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“You can’t say that stuff here”

Danielle R,
San Francisco, CA.

Someone in response to their friend’s racial slur at a party… How about you can’t say that stuff anywhere? Racism hasn’t been defeated, it has moved behind closed doors. Change won’t happen if people only call their friends out when they’re worried that someone will hear. Just because there’s no one around to be offended by something, doesn’t make it ok to say.

Two white children in Halloween photo

03-21Kaela-pic-61aDave Parnell,
Carrollton, TX.

Our kindergarten daughter wanted to go to her friend’s Halloween party. I saw that the address and the protective father in me did not feel safe letting her go. But I called and the black man I spoke to certainly heard the fearful white father on the other end of the phone and assured me that they were holding the party in the house in order to keep the children safe. Short story is that this was among the most memorable and fun Halloweens we’ve had.

Man not party. Biggest Bigot running.

Robert S. Davis,
Hanceville, AL.

My southern blue collar father said that he never voted for the party but only for the man. Most of his life he voted for Democrats but in his last years he voted all Republican. He always voted for the biggest bigots running, even if only by party association, Dad told me (seriously) that he was unaware of any intelligent black person and that all women should be homemakers and raising babies unless they were too ugly to find husbands. Today millions of Americans feel as he did an, although even to themselves they deny their unreasonable they deny their unreasonable prejudices. They, vote that their fears and hatreds, even against the best interest of themselves and their families, in the privacy of voting booths. To change the world for the better, we must first change hearts and minds.

Neighborhood party we were not invited

Mom-and-Dad_DatingNinfa Pena-Purcell,
College Station, TX.

This picture of my parents captures a young Mexican American couple with aspirations to live the American dream in the 1950s only to find out that their family of six children would never be welcomed in their neighborhood. Years later this experience has stayed with me and made me resolve to live my life with purpose and compassion for others.

Sorry, My Mom Don’t Like Blacks

AmbersClassPictureAmber Roberson-Rowell,
Essex, MD.

That was my second incident of prejudice and what instilled in me that race–the color of my skin–was a problem. The first was during my first day of pre-school and being pushed off a tricycle by a little white boy and being told “You don’t belong here!” I was the ONLY black child in my class. Back then I was definitely too young to even comprehend what his words meant, but now that I look back I find it rather sad he knew what they meant. The incident above happened around the 3rd or 4th grade. A fellow classmate was handing out birthday invitations which held the equivalent of finding the Golden Ticket. I was so excited like many of the other kids in my class and was anxiously waiting for my invitation. One by one, I watched as my classmate handed them out and was just ready to get mine before we dismissed. As she got to me, she politely smiled and whispered in my ear, “I would invite you to my party, but sorry; my mom doesn’t like blacks.” I was so in awe, like a genuine confusion came upon me. I didn’t understand why me being black made her Mom dislike me. I had never had anyone dislike me at that point and definitely not because of what color I was. I was friends with almost everyone in my class, I wasn’t bias or prejudice. I am a people person and have always been. My brain couldn’t comprehend what was so wrong with my color of skin and why didn’t my mother didn’t like me because of it…and to this day I still don’t understand the under meanings of prejudice. That day I realized even at a young age, what the little boy did to me in pre-school and why I wasn’t invited to my classmate’s party was correlated. And from that, I just realized people white people don’t like blacks. And THAT was what introduced me to racism.

Markus & Moya claim that “Contrary to what most people believe, race and ethnicity are not things that people have or are. Rather, they are actions people do” (p.4). Based on my earliest exposures pertaining to race up until now, I completely agree with that statement. My stance concerning race is that is a factious ideal; it’s no realer than Santa Claus or unicorns. It is something society and the media has built and upheld on this pedestal and is only validated its longevity which makes people believe that is something real. Since race isn’t made up and it has nothing to do with our biological, it can only be implemented through society’s actions and thoughts, therefore making race an action. By discriminating, stereotyping, and prejudice race is an action. I’ve never seen any difference or felt a difference between any other people except when it came to color, but I let it interfere with our interactions. It is not our color that separates us, but our personalities. I’ve not gotten along with whites, blacks, Asians but not because of their skin color, but because of the actual individual. People will sometimes take one individual’s demeanor and actions and cast it upon anyone who looks like them. That is what doing race is.

Mexican girls don’t need a Quinceañera

Yadhira,
8th Grade Holland New Tech High School,
Holland, MI.

My friends and cousins tell me that I need to have a Quinceañera and I tell them I don’t want a big party with everyone dancing, Some of my family members say I should have my quinceanera at Mexico, but I don’t want one I just want a normal party with my family & friends when I turn 15. This bothers me because not every Mexican girl needs a Quinceañera and I’m fine with not having a Quinceañera it’s not a big deal.

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