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White but never owned a slave

Crystal,
Fredericksburg, VA

Honestly I am getting sick and tired of being told I need to apologize for slavery. I have NEVER owned a slave and refuse to apologize for something I had no part in.
I do not feel privileged in fact if a white man and a black man with the same credentials apply for a job guess who gets the job? Not the white man.
What I do see as racist is the fact that there can be schools and grants and organizations that cater ONLY to black people but if there were an all-white school or organization that is racism.
I hate that black people can be proud of their own race but if a white person is its racist.
I have LITERALLY had a social worker look at me dead in my eye when I was once homeless with a child and say these exact words to me “if you were black I could help”
Where is my privilege?
I have been mistreated by police before
Where is my privilege?
I have seen my children run off of playgrounds because the black kids said whites were not allowed to play
Where is my white privilege?
I hear “y’all white people” constantly
Where is my fight against racism? I am one person I am not all white people
I am not a slave owner
I don’t have not am I offered anything above what anyone else is offered. In fact, it is the opposite I have roadblocks because I am white!
Because I am white
statues of my descendants are being destroyed.
Because I am white
I cannot attend certain collages
Because I am white
My children cannot play at certain playgrounds
Because I am white
I dont qualify for certain scholarships or schools
Because I am white
I am not allowed to be openly proud of anything that portrays my race.
Because I am white
I am not allowed to have a voice without being attacked if my views do not match some others views
Because I am white
I am actually the one being discriminated against

My father endearingly calls us “Cottonpicker.”

Thais
TX

My father, age 83, born in a small town in northern Louisiana, has always called my siblings, cousins, and I “Cottonpicker.” My father is the grandson of “Old Man Bass”–as they referred to him, a slaveowner, and Grandma Meli, short of Amelia, an enslaved African-American woman who lived to see freedom. Grandma Meli had several children by Old Man Bass, one of which was my grandfather Elisha. Elisha was born years after slavery ended. Many of the African-American men or shall I say “colored” men in his era had no other choice but to be sharecroppers. But my grandfather and his wife Rosa, owned 80 acres in Louisiana where they primarily harvested cotton–one of slavery’s trademarks. My father was #11 of 14 children born to Elisha and Rosa. The family fled from Louisiana to Oklahoma for safety, after an altercation between my father’s older brothers and a white man who mistreated their mother, Rosa. My father, Dorris, was just months old when they left. A few years later, the family moved to central California, better known as Chowchilla, CA, in hopes of making a better living. One might think, they escaped cottonpicking. But as my father tells it, there was more cotton in California, than in Mississippi or Louisiana. My father woke early to tend to the farm animals. After school he’d pick cotton. And lots of it. He picked cotton from a young boy to the age of about 25. Even at that age, any money he earned, was handed all over to this mother. One day, he got tired of picking cotton. He up and moved to Pasadena, CA along with his wife and two children, who lived with him on this parents farm. He eventually landed a job working as a construction worker for the city of L.A. for over 30 years. He tells about how when a white man was hired, it was his duty to train him–and then a week or two later, that white man would become his boss. He is retired now. His voice still rings in my ears, while playing with cousins out at the family reunions, “Come here you little cottonpickers!” And we all ran to his lap. I had no idea until I was in my 20’s that he was calling me, what some might consider “a little slave.”

This sideboard was built by slaves

Peter Seay,
St. Louis, MO.

After my grandparents past away, we inherited a sideboard which promptly found its home in our dining room. As it came into our home, it was shared with me that the piece was built in the early 19th century by slaves in Mississippi. The sideboard was my first real knowledge that my ancestors were slave owners. Despite its ornate woodwork and beautiful craftsmanship, it stood as a gravestone in my childhood home, constantly reminding me of my grandparents death, the lives my ancestors came from, and the deep pains caused by my last name. It is to be left to me next. I do not look forward to this day nor the circumstances that will bring it again into my home.

I unpack my white privilege daily.

Sarah Walton
Nashville, TN

I descend directly from southern slave-owners and, more recently, racists. My family’s wealth is built on the backs of over a thousand slaves.

It is my karmic duty to be a social-justice & race-relations activist; to call for reparations; to march; to force as many friends & family to look through “Without Sanctuary” as possible; to feel happier inside whenever a black person is hostile or self-protective in my company instead of acting deferential – “yes! yes! BE ANGRY towards me!”, i think; to call for FEDERAL funding of public education; to own my own inevitable bias & prejudice; to speak about the elephant in the room… I struggle with my own intense hatred towards white people and white culture… and i am almost always alone in all of this, even among my most progressive, “enlightened” white friends.

I wish our country could learn from South Africa and begin a process of Truth & Reconciliation… we will be choked and paralyzed by (very appropriate) white guilt until such occurs.

Thank you, Michele.

Slave owning ancestors mortgaged my future.

Buford Woolley,
Pittsburgh, PA.

My mostly white family tree flows through S Carolina, Georgia, Virginia, Alabama, Mississippi, Tennessee, Arkansas, Texas, Oklahoma, and lastly California where I was born. Many were slave owners. One outlier was lynched because he supported the Union and opposed slavery. The question to me, did my ancestors mortgage my future?

I didn’t own any slaves.

me-and-Davins-dogsDavid Murray
Springfield, IL

Racism is real – all around. Frankly, I am tired of being considered a racist just because I am a white male. I have a family history that had some slave ownership, but also those that worked (worked very hard – and died) to end slavery. Levi Coffin is ancestral First Cousin of mine. I am tired of abuse being done against me just because I am white male. My white ‘privilege’ hasn’t allowed me anything that I didn’t work for. Some – want a free ride on the account of race…and that cheapens the real racist issues we have as a society.

Racism takes many forms and colors.

Catherine Marenghi
Marblehead, MA

My family is white, and I was pleased to find no slave owners in my past — but I found a slave. The American Revolutionary War was fought with the help of slave soldiers: Hessian (German) soldiers were forcibly taken from their homes an sold as slave soldiers to King George of England. One of my ancestors was forced into being a slave soldier at the age of 14, captured in Newport, RI, then forced into indentured servitude. Not as terrible a slavery as Africans endured — but another variant of slavery in our collective American history.

African Americans were slave owners too.

Leonard Henry
Atlanta, GA

Check out this scholarly book, Black Slaveowners: Free black Slave Masters in South Carolina, 1790-1860, by Larry Koger ISBN 0-89950-160-5. Also read the book Two Princes of Calibar. This is a true history of two West African brothers who were sold into slavery, won their freedom in the courts and went back home to Africa and started their own slave business, having learned about the trade as slaves themselves.

My ancestors were Appalachian slave owners.

Cindy Hutchison Russell
Guadalajara, Mexico

Took a graduate course in circum Atlantic slavery – did my own family research – discovered that my direct ancestors in the Cumberland Plateau of Tennessee – were slave owners – as were hundreds of small farm owners and dirt farmers in the 1700’s and 1800’s…

Ambivalent, because my family owned slaves.

Charles H. Sides
Westminister, MA

I always felt superior because my great-great grandfather Sides was conscripted against his will or support into the Confederate Army, deserted, was captured by the Army of the Potomac, and imprisoned at Elmira where he died. Then, as I learned more about my personal genealogy, I discovered that every other branch of my family owned slaves in North Carolina. A national conversation that still is largely ignored.

White girl. Black school. Called “slave owner.”

Erin Murphy
Barling, AK

I grew up in a mostly African American neighborhood outside Miami, Florida. My friends never made me feel out of place but the other 60% of the students at the schools I attended sure did. My great-grandparents were immigrants -on one side of the family I was third generation American. That didn’t matter because my skin was pale. Automatically I had to have had something to do with slavery in America. To many people that didn’t bother to get to know me I was just “white girl” or even worse,(to a 15 year old kid) mistaken for a teacher. There was always a “cracker day” coming up when light-skinned Hispanic kids and the two or three other Anglo kids at the school would get beaten or attacked. One school administrator told me “if you didn’t want to get your white ass jumped, you should have stayed home.” When kids did shout out slurs and say I was a slave owner I thought it would be great to explain to them that there was no way I could be a slave owner because slavery in the U.S. was abolished over 100 years before I was born. I never said it out loud because I figured a smart-ass comment would just get me into more trouble.

Crossing the Racial Divide, Marietta, GA

REPOST: Story by Patricia Templeton

One Church was founded by slave owners, the other by former slaves.

On a recent cold, wet winter night their spiritual descendants crossed the divide that separated their ancestors and came together to share a meal, to talk, and to listen to a national journalist tell the story on conversations about race in her own family. The sharing of untold stories can open doors to healing. Story by Patricia Templeton Read the Full Story, Download here.

WABE’s Rose Scott was there. Listen to the story here.


Photos courtesy of Cindy Brown Photography 

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