Zaynab Malik. Growing up in America in a post-9/11 world was difficult. I always felt like I had to say that I was an American first and a Muslim second so people would believe that I cared about this country. However, it is not a binary choice – I can be a patriotic American Muslim. […]
Amy Silvers. At past jobs, I’ve had to stifle aspects of my personality such as my quirkiness, the way I dress, my New York-iness, and even my hair color. I’ve never felt that I had to do that at Capital One. Here, I’m comfortable being me.
Gloria Stafford. I was underappreciated during phases of my professional career. How dare I be black and a woman!! I have witnessed others being invited to sit at the table with no experience, lack of moral character, lack of humanity and integrity. All because they fit the ‘profile’ (white male, white female) of what was […]
Jamie Walls. My belonging journey included some conversations that were very uncomfortable, but I forced myself to listen compassionately. By genuinely seeking to understand, I have grown so much as an ally.
Alyssa Wright. You always need to find love for yourself before you can love another person.
Sabrina Silvestri. A big part of who I am is my desire to help others…. I have always enjoyed being a resource for people to come to for help. Maybe I cannot help them specifically but I know someone who can. That energizes me… helping others be successful and reach their goals.
Jessica Munson. I think that human connection, feeling like I belong, is fundamental to all human beings. I know loneliness is a killer, I have had times in my life when I felt alone, I moved to a new city where I didn’t know anyone, and little things, that make me feel I belong, made […]
Caroline Hughes. So often, we close ourselves off to interactions with people who don’t readily appear to reflect ourselves. If we remain open and work to see the value that each person brings to the table, we can all benefit from the added diversity, perspective, and experience they can share.
Molly Brannan. I grew up in a household with a domestic abuser, and it is my goal as a parent to ensure my kids feel like they belong at home. I also wanted to highlight that sometimes your chosen family is more supportive and loving than your blood relatives, so “your people” covers all the […]
Ned Slichenmyer. These are someone else’s words but they resonate with me. Being kind is a choice and a conscious decision.
Ana Garcia. After transferring to the new branch, I was feeling overwhelmed and stressed. I felt nervous meeting my new team but Capital One has hired great ambassadors that have made me feel at home.
Justin Castro. I’m multi-racial and growing up, there was never an option for more than one race. My mother is white, my biological father is black, and the father that adopted and raised me was a Mexican immigrant. So biologically I’m half white/half black. Legally, I’m the son of a Hispanic. And visually, everyone has […]
Jackie Cooper. I feel like I belonged when I was recognized in an open setting amongst my peers across site. I was one of the Team Leads that had the most nominations for our end of year Pillar awards. I feel and believe that when people are recognized , they feel appreciated and valued. They […]
Alex. I have struggled for year being compared to others and I moved on from the stereotypes of what others think of me, I am positive, I have will, and I have strength never to be compared to or lied too again.
Karen Bradley. This is my manta. I have had many challenges since 2012 and this phrase has helped me through them all. I almost lost my daughter to a car accident, I had a stroke and several surgeries not related. Then in 2019, I had been informed that I had another mountain to climb. I […]
Geeta Gangaram. Positivity is a choice!
Danielle Lucas. Belonging to me a sense of comfort and to be comfortable you have to be valued and respected. Its key.
Christina Decker. This is the first full year without our son on Earth with us. Going through Covid has presented more stress than we needed this year. I have had to be strong, even when I feel weak. I am advocate for those who are no longer heard. I feel loved and supported while giving […]
Melanie Beach. This family could be family by blood, friends, coworkers, church family and a group of people who truly care for and support each other! It is a group of people where you feel loved and welcomed to be who you truly are!
Mark Houston. I CAN EASILY BE STEREOTYPED BASED ON A MIDDLE-AGED WHITE MALE THAT GREW UP IN A MIDDLE CLASS HOUSE AND ATTENDED CATHOLIC SCHOOL. HOWEVER, YOU WOULDN’T KNOW THAT I WAS BORN IN SCOTLAND, HAVE MUCH OF MY EXTENDED FAMILY OUTSIDE OF THE US AND HAVE LIVED AND TRAVELED INTERNATIONALLY MORE THAN MOST. AND […]
Ralston Vaz. I find that in our noble attempts to acknowledge one another’s intersectionality, we move to quick to label and categorize. Most people get me wrong, anticipating the make up of my identity as a “Black” man. I believe I am more than that. And to understand me may take more than a 30-minute […]
D’Arcy Schwartz. I truly believe that Capital One cares about its employees and one way it shows is how we are acknowledge for the work we do!
James Cast. As a heterosexual white male, I’m slowly seeing that my view of the world is limited by my experience. That experience includes many privileges that others are not given. As I start listening to others stories, my perspective grows and my ability to support others grows as well.
Harriet Symington. I am often in situations where I find myself putting on a facade or hiding parts of myself to fit in. Belonging, to me, is having the freedom to be completely myself and know that I won’t be judged for it. It’s having the freedom to not hide any part of my identify, […]
Abram Lipman. As an Ashkenazi Jew whose family emigrated to the U.S. in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s, assimilation and, paradoxically, being an outsider loom large in my cultural identity. But either position ultimately means not being able to both belong AND be yourself. This feeling has been amplified for me by virtue of […]
AMANDA JOHNSON. THESE ARE WORDS THAT COME TO MIND WHEN I THINK OF WHAT ONE MUST FEEL IN ORDER TO FEEL A SENSE OF BELONGING.
Ken Shah. I wish many lives would have saved if everyone wore a mask and kept their social distance. It has kept me safe so far and I intend to do so.
Jason Thorpe. It is important tome to make sure that I dont waste my energy on things in the past or future that I cannot control. Save that energy for the moment and live in that moment. More positive will come out of this effort than wasted on moments you cannot change or make an […]
tiffany. Being able to be my true self and not have to alter my ways to fit in to certain crowds/cliques is the best feeling in the world. It is a genuine inclusion knowing i have people who care for me as me!!! Even if i am a little goofy 🙂
Carina Cottner. *Some people like to think all Asians are either Chinese or Japanese. I’m neither. I have also been called Oriental which is not a race. I remember playing softball (co-ed league) and being racially harassed by the other team (all white). They were saying things like “Oh boy – we are going kung-fu […]
Emily Quiles. I realized that painful experiences I went through as a child happened for me to grow from and I am so grateful my journey has gone the way it has.
Laura X Wang. It is easy and fast to judge by appearances, but often this is incorrect, misleading, or unfair. (This is a humanized version of “don’t judge a book by its cover.”) When I was young, people used to tease me that I was a “banana”: Asian (looking) on the outside, but white (culturally) […]
Nancy Lambert. Belonging means you don’t have to choose where you fit in, but when you have to choose for external race identity purposes then you shouldn’t be limited. In our Workday system it doesn’t allow you to choose more than one race without indicating that one of them cannot be of Hispanic origin. I […]
Terri Thomas. I love these 6 words that help me feel like I belong everyday I come to work at Capital One
. Work is so much easier when you don’t have to worry about how your identity affects your relationships. Feeling like I belong makes it easier to ignore the anxiety around not being accepted or fitting in with my peers. It means that I don’t have to worry about whether I’m being promoted or held […]
Myka Herron. I aspire to be a leader and teacher within my professional field, and i believe that my experiences through life have guided me and motivated me to learn from my experiences as well as offer advise and assistance to others from my experience.
Anderson Dahdouh. As a first generation American, much of my interaction with society has come on the front that people, in general, fear what they do not know. Finding commonality early on in relationships helped establish some of the strongest bonds that still stand today. Learn the food of new cultures, and embrace how these […]
Timothy Burns. Just a pleasant few words that I think create a positive narrative
Christina Tallarico. During my divorce there was a test I took with many words (3 pages of words) and I had to narrow those words down to 4 words in short timed period. It turned out that these words meant a lot to me and are a high priority to me. – – Belonging, Trust, […]
Tina Mayo. It takes many pieces to make a puzzle and without one piece it is impossible to complete.
Lindsay Shaw. Being a full time mom, full time associate, a woman, and full time human is tough. Some days you just can’t. I’ve found that giving myself some grace is mandatory, to tell myself that even though I don’t feel motivated to do the things I need to do that it’s okay. It’s okay […]
Janecia Morris. I’ve always felt the need to be not only WANTED, but ACCEPTED by someone I desired. While feeling COMFORTABLE with someone that has a natural AFFINITY. Also, I love BELONGING to someone who is just as DESERVING as I am.
Tamika Smith. Having a sense of belonging means that you have to have all of the above in order to maintain yourself when you are dealing with a mental health issue. It is very important to being able to be yourself and for others to accept you when you are dealing with a mental health […]
Jenny. This is more about the work I choose to do and what it means to me.
Joseph Scholz. I haven’t faced any hardships, but I can try to learn from others who have. I can ask for things that they can’t if I understand what they need.
Craig Brajevich. In a world full of comparison and competition, no two people are the same. Why try and be like someone else to fit in when you are beautiful and unique as you are! Embrace yourself, flaws and all, and know that you mean something to someone and you are perfect just the way […]
Ambreen Abid. One has to keep their biases aside and listen to each other with an open mind. It allows us to understand their perspectives without judgement, accept and support the individual so they could feel safe and important.
Shannon Harrington. On paper, I am a twice divorced single mom of 2. I don’t want to be defined that way because I am so much more and have so much to give. I’ve made bad decisions but do not want to be defined by them.
Julie Hart. In reaching for a goal of unity for our nation, we need to accept others for who they are and not judge based on outside appearances.
Chantelle Sanders. Sometimes when I look around a room and see that I may be the only African American LGBQT+ woman in the room it can feel intimidating and lonely because it feels like no one else in the room may understand that experience. I remind myself that I am worthy to be in this […]
Velina. I have a very favorite speaker and researcher that speaks on subjects like belonging and etc. Her name is Brene Brown and I do encourage anyone who is interested to look up her work and her speeches
Holly Ford. The election season brought out so much hatred and negativity. We have to be better humans and accept one another. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions but we must be accepting of those even if they are different from what we believe.
Stevan Young. In my youth I read this poem by John Donne and it had a profound impact on my life and even though I didn’t know it then on my sense of belonging. Growing up in the 70’s and 80’s in Dallas as a child of parents of different races I was the lone […]
Ramon Jones. We all have been championing this pandemic as best we can. Through all of the gloom, changes and uncertainty, one thing is certain. You have made it this far. Whether you’ve clawed your way here or sailed here on smooth water…you made it! Be encouraged by your resilience.
Slava Slavin. We are all unique, come from different backgrounds and have our very unique stories. It should be celebrated! We have a unique ability to meet and get to know so many different and wonderful people over the course of our life, from each we can learn as well as share our own story- […]
Zac. I am Jewish, am from Pittsburgh, Squirrel Hill, and went to Tree of Life synagogue growing up. My family has been on the board for decades and my grandma almost went to synagogue that morning. I woke up to someone asking if I was alive and then was questioned for hours by the community […]
Amanda Nelson. Growing up in a different country, I always felt the need to mold myself into what was more accepted so I could feel like I belonged here in the US. I often erased parts of my identity to fit in with what was considered to be the norm. Little did I realize, I […]
Matt Carozza. Community, connection, and belonging are the most important things in life, without them, we have nothing. Family and friends are the key to having these things.
Kelisha George. belonging to me means acceptance by all and being together inspite your difference join forces and become one as a family
Terri Martinez. I think if we understand where people across intersecting differences are having the worst experiences we have a chance to improve more broadly. None of us have the same experiences, but we can see and learn and be there for each other and be involved in some way daily. It’s ny responsibility to […]
Lydia. As a black woman living in America as a minority I’ve watched and witnessed statements and actions of others that have said my life was less valuable than others. I stand here today believing otherwise.
Trudy Beckers. The ability to move freely but a partner of the whole.
Olga Shusterman. My 6 word is a quote from William Shakespeare and it’s very well explains my day to day life. The other quote is my absolute favorite is by Dr. Maya Angelou: I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you […]
. As a Jew, my number one pet peeve is when people (that know I am Jewish) wish me a happy Chanukah on Christmas, as if it is an appropriate alternative to wishing me a Merry Christmas. The two holidays are not the same and most years, do not even intersect with each other, so […]
Michelle Dugas. I have been raising my two “step” daughters full time since they were small. Sometimes people ask “when are you going to have your OWN kids” and don’t realize how rude that is. I HAVE my own kids! 🙂
DANIA GARDNER. I come from from very difficult beginnings and to be grateful and appreciate what I have today and how far I have come makes me happy even if they are little steps. I was not able to grow up with my parents and to have a little family of my own and be […]
Sarah Holt. Lyrics to the song ME! by Taylor Swift. Even though the song talks about how we are all different and no one is alike, it gives you the sense of belonging knowing WE are ALL different. NO one is left out. No one can be the same as me and no one can […]
Steven Zimmerman. There’s something you can learn from everyone, so always listen with a genuine, undistracted ear!
LaTeisha Felton. A sense of belonging is a human need, even if we say we want space or to be alone everyone wants to feel included, connected, important or just apart of something. Belonging also plays a vital role in our health and well being, belonging to something helps promotes better mental health, lower rates […]
Faith Cortes. You discover that your longings are universal longings, that you’re not lonely and isolated from anyone. You belong.
Faith Cortes. It means unity is strength. When you belong in a group of cooperating people, it can strongly succeed in a situation where an individual person cannot.
Mira Niswonger. I hold many identities, some come with privilege and some with disadvantages. I hold power and privilege in my identities as a Heterosexual, Cisgender, able-bodied person. And I often feel discriminated against in my identities as a middle eastern woman and working mom. As a working mom, I may be seen as both, […]
Dimple Khurana. My entire life, people have asked me if Dimple is my ‘real’ name. The question has followed me around everywhere. Except in India, where the name is from. I love being Indian — my heart & soul lives there, and it’s my happiest place. Despite that, I once changed my name to Alex […]
Ashley Schultz. Although I hope one day gender is irrelevant, I believe that over the past decade, women have made GIANT strides – in S.T.E.A.M., in politics, in business, in pay, in the world. I am proud to be a woman and to belong to this movement. I am proud to be raising a little […]
Shannon Davis. The greatest gift anyone can receive is to feel loved! Respect and Love Others! It starts with you and me!
Stacy Leccia. Teaching inclusion over exclusion is beneficial to everyone. Growing up, I witnessed unwarranted exclusion and at times felt socially isolated. Leading by example and choosing inclusion rather than exclusion can help our communities heal. Children all around are watching how we treat each other, be the light in todays world.
Nitza Franco. I personally feel that belonging is when you feel you can be you regardless of where you are or what forum. Its that family feeling and comfortable enough.
Iris Joshua. I have to be me, I can’t look like you, I can’t think like you, I can’t love like you
Theresa Hughes. As a person grounded in faith, I look to the Bible to answer questions I experience in life. There have been events over the past couple of years that have led me to question the answers societal norms have provided. Using the constant reminder that all were created in His likeness helps me […]
Bill Volberding. Throughout life, one thing I have learned is to try the find the light in a dark or troubled situations. Experience has taught me this and its something I try to live by. We all have our dark moments and there is a lot of darkness in this world. So I try to […]
Lisa Amantche. In my mid-30’s, this is my second battle with cancer. Starting to live again after the first battle felt perilous at best, but this time I’m embracing the fragility of existence in a whole new way. I decided that if I have a little time or a lot makes no difference, I will […]
Chris Seguin. Being outside on a walk is one of the few ways that we can connect with friends in the pandemic, and their views always help broaden my understanding of the world.
Matt Remen. Each and every person has different traits. Everyone should be valued and accepted for who they are.
Mary Balderaz. I come from an immigrant family who moved to the US in 1973. My parents came from a generation of being very strict with children so most of my life we remained sheltered and did not have the real world experience. When I joined the corporate world I felt out of place due […]
Dave Weaver. – Given my background as a white male, I’ve navigated virtually all aspects of my life with privilege; I’m just breaching full awareness of it and its impacts on those around me. – I don’t believe in looking back with regret. Make decisions, live with them. I hold tight to the notion that […]
Ana Valle. Seven years ago I left HOME and started a new journey that hasn’t been easy but here I stand, still moving forward, following my heart and thanking God for all His blessings.
Andrea Castruita. This feeling started when I was a young; a feeling of being stuck between worlds. My mother’s family was from Alabama and my father’s family was from Mexico. They came from two very different cultures and upbringings. My paternal grandfather brought over his family from Mexico for a better life during the Mexican […]
Victor Camacho. Events happen in our day to day life. Everyone at some point of their life’s will face some sort of adversity. Some more than others, and the intensity of the emotion will differ. No matter the situation, eventually it will pass and there may be some things we can not do or change. […]
Mauricio Moreyra. At some point in my life, I noticed I emphasized my vowels the same way my mother does. I repeat jokes I’ve heard from my best friend. I intonate my sarcasm the same way my grandfather does (and unfortunately dance the same too). Especially during quarantine, being alone has never been more significant. […]
Christine (Eunji) Kim. I lived most of my life inside a pair of parenthesis. It’s where my legal name is usually delegated to. But it’s not only the visible parts that matter. My race, my ethnicity, my national identity, my sexuality, my career, my passion — they all belong inside parenthesis. I’m never just one […]
Jessica M. We must love ourselves to share love with others. I think everyone struggles with self love some time in their life. We have always focused on our flaws and not enough time to appreciate what makes us beautiful human beings.
Mahmoud Atwa. The year started fresh. Fresh for many of us and “fresh starts” have always had strong correlations to that deep sense of being hopeful. Hopeful in such a way that that sense of being hopeful becomes the motive force to our resolve sometimes. This year started with my last semester that marked the […]
Luke Hamilton. Sometimes self doubt can cause hesitation. Believe in yourself in doing what is right.
Jung Yeo. All throughout my school years. A lot of people especially the teachers couldn’t pronounce my name correctly. As a young foreign immigrant girl, I felt like I should accept and adapt and that’s how you fit in. As I’m looking back, I don’t want any young child to feel the way I did. […]
Sherrilyn Stevens. For as long as I could remember I have been fat or overweight. The very first thing people see when they look at me is my size. I’ve been treated unfair, unkind and left with an overwhelming life of judgement from those close to me and strangers alike. It lead to years of […]
Salma Haidery. I honestly live and breath Capital one every single day that i am here as i feel Capital One is family and i am always recognized for my accomplishments . I feel comfortable at work and i know Capital One truly cares for my well being and has really taken care of all […]
Emily Brogan. I think this year has had so many trials and so much struggle. Not just the pandemic but also speaking about racial inequality, we have had natural disasters like the fires in California and the hurricanes impacting our east coast and our branches. This is a very tough year. We need to raise […]
Denise Brodbeck. A lot of people are afraid of the unknown, Step out make a difference. Be the one person to say Hey, enough is enough. Be kind
Carrie Lee. These are my updated/new 6 words. As I start moving away from how *I* was/am affected/impacted, and more towards how I can affect and make an impact, I would like to invite others to keep an open mind and heart. Be compassionate and seek to understand one another. It shouldn’t be so complicated, […]
Caylon Wright. It doesn’t matter what your race is, your skin tone, your gender, your sex, your age, etc. We all have a brain, a heart, our bodies are made up the same. The outside doesn’t reflect the inside. We must look inside to see how our neighbor, though different – is like our sister, […]
Jill Gonzalez. Inclusive, cultural diversity, equality has been a strong conversation in 2020. Treating everyone with respect and dignity will add love and peace. My 2 daughters ( ages 22 & 23) have really opened my eyes to realize the racism and bias tendency of people and I want to embrace the grace of all […]
Diana Hernandez. Kindness, seems oh so simple. Yet, your one simple act of kindness can spread like wild fire and be an everlasting, uplifting affect. Simply created all thanks to you. Mind boggling I know. So every time you have the choice to be kind or not. ALWAYS choose kindness as you just created an […]
Jessica Raffield. Growing up I always felt I had to fit a mold. Best big sister, best ball player, best student. It wasn’t until I was in my 40s that I realized it was okay to be me. Me… not mom of the year, an okay ball player, not the best cook… but what I […]
DEYLAN GALEAS. When I think of belonging, I think of feeling joy within; it comes with comfortability and the feeling of being accepted for all aspects that shine my individuality. Joy that I can be my all- belonging.
Nina Stewart. Belonging is a sense comfortability. How you feel, how you make others feel, and how others feel around you brings a sense of belonging, that leads to good conversations, and better feelings.
Jessica Jett. If we accept that similarities and differences are both valuable, then we open ourselves to listening, learning, and growing relationships that are crucial for everyone to feel they belong wherever they are – or want to be – without judgment.
. I have struggled with weight my whole life. I feel that recently, I have become more conscious about my appearance after working hard on myself and my happiness within myself. I have learned and come to understand that this will always be a part of my lifestyle and I will always need to work […]
Doronda Placide. I am so proud to work for a company I can be myself everyday. Also Capital One is a diverse and welcoming company.
Kunrui Peng I was born in Shanghai, China and moved to New Orleans, LA when I was just 3 years. By that point, my parents had spent the first 30+ years of their lives in China, and to this day we speak primarily Mandarin at home. “How do you actually pronounce your name?” In Chinese […]