Wait, why is your grandma Asian?

Ryan Flanagan,
Mountain View, CA

A friend in high school asked me this question after meeting my grandmother, who is Filipino. I grew up eating pancit and lumpia and feel a strong connection to my Filipino heritage, but am often met with eye rolls since my appearance reads as white. I worry that my blue-eyed daughter will be too embarrassed or ashamed to lay claim to this part of her identity.