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Where did you GET her from?

IMG_1376Beth Watson,
Tacoma, WA.

In ‘post-racial’ ( I use this term sarcastically) America, living in the Pacific Northwest, I can’t believe how many times I have been asked outright, “where did you get her from?” in response to seeing me and my bi-racial daughter in public. This question, of course, comes at the end of stares and smug looks. Are you kidding me? First off, who are you to intrude upon my private life with that sort of question in that sort of way? Obviously, people in our country have no boundaries or any sort of knowledge on how bi-racial children come into this world. With all of the knowledge we have at our finger tips, there should not be any reason for such ignorance and intrusively offensive boundary invasion. After being asked this question, 8 million times, my answer was just as equally offensive and will continue to be.

Pacific Islanders are not Asian ok!

Luis David Garcia
Huntsville, TX

I am Mexican, my wife is Pacific Islander and our girls were born in Virginia and Texas. My girls are the minority among minorities and yet are lumped together with the largest population in the planet (Asian/Pacific Islander). Now try to tell my Chamorro wife that she is Chinese and you are up for an interesting conversation.

I am Micronesian. So like Hawaiian?

Aliyah,
Kansas City, MO

As a Pacific Islander (specifically Micronesian), a lot of the islands aren’t very known. I understand not many people are knowledgeable about my ethnicity but whenever I mention Pacific Islands it’s always, so you’re like Hawaiian. I have love for all Pacific Islands but Hawaii isn’t the only island that exists. And I want people to learn more about our culture and people.

Oceanic? I’ve NEVER heard of that.

map_lgLee,
Saipan, MP.

Oceania is the proper geographical name of a defined region, as are North America, Europe, Asia, etc. People are Native American, European, Asian… I am, among other things, Oceanic or Oceanian; a person descended from ancestors from Oceania. Specifically, Micronesia. The term “pacific islander” as a racial category is an oddity that exists outside the logic of geographical nomenclature. But it’s the prevalent term, and there are people who actually balk at my referring to myself not as “pacific islander”, but as Oceanic. It seems clear to me that Oceanic is the preferential term for myself and others from Oceania, yet it’s been met with indignation. It seems that others, specifically those without ancestry from this region, are apparently more comfortable with the standard term “pacific islander”. But as someone who is actually of here, from here, “pacific islander” is not my term for myself, and I reject it.

My heart is Hawaiian, I’m not.

Jan Mason
NY

Born and raised in paradise as a Haole (white) person I had more than my share of discrimination but living on the “mainland” where I “fit in” with the white majority(?) my island heritage is invisible. I have taken to checking the box or “Pacific Islander” though I feel guilty about if since all my blood is European. My heart is Hawaiian.

You’re the African American of Indians.

Nikolette Joseph
Union City, CA

People always ask me what is my ethnicity. I respond saying Fijian and they look at me like what the heck is that. I explain to them that its an small island next to Hawaii. ”Ohhh okay” as they say. The Fiji water , that’s where you come from? So “you’re the African American of Indians? Yes I say the “Fiji water” is where I come from. I am not the African American of Indians. I’m Fijian if you don’t know what that is then call me Pacific Islander . They said they always thought I was Indian and Black. I didn’t like being called Indian or Black because that wasn’t who I am. I don’t mind being called Pacific Islander. Fijian is not a known ethnicity but being called ” the African American of Indians” is something I get offended by.

It’s your problem that I’ll ignore

Monalisa Layan,
Federated States of Micronesia

I lived in Hilo, Hawaii for 7 years while I attended college. There were many kinds and good people that I met. However, there were some that were just plain ugly. As a native Pacific Islander, it was quite strange for me to see someone who is not pure Native Hawaiian–mixed plate as some may say–calling me names and telling me to go back where I came from. It’s even more ridiculous for me to see a Caucasian person yell at me for being racist because I served someone brown before them in a room full of brown people and they were last in line. And in both experiences I’ve learned one thing: it isn’t really racism that drives most people’s hate, it’s the fear of not belonging. Hawaii is literally a place of many, many ethnic groups from all around the world. So when you have someone born and raised “local” who is racist towards you, you have to wonder why they are doing that when they are completely multi-cultural in appearance. Maybe they’re afraid that they don’t fit into a particular ethnic group anymore, so they will use whatever percentage of Native Hawaiian blood they have to speak on behalf of an entire group? And when you have someone who absolutely looks different from everyone else, the white person in a sea of brown, whom you treat like everyone else [because they are human] and yet still thinks you’re singling them out…Maybe they are afraid of everyone else because somehow they think people actually find them offensive? As far as I’m concerned, if you treat me with respect, I will respect you too. If you don’t, then that’s your problem and I will ignore you.

Indigenous and religiously evangelical equal colonized?

Chantilly Mers
New York, NY

I am the daughter of parents who migrated from Palau, a small cluster of islands between Guam and the Philippines. Ethnically, I am Palauan and Chinese, and my siblings and I grew up in Hawaii. Pacific Islander/Native Hawaiian is usually the box I check. In addition to my inherent multi-cultural identity, where in Hawaii we are taught to learn multiple body and language codes, it’s sometimes at church that I find the most trouble reconciling my multiple identities. I converted to Christianity in high-school, in an all white church that taught me God redeems culture and people groups. As I get older, I realize that white evangelicalism doesn’t redeem culture; in fact it colonizes cultures and identities to fit the white-American evangelical mold. How do I reconnect with my indigenous religion and culture, when my professed faith is dominantly euro-centric? Is there a middle space bridging these identities? Am I another colonized body?

We come from the same ocean

Timena Mano,
Northern CA.

Since I was a young child, one thing I knew for sure was that I was Samoan. I am Polynesian but again, more specifically, SAMOAN. I remember in middle school, a classmate asked my friend Ofa if she was Samoan, and she quickly shouted in an offended tone, “No!” I recall having
This was something of the norm in my own community. East Palo Alto has a high percentage of Polynesians compared to other places in the Greater Bay Area. As tiny as the city is, I also felt that my own people and fellow Polynesians have become small minded in this world. There are not enough fingers on my hand to count how many times Polynesians, including myself, have made a racial slur against the other ethnicity, particularly between Samoans and Tongans. We would argue and bring up factual ideas about how our ancestors were superior over the other. “How Samoans use to wipe their a** with rocks.” Or Tongans are centaur’s, half man-half horse, because horse meat is a delicacy in the Tongan culture.
It bothers me that Polynesian cultures share similar values and we ourselves on upholding them. Growing up with Pacific Islanders, we stuck together, had each other’s back, and fought against discrimination and racism. However, we are ignorant in a sense that we, ourselves, are partaking in the act of discrimination and are racist towards one another. We are blindly carrying this hate that our ancestors had for each other long before us. With passive remarks and judgements within our own families even as we go outside of our homes, we without thinking, are becoming our ancestors all over again. My own thoughts and reactions are far from that, and it is important to know that we have a generation ahead of us that should be taught differently.
I recommend to the next generation that you sit down and open the conversation. Speak of these matters with family and friends. Challenge each other and ask the questions that we avoid or afraid to bring up. I encourage the young people to listen and learn and teach others of our past and how we’ve came together a long way. To see what it stands for and the path we made ourselves to stand side by side. Let’s not allow ourselves to continue this ignorance, hate that clouds our hearts of what we genuinely are of the people of the South Pacific.

We are all basically brothers and sisters and come from the same ocean. Share the same values, and share the same waters. We are all alike and have similarities and shouldn’t be like that towards one another especially if we are neighbors. Although we unite and stand up for each other against others, we shouldn’t be divided amongst ourselves. Our fathers and their fathers before them protect the same waters. We have mastered the same ocean with the same eyes and same ears. The culture values we built and shield as armor comes from the same forger. That forger is from the same ocean. We are more than just neighbors, we bathe in the same sea, and cry under the same sun.

Dichotomy matters AND full color spectrum.

Kaniela Kelekolio,
Captain Cook, HI.

The legacy of slavery and, for much of history, the demographics of the USA have led to ‘white vs black’ being the central racial discussion. But as America grows more diverse and East and South Asian, Pacific Islander, Hispanic communities and white and black ethnic subgroups flourish, they challenge a dichotomous discussion of race. And where has American Indian history been in the racial discussion??

Being Mixed Doesn’t Define Cultural Identity

Morgan Engelhardt,
Norfolk, VA.

A lot of times I get shut down for calling myself Pacific Islander or Asian because I look white. The truth is, I’ve always preferred to identify myself with my Filipino ancestors rather than my white ones. It feels like home to me.

I am only Asian to non-Asians.

Karina
Irvine, CA

I live in an area that has many distinct Asian groups who are first generation Americans: Japanese, Korean, Chinese, Vietnamese, etc. My grandmother was first generation Filipino and my Grandfather and father are both Caucasian. That makes me part-Asian. But to my Asian friends who are first generation, they see me as White – or mixed at best. My Filipino friends acknowledge that I am Filipino. And my White friends see the Asian traits and consider me Asian. But the box for Filipinos is usually “Pacific Islander” – yet Japan (very close to the Philippines- much closer than Hawaii… ) chooses Asian. Very confusing. So, it is only to non-Asians am I seen as Asian.

Check one please… Doesn’t fit me!?

JayJay Porcadilla
Colorado Springs, CO

I am Filipino and Portuguese and much more! I was always afraid of the song “Play that funky music WHITE boy” I don’t know why, but it had so I would check white so I would feel like I was part of everyone around me! To this day I am proud of the powerful blood that runs through my veins, and check Pacific Islander!

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