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Where did you GET her from?

IMG_1376Beth Watson,
Tacoma, WA.

In ‘post-racial’ ( I use this term sarcastically) America, living in the Pacific Northwest, I can’t believe how many times I have been asked outright, “where did you get her from?” in response to seeing me and my bi-racial daughter in public. This question, of course, comes at the end of stares and smug looks. Are you kidding me? First off, who are you to intrude upon my private life with that sort of question in that sort of way? Obviously, people in our country have no boundaries or any sort of knowledge on how bi-racial children come into this world. With all of the knowledge we have at our finger tips, there should not be any reason for such ignorance and intrusively offensive boundary invasion. After being asked this question, 8 million times, my answer was just as equally offensive and will continue to be.

Cultural Gatekeepers Defile Black People’s Beauty

Deborah Sanders
New York, NY

Racism has become so deeply ingrained in our culture that we are often only able to recognize the most obvious aggressions. Even when we do recognize it, we often feel helpless to resist its powerful grip on our psyche. I think that much of the obstacles to achieving a post-racial society is the constant reinforcement of the ‘what is beautiful is good, what is beautiful is white paradigm’ being relentlessly forwarded by cultural gatekeepers such as the advertising industry and the entertainment industry.

This gatekeeper sector of society which chooses who goes on the covers of magazines, who gets the leading movie role as a symbol of beauty and who gets labeled sexy and so forth, has an overbearing and pervasive influence on the way we judge a person’s worth. According to them and the messages they espouse, first and foremost, a person and especially a woman must be beautiful to be worthy. Second, they narrowly define beauty in a way that excludes the natural features of black people. What follows, is an entire race of the people assumed to be bad by everyone, often including many of them, themselves.

I believe that the cultural gatekeepers violate the civil rights of a large segment of society by its damaging use of idealized images of beauty that influence how people value others. It impacts our ability to earn a living, to mate, attract friends and studies show that it even impacts the way teachers react to our children. When we as a society are bold enough to enforce civil rights laws and stop cultural gatekeepers from defining beauty, we will go along way towards eradicating racism.

But where are you really from?

DSC7801-LChristopher Lee-Rodriguez,
Boston, MA.

We don’t live in a post-racial society. We live in a post-race society. We live in a country where in a short amount of time, there will no longer be a majority race. And race is continuing to be reshaped and redefined. I am half Chinese and half Puerto Rican. I live in Boston, and I see dozens and dozens of couples of white men and Asian women. The half Asian community it doubling by the decade. There are so many Black and Latino families in this country as well. Race is not real. It is malleable. Racism is real. It’s pervasive and inside all of us. When people ask me where I’m really from, they are saying that I am not really American. Even though I’m second generation on both sides and can really only speak English, I do not look like an authentic American. I am part of the other American. The new American. And no matter how many racist cops kill people of color or disenfranchise communities, we’re still going to be around. It’s time to not only reform the system but redefine what it is to be black, Latino, Asian, and in the end, American.

Post-Racial? Stop. Look. Listen. Racism’s Here.

553195_10152032752592533_15042835_nKyle Alexander,
Rochester, NY.

Coming from a position a white privilege and having a large peer network of other white individuals. I hear a lot of quite muttering of “post-racial” society, and “I don’t even think about race, we’re all the same”. No. We’re not all the same and the only reason you are supporting a post-racial society is because your position of white privilege allows you to not be confronted with race every waking second of your life.

Racism may not be as overt as yesteryear, but racism is not gone. It’s still here. It’s here in the micro-aggressions that flood face-to-face and online interactions. It’s here in the white store clerk who passes by a black customer to serve a white customer. It’s here in the women who locks her car and rolls up her windows merely driving past children playing on Avenue D.
You may not “see” race. But what you are not “seeing” is your own inherent racism.

Post racial society–dream not reality

Jennifer Woods,
Okemos, MI.

I am a 65 year old African American and am sick to death that in 2012 we are still, Still, STILL having this same tired conversation about race. That we still have to have “the talk” with our young men. That black people continue, decades after Dr. King’s dream, to be judged by the color of our skin and not by the content of our character.

Norris speaks about race in America

newsa1by: Chelsea Dickson Oct 6, 2014
Courtesy of: The Tartan

“America’s conversation on race has only just begun,” said NPR correspondent Michele Norris during a talk on racial diversity last Wednesday at the Carnegie Music Hall. The lecture, titled “Eavesdropping on America’s Conversation On Race,” proved more than an exercise in listening, and rather an invitation to an open dialogue on race in America. Hosted by the Carnegie Museum of Natural History, the event was held in tandem with the museum’s new exhibit “Race: Are We So Different?”

Michele Norris began hosting NPR’s All Things Considered after working for news outlets such as The Washington Post, the Chicago Tribune, and the Los Angeles Times, eventually winning both an Emmy and Peabody Award for her coverage of the Sept. 11 terror attacks in conjunction with ABC News.

In 2006, Norris was inspired by the term “post-racial” to explore the real conversations Americans were having about race. Today, Norris directs her social experiment, “The Race Card Project.”
People from America and elsewhere may send in their six-word stories about their experiences with race to the “Project.” More often than not, Norris finds people are eager to share many of their anecdotes.

At her lecture on Wednesday, Norris shared some of the accounts she’s heard while directing “The Race Card Project.”

Once, a woman revealed she had saved an invitation to a lynching that was sent to her father. In a more intimate moment, Norris recalled learning that her own father had been shot in Birmingham, Alabama after serving in WWII. While still in uniform, her father attempted to enter a center where he was taking a class on the Constitution but was stopped by a police officer. A scuffle ensued, and the officer attempted to shoot her father. Luckily, he escaped with only a flesh wound.

Norris’ father, however, never told her about this experience. Instead, she said, he decided “to pass on ambition” to his children rather than a history of violence and oppression.

For Norris, these small moments of racial tension add up to create a person’s “wealth.” Norris proposed a new definition of wealth in relation to race. America’s “wealth” of diversity comes from these small ways we experience race, Norris said.

She said that although sometimes people’s words might sound harsh or off-putting, their curiosity to talk about race and diversity should be encouraged. Norris ended the lecture by reading some of the six-word “Race Card” stories she found funny or thought-provoking: “It’s a non-issue when aliens arrive,” “What ever happened to midnight basketball?,” “I am Asian, not a genius,” “Ghetto’s a place, not an adjective”, “Hated for being a white cop,” “Delicious ambiguity: the permanent in-betweener,” and “Still more work to be done” to name a few.

Norris’ own six-word story? “Fooled them all, not done yet.”

Many Carnegie Mellon community members who attended the lecture hope that projects like “The Race Card Project” inspire more campus dialogue on race.

For Assistant Director in the Office of the Dean of Student Affairs Shernell Smith, conversations about diversity strengthen the Carnegie Mellon community: “Food, festivals, and fairs only get you so far,” Smith said. “With the unanswered questions in the room — or the elephant in the room — these kinds of dialogues allow for us to dig a little bit deeper and really have those meaningful exchanges with one another. Because those meaningful relationships are about collaboration…. As President Subresh said earlier this week, ‘Diversity inspires innovation.’ And Carnegie Mellon is filled with innovation.”

“She really included a lot of multicultural issues; she hit on Asian ethnicities, Hispanic ethnicities, blacks, whites. I even like how she mentioned how whites are sometimes underprivileged because of the inability to say certain things that colored people can,” sophomore English major Melanie Diaz said.

For others, the lecture sparked some more critical thoughts on Carnegie Mellon’s relationship with race.

“CMU has a huge problem in that we not only devalue the humanities, but we pretend that science and technology are these holy grails of objectivity, when science and technology, in both education and application, both have a huge history of racism and sexism,” junior chemistry and creative writing double major Sophie Zucker said. “How can we call science and technology today not racist and sexist when 60 years ago we were saying that racial differences indicated intelligence?”

Others found the lecture’s tone fresh and hopeful.

“It wasn’t just ‘let’s acknowledge that race issues are alive,’ ” said the secretary of the Black Graduate Students Organization and mechanical engineering doctoral candidate Nateé Johnson. “It was also ‘Hey, let’s be comfortable in our own skin while recognizing that it’s not that different from someone else’s.’ We are naturally curious beings. We’re evolved to notice differences.… We don’t have to let stereotypes dictate how we treat people, or how we perceive people are treating us. This race conversation doesn’t have to be abrasive.”

Racism stops when we respect everyone.

Kathleen E Lo Pinto Vignolini,
Long Branch, NJ.

No other group, except maybe the Jews, have had such a long period of discrimination against them. From Slavery, to post Civil war (the North won the battle, but lost the war!) of Jim Crow, “separate but equal” led to Segregation both de facto & legalized, all because of a pseudo fear of all that is male & black!

Nothing will change, until we agree to disagree & to see all people as good, are deserving of our respect & we treat everyone with dignity, We are all “children of God” and have “inalienable rights” due every person, everywhere

Obama isn’t black. He is bi-racial.

Dan Brown,
DeWitt, MI.

Michele, you can’t have it both ways. If, as you said last night, you view Obama as black (you said “of color”) then you won’t reach a “post racial” status. To say that he’s black leads us back to the “single drop of black blood” interpretation of race. Consider: If Obama had married a white woman, would his children still be “of color” in your view? If so, where does it end? You’d always have the single drop of black blood. On the other hand, if we view him and others in similar circumstances as “bi-racial” there may be hope. After all, he’s as much white as black.
Thanks for listening.

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