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Pain is hard, friends are complicated

Jaclyn Flint,
Elmira, NY

I’ve been through a lot of pain, friends are complicated. You hang out with people for so many years, don’t know they’re racists, or jerks. Automatically if you’re with those people, you’re the same as them. When will it be normalized as ‘just because you hang out with them, you’re not like them’? Those friends have hurt me a lot and I’m still friends with them for the same reason as most people, I’ve known them and only them really. No one else wanted to be friends with me, this was my group and even though we had some rough times, the pain I had got set aside, because to them I’m “white and supposed to push through the pain because people have it worse”. Yes, people have it worse but just because I’m white, doesn’t mean I can’t have feelings because news flash, my life is rough too, which was a shocker to them.

Not all white conservatives are racists

CelestEmily,
Houston, TX.

Many people complain about discrimination, stereotypes, and prejudices relating to race; and I am under no illusion that what they experience is real and happens every day. After experiencing such treatment, I would hope that those people would be more sensitive to the subject and try not to stereotype people. Unfortunately, I believe that such profiling and grouping has become a nasty cycle in most people. I am a conservative and I live in Texas, but that does not mean I am a racist. I was half-raised by my mother’s best friend, a black lesbian. To this day I consider her family. I respect those of all races. I think as a nation we need to focus on judging a person by their character- not their skin color, race, region, or political views.

Will racists be in Heaven? – Revelation 5:9

Rev. Paul Nulton,
Vernon, NJ.

I grew up in a very racist family and church. My grandfather subscribed to magazines like “The Cross and The Sword” – John Birch society rants about how African-Americans, Jews, Hispanics (all foreigners) were less human than white folk. I remember the minister ranting about Dr. Martin Luther King in sermons and how the Civil Rights movement would ruin America. This took place in the Union North with Union soldiers buried in the town cemetery. Somehow, by grace, I could not receive these influences in my early life. The Baptists were good at teaching the Bible but they made the mistake of teaching me this verse – Revelation 5:9. It became for me the prism through which I saw their venom towards everyone not like them. Church members would say these things casually in conversations with plenty of jokes belittling others. Some still did when I led the Memorial Day Commemoration in that small Pennsylvania hamlet three years ago. I was sadden to hear some of this racist talk at Northwestern College when a student there and in Consistory meetings I’ve presided over. They got some stern responses from me for thinking and saying such things in spaces where Christ is suppose to be Lord! I sometimes ask, “Why was I preserved in the midst of such childhood moral pollution and never bought into this overarching archetypical way of thinking and being? Could it be our doctrines of grace really do have a practical side and dimension?

A Baptist offered me a free ride to Bob Jones University many years ago. What a mistake it would have been to accept it. I wouldn’t have lasted half a day when I responded to what I would have seen and heard there – the righteousness of segregation. So today when encountering certain groups of Protestant Christians and hearing such sentiments I remind them of Revelation 5:9 and ask them do they really know Jesus Christ as “their personal Lord and Savior?” “Personal Lord and Savior” is not a title for Jesus in the Gospels or New Testament. Our Lord’s Saviorhood is mostly spoken of in terms of plurality in the New Testament. He is Savior of the World, Savior of God’s elect, Savior of Israel, and so on, just as Revelation 5:9 ultimately reveals and proves. To believe otherwise is simply not to believe who Jesus really is! What I write here is not personal. It is to honor Christ!

Why the Confederate flag is NOT racist

Daisy Martinez,
Holland, MI.

The Confederate flag does not represent and never has represented racism. It’s a symbol of the southern heritage, representing freedom, states rights, individual responsibility, and resistance to an out of control federal government.
It may be true that some racists have used the Confederate flag, but racists also wave the American flag. So another words the Confederate is NOT racist, us American’s also waved around a flag (the American flag) so why should us American say it is racist that they are waving around there flag when we are waving around our own flag. They have the right to wear and or wave around the Confederate flag it is up to the how they feel about it.

No racists here; we are gated.

Peter Goodwin
New York, NY

We have separated ourselves into separate communities, sometimes with physical gates, often with mental or emotional gates, and so have very little contact with the ‘other’. And we can pretend that that we have no residue of racism in our emotional make-up while never having any contact with people of different ethnicities, never challenging our prejudices.

Most White People Are Not Racists

Glenn Schwitter
Simsbury, CT

I live in CT, am socially more liberal and financially more conservative, and I do not know any white people who are overtly racist. That would be zero, nada, none. I have also rarely/never seen a problem solved by others. All progress is made by you. The world may not be perfect, but there are mostly good people out there. We all also have prejudices, make assumptions, and create stereotypes (both positive and negative) to help explain life. I lived in NYC for many years. All street crimes and attempted robberies directed towards me were committed by young black males. This is sad, but true. Every black person I know also profiles young black males. Again, this is sad, but true. Also, at night, especially in the city, I profile anyone near me who I do not know, whether they are male, female, large, small, black, white, Asian, etc. I think this is all just common sense. So, how do we change things? How do we reduce the number of crimes committed by black males? How do we get less black males killed in the cities? How do we get people to stop blaming each other? The President is black, many who we admire and worship are black, what am I not getting? There may be fewer opportunities for black males, but there are opportunities. Clearly, I simply do not understand something? But, I know things are better than when my grandmother grew up…so I am hopeful for all people.

Why the hyphen? American not enough?

Nick Keim
Ellicott City, MD

My original thoughts when hearing about the race card project are the six words written above. Then I started to worry about putting my name on the site and what people I know might think of me. I thought about changing my six words to “Afraid to speak; am I racist?” Ultimately I went with my gut, after all I’ve had this conversation with my two best friends (Indian-American [b. NJ] and Taiwanese-American [b. Taiwan]); they disagree with me. I understand the desire for community, I just wish the community was bigger than race (or not race, don’t get me started on “Irish-American” or “Italian-American”).

Racism Deniers Are The Worst Racists

Garrick Kevin Peterson
Exeter, CA

Being a WASP, I am privy to what white people say about blacks, hispanics and other minorities. Often they think I have the same attitudes as they do, or that I am as willing to look the other way. The kind of racism I know the most about is white-on-black racism, or what I call “Bourgeois Racism.” Bourgeois racism is the kind most white people have. They are people who spout racially non-judgmental platitudes, or will tell you they have a friend or two who are black, to provide token evidence that they are not racist. They sincerely believe themselves to be not-racist. In reality, it is unusual for whites to have quality or quantity enough interaction with blacks to discover that White Privilege exists in our culture, let alone to examine how it works, or to what extent they unwittingly perpetuate it and accept it’s benefits. They experience what they perceive as positive interaction with blacks, but only when there is no competition or conflict. In effect, they can always tolerate blacks if blacks “keep their place.” About thirty years ago, I went through a very powerful transformational experience where I was led by God to convert to Christianity, and the path God led me on landed me as the only white member of an all-black church, and later, a missionary in Africa. The friendship, love and grace that I was shown, and the regular “one-of-us” way I was treated really helped me see the racism that I had in my own heart by contrast, that to realize that I had pretended to myself didn’t exist. I learned that Racism is a sin that all of us, of every ethnicity struggle with to some extent, and that we can only really overcome it by admitting it to ourselves, and striving to overcome through love, grace and “one-of-us” acceptance. This is a personal kind of affirmative action that can’t be legislated, but without it, no healing can come in the interactions of people in an increasingly diverse society. Nobody can make that transformation, or embrace the growing diversity that is a good and to-be-desired fact of our future, as long as they are busy justifying themselves or denying that they have that sinful racist tendency that really, we all have. The expression, “Race Card” is most often used by the people who want to perpetuate White Privilege, to treat Racism as if it didn’t exist, and demonize or ridicule those of us who call for repentance and overcoming of Racism. The “Race Card” Racism deniers are the worst, because they are happy with White Privilege- they want it to go on forever, and they’re running our culture over a cliff, because whites won’t be the majority in America much longer.

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