As hard as I try to see people as people, not black or white or Asian etc., I can’t seem to deprogram my brain. I remember the day I was helping at a school giving enrichment lessons to a group of advanced students. When they came into the room there was one black girl and I found myself thinking, “that’s a surprise”. I was horrified with myself. When I got home I called a friend who was married to a black man. I told her what had happened and she told me that even after all these years of being around her husband’s family, she still found herself thinking in terms of white and black. Neither of us felt good about it!