I learned how officers of the law, who are supposedly held to a higher standard, nodded their often familiar bobble heads saying, they would keep watch. Yet, dead animals were still put on my porch, air was let out of my tires among other things and the night I left was harassed by two women who let me know of their intentions by keeping a gun in plain view of my sight. What did the police do? They patted them on the back and said, go home. Each time they came by house.

Knowing how small the town is, of course it was gossip by the next morning, and yet the Chief only made a call to me after he got a report from a community member saying it happened. Not that he was being updated that night by his officers the entire time it was transpiring.

It’s these moments that a community has the opportunity to stand up and say enough is enough. But instead they stayed silent, and when the city council who is supposedly leadership of the community, as they are voted in to be representatives were questioned, they said, we didn’t do anything wrong.

Your silence and doing nothing, is plenty…

While I share a summary of my story, there are so many others that have their own stories. Stories of how this land of the free home of the brave, has simply; Forgotten.

I watch my fb feed fill with intellectual discussions of how to come together and begin this exchange that has been pushed aside by mainstream media, because it’s hard and they are trying to avoid – the anger…

And I will say it for no one else but me, the anger will never go away. And the more these sensationalized stories about how these race related situations are not really about race, makes me even angrier. However, it is in my anger that I find logic that the only way to start fixing these problems is to start talking about a plan, to have a future that begins with admitting, we have a f****** problem.

I’m ready, are you?

10 Mile Move Flipped the Grid

Tessa D,
Chicopee, MA.

As a young child, we moved from a mostly black neighborhood to a nearly all white suburb. The background music of my life changed. There really wasn’t any background music anymore. The neighbor kids who came to visit were no longer just the neighbor kids. Judgement and difference took on meaning, and that palpable feeling of outside prejudice towards my friends arose in my throat. It hasn’t really left.

I will not be an ally

Shelly Gremillion,
Hammond, LA

I lost my home in Hurricane Ida.
When we arrived home after evacuation there were kids running and riding bikes stopping to throw things through windows and keep going.
They were black, about 13 years old. I didn’t call the police. I didn’t want to be “that person”.

After spending hours putting storm damaged property in neat piles and bags so adjusters could assess my damages a couple came in the late evening and slit open the bags and scattered welt and moldy items across my lawn and my neighbors. They were throwing things in the back seat of their car. They left a giant mess. They didn’t care or consider that someone else would have to clean up the mess. They were black.

We all know to seal a refined refrigerator with tape. This family down the street didn’t and rotten food tumbled out of the refrigerator and into the street while they stood around in their yard howling and laughing. They didn’t care that rotten food was being spread all over and people were unable to walk because of the smell. They were black.

My home was uninhabitable, so I rented a home in a quiet neighborhood. A few months passed and new family moved in. Instantly there was screaming and loud music all hours. People parked all over the streets and stood in the road. They didn’t care that people could not get into their own driveways or get out of their driveways. I saw a fight and a woman throw a gallon of water at a man and knock him out of a chair. They were all black.

We decided to buy a house in a nice neighborhood instead of rebuild. We looked at one and there were cars on blocks and people standing in the street and music being played through open car doors and men screamed over the music to be heard. They laughed and blocked traffic. They looked over their shoulder unbothered by the line of cars forming in a residential street. They were all black.

We chose a new development. Everyone has excessive trash when they move in so we took all our trash to the landfill. Now there are piles of trash and garbage food containers, used diapers, shoe boxes (most is not in bags) down the street. Total disregard for civil code and disrespect for neighbors. They are black.

There is a family down the street with two dogs who run loose and have started chasing cars an barking as people walk or bike in their vicinity. The family is black.

When whites move it and property values increase it causes rage. The rage is that whites can cause a property value to increase. Gentrification “forces them to sell”. No. It doesn’t. It gave them an opportunity to make money and they took it.

Any honest objective person can see how people hanging around in a front yard smoking weed with loud music and piles of trash would drive down property values.

I will not be an ally anymore. I will not see your “struggle”. I will not notice. Black people have chosen not to notice the devastation they cause and the burden their “culture” of noise, road blocking, piles of trash and destruction is to society.

Black people do not want to be an ally to society. They want to dominate and subjugate.

Are you the maintenance guy

Mr. Jones,
Charleston, SC.

New neighbors moved in about 6 months ago. 1st introduction while I was sweeping driveway “are you the maintenance guy”. I have a vacation home in a “upscale neighborhood” just 30 houses and only african american for 5 years. Neighborhood HOA even hired local police to do daily drive-thrus as well. I’ve really have a hard time there especially since it being the south. I have a home in Baltimore as well next to JHU University. While Baltimore is much more accepting to diversity – there is a very different world. I would hate to see the neighborhood reaction if I had a family reunion function. Listening to NPR and found out about your program.

I will burn the house down.

Eric
Chesapeake Beach, MD

1974, I was 14 years old; my dad was in the Army, we were moving to Ohio from Weaver, Alabama. The house we lived in we rented. The owner was selling the house and the realtor was in the driveway talking to my dad one day. The neighbor came over to see what was happening. He was a State Trooper, when he heard the house was up for sale he told the realtor “If you sell the house to a n***** I will burn it down.” Then he walked away. Stuck with me for all these years, a police officer, wasn’t he supposed to protect everyone?

How soft black hair is. . . surprise

Charlotte,
Houston, TX.

I grew up close to African Americans. They were guests in our home and people on the bus with us. I never noticed how taboo touching was between us until I was 30 and a neighbor girl came over to play with my kids. She skinned her knee and as I hugged her tears away. I touched her hair. It was so soft and I was shocked to realize that I had never touched an African American’s hair before.

Mzungu: Kenyans say, white skin human heart

100_1007Crystal Gregory,
Kenya.

An American by birth, I live in East Africa. Here my neighbors assume because of my skin I am rich, beautiful, or have extra love to share. I offend neighbors when I refuse to have a househelper or a driver or even, really, detest having a security guard or the other ‘helpers’ white people are supposed to have. They say, after living here for a long time, that I am white on the outside and black on the inside, because, well, I don’t know. People in America act surprised when I call this place home, and ask me if I’m afraid here. I think instead, we are all people inside, each looking for our own way on this earth.

Race Baiters Are Destroying Our Country

love_thy_neighborKimberlee Collins,
Gulf Shores, AL.

We as a nation of individuals need to be supportive of one another. Each of us are unique and yet we are all the same, we all have feelings and are proud of our heritages. To hear community leaders instigating racial unrest, is not only unethical but destroying the bonds that we should be developing. People should be helping each other not becoming more distant and mistrustful of each other. To be in a position of power and to misuse it to cause unrest, should be clearly seen not blindly followed. Can you honestly say that all people of a certain race are bad? If the answer to this is yes, then you are without a doubt racist. There are good and bad people in every race, but to judge all by the actions of some clearly is flawed reasoning. Critical thinking needs to be implemented to examine all the good you can find in each individual, not classify them because of their race. To all the race baiters out there, just think what your words could do to unify, if used for peace and unification of our country and world. So remember this when you hear someone calling you to act unjustly.
Be Blessed all, and remember Jesus said to “Love thy neighbor”, (not just the ones you want to love, ALL of them)

Ashamed to be a White American

Maria,
Lakeland, FL.

I’m Italian, so have to identify as white. Do I stand with ‘Christian white America’? No. Race, orientation, even hair color are not things I judge people on. “Love your neighbor as yourself”, period. No If’s And’s or But’s about it.

Who lives here? You or him?

95facebook95-141546669195Beth Brawley,
Columbia, SC.

My son is mixed race and when he was young a neighbor had a cousin over. They wanted to shoot a pellet rifle at cans. I told the neighbor and cousin they needed permission and I would supervise. The little boy who was visiting asked who lived at the house I was standing by, my son or I. I simply said, “We both do. I’m his mom.” Kids seem to be much more open.

Canada has a racism problem, too

Emma Lamson Edirisinghe,
Canada.

Following the U.S. election, hatred and bigotry have reared its ugly head in Canada, too, where many think racism isn’t a problem like it is in the neighbour to the south. There have been crimes and assaults particularly against Muslim and Jewish people, including a shooting at a Quebec mosque that left six dead — an extremely rare occurrence in Canada due to the strict gun laws. Canadians need to push back against the radical white supremacy that has taken over in the U.S., because it CAN happen here, too.

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