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Privilege is real. I get it.

image25Eric Moore,
Anchorage, AK.

“I get it” cuts three ways. First, I understand this is true. Second, I am in most ways the example of a person who is privileged and this has brought me opportunities, second chances and more.
But Third can be an exasperated “I get it” because no matter the advantages I’ve enjoyed I’m still constantly faced with worries over the challenges I’m bound to face in the future. So privilege often doesn’t seem relevant in day-to-day life… and of course it’s a privilege that I can usually leave anything race-based off of my list of worries. So if “I get it,” it’s not that I don’t care. It’s more like “I’m uncomfortable but I don’t know what to do.”

“So, what are you?” “An American.”

KM-pic-1Kristin Maerke,
Springfield, MO.

When I was younger I was very annoyed by the question, “What are you?” Which were usually the first three words spoken to me. I have since learned to embrace my cultural diversity, and sometimes even enjoy making people guess (it tends to make them quite uncomfortable).

Family talks, and I get mad

Tasha Thompson,
Coon Rapids, MN.

I’m a 19 year old white female, and my grandma was born in the 40s. She is very old fashioned and when she talks about my mom’s work in a majority black community where the accept EBT, she starts to sneer and act like it’s the worse thing that could happen. It always makes me uncomfortable and I don’t even want to go to holidays anymore because I’m sick of her comments towards black people. It makes me upset that she would even think it is ok to talk like that, but my family just says it’s the way she was raised.

Uncomfortable around non-Asians, don’t know why

Pamela,
USA

I grew up in a predominantly Asian neighborhood in Southern California. It was a hard transition living in places where Asians were the minority…non-Asians were just so foreign. But I’m doing exactly what I’m fighting against: making others the Other. My brain has learned to fight these Othering thoughts, but I can’t always change my gut feeling.

I Don’t Get To Be Colorblind

Jenn-profile2Jenn M. Jackson,
Chicago, IL.

Every single day I am accused of “making things about race.” I’m told that I’m “looking for racism” in everything. I’m told I must lead a sad, angsty life since I can’t stop pulling the “race card.” I often get this feedback from Whites who feel uncomfortable when I note their privilege or that institutional racism creates a self-perpetuating system of “haves” and “have nots.” But, those folks overlook the fact that asking me to ignore race isn’t the same as asking a White person who likely doesn’t face systemic bias each day. Me ignoring race is me shutting out, avoiding, and silencing a central part of my lived experience in the United States. It’s unnatural. It’s uncomfortable. It’s not me. I just don’t get to be colorblind. I’m not sure I would if I could. But, most importantly, it’s my responsibility not to ignore race especially in this day and time. I’m okay with that.

I feel uncomfortable with you here.

Terrie,
East Palo Alto, CA.

Soon after moving to an exciting silicon valley in the first years of the internet boom, it felt like anything was possible in this new world. I was invited by a friend to a party given by a start-up founder, held at his home. We arrived separately from my friend and settled in with my 6 month old. After sitting and chatting for a while, I fixed a plate and sat down to eat. It was then that the hostess came to my side and told me, “I don’t feel comfortable with you in my house.” I was the only African American present, other than my infant. I looked around me as everyone else, people I had been chatting with a moment before, averted their gazes. My embarrassment mounted as I gathered my things, my baby, and my husband and left. My friend apologized, but I just couldn’t face her again after this experience, and that was the end of our budding friendship. I didn’t feel the same about the ‘wild, free’ tech industry after that. I wish that even one person had stood up for me.

Black culture is alien to whites

Jane Levin,
Charlottesville, VA.

There’s a fantastic scene in the film, An American Werewolf in London, where the American backpackers go into a pub called the Slaughtered Lamb. They are so uncomfortable because they are so out of place and completely clueless about the local culture. To say they feel conspicuous and uncomfortable is an understatement. That’s what it’s ike for whites to enter a completely black gathering. We don’t have enough exposure to the uniqueness of being immersed in African American culture.

You are more than one race?

R.E.A.L. Talk,
High Tech Middle Media Arts,
7th Grade Trailblazer

Before this project I didn’t know much about race or racism, but then I figured out a lot of people have been stereotypical or racist in my community, with my friends, or people on social media. When I heard this term that people were saying it kind of hurt me because they were saying things like ¨ All white girls do this…¨ and I didn’t know how to react because I didn’t know that was towards me. I thought this because I didn’t identify as ¨white.” I identified as Irish, Norwegian, Scottish, and more. That’s how I got this memoir because a lot of people think I am just ¨White¨ or ¨American¨ but I wanted to prove that I am more than that, I think I´m way more unique this way. I´ve grown up in amazing, loving and accepting family, I’ve always been taught to treat people how they want to be treated, which helped me because some parents don’t teach their kids about racism and how everyone should be treated the same, which could cause problems when their older because if we don’t address this problem nothing will change. Sometimes people don´t want to talk about the issue of racism because it could be uncomfortable or they don’t want to talk about the negative parts of life and what’s going on.

Race was made by US.

Race was not made by genetics, it was made by US. Most people think race is biologically real, but it was really made by Europeans who found people that looked and talked differently from them, so they categorized them into a ¨race.¨ This happened because they were ¨usually assigning the highest qualities to their own people and lower qualities to the “Other” people, either lower classes or outsiders to their society.¨ They made it so they were more powerful than people that were different from them. Race is a manmade word that turned into racism, which caused a lot of controversy between different ethnicities, because they were being rude to each other, but it all started with the Europeans being racist, then evaluated to ¨white¨ people being racist against ¨black¨ people. Racism back then was awful: there were separate water fountains, pools, schools. Even though we’ve come a long way with fixing a lot of racism in our world, there is still a very long way to go because we don’t accept the fact that it doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside. It matters what you look like on the inside.

It’s Okay To Talk About Race

Courtnay S.,
Arlington, VA.

Why are we so uncomfortable talking about racial privilege? Does anyone shy away from saying they are privileged because of their income, sex, language, or education? Western privilege exists. English-speaking privilege exists. On that same token, white privilege exists. It is okay to have money, to be male, to be American, or to have a bachelor’s degree. On the same token, it is okay to be white. But it is not okay to ignore the implications of racial privilege simply because it makes some people feel guilty or angry. So let’s do it. Let’s start trying to fix the disparities in the country (and across the globe). Let’s get uncomfortable together.

Alright if I look at you?

Margaret Snyder,
South Portland, ME.

I live in a predominately “white” city, but one where there are over 60 languages spoken. I see people of all colors around the city, and I find the languages, clothing, and colors to be enjoyable to experience, but I often feel it is not okay to stop and observe – I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable being looked at – they don’t know what I’m thinking – I want the freedom to look at and enjoy the diversity. So, can I look at you?

I am white, uncomfortable around white’s

Paige,
USA.

I’m am a white woman, oddly uncomfortable being around all white people. Maybe because I date black men, maybe because I hear so many racial slurs (against blacks). Maybe because I see how judgmental white people are to minorities. White people treat me as though I am wrong for dating outside my race. White men think I am “ruined” for dating black men (A white guy friend of mine once told me that) . I have a sense of comfort around black people or any other minority for that matter. I feel safe, I feel at ease, not judged. I don’t feel like an outsider or a “trader.”

It’s sad how uncomfortable this is

Wes,
Boston, MA.

I feel like the topic of race has become uncomfortable for many people because we assume the worst of people’s words. A discussion that includes the ethnicity of another person too commonly leads to an argument or someone accused of being a racist when no harm was intended or when a fact was stated that was not discrimination. Because of this, when assigned this project, I felt like whatever I said could lead to someone being offended or thinking I have some sort of racial bias, so I chose to not even mention my own race and focus on the problem that we have and the problems we have discussing race when almost always, people mean no hard and have no racist intentions.

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