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Don’t stress over the little things.

Sophia D Dionne,
South Kingstown, RI
The University System of New Hampshire

Lately, I’ve been trying not to stress out about things that are out of my control or things that I shouldn’t be wasting my time on. I overthink the little things and I know that many others do too. This is my reminder to myself and others to please don’t stress about the little things. I would like to be better about taking time to meditate or use other ways to destress and focus on things in life that deserve my time.

I can’t help being born white

Christina Sinclair,
Warren, RI

I try my best to stay out of the line of fire when it comes to race. As far as I’m concerned as long as my own thoughts and opinions are private and locked away if they aren’t socially acceptable and I’m not hurting anyone then why can’t I think the way I do??? Why do I need to change? I didn’t do anything wrong so it’s not fair to those of us who just don’t care about any of it.

I’m filling in my blind spots.

William Bullard,
Bristol, RI

I grew up in mostly white communities and joined and retired after 30 years from a U.S. Navy Officer Corps that still largely looks like me and reflects my life experience as a white male. It almost goes without saying that I have never experienced discrimination or marginalization because of who or what I am. It was easy and comfortable for me to believe as long as I was fair to all and upheld well-intentioned (and required) policies preventing racial discrimination that I was doing enough. In reality, all I did was give myself permission to succeed in an organization where I felt no pressure to be anything other than what I am while not considering any of my fellow Sailors who felt that pressure.

I’m grateful to the Black woman and fellow officer who made me aware of this “blind spot” in the months before I retired; I am correcting my vision as a chart my new course in life.

My natural hair is not disrespectful.

Lunia Collado
Cranston, RI

As an adult, I’ve been living between the US and the Dominican Republic. While in the US, curly/kinky hair is not usually a big deal, it definitely can be, and is often perceived as unprofessional for situations such as job interviews and media appearances. In the Dominican Republic, the issue of hair is a breathing, intimidating monster. I’m pretty sure that well over 60% of the population has curly or kinky hair, but you would never know it walking through the streets. I have seen personally how differently people treat women who wear their hair straight compared to those who wear it curly, and most women are at a loss when it comes to styling curly hair. My cousin in the DR told me that in her communication class at a technical school, the professor advised the female students to go to the salon and straighten their hair before any professional events or class presentations, because wearing it curly is disrespectful. I would really like to meet that woman to have a talk about racism.

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