I get this question often. Mostly at work. It never fails to infuriate me, particularly because the question is only ever directed at me and is not asked of my white coworker, who is also in the room. I am a 2nd generation Australian Chinese and unfortunately, couldn’t speak Chinese to save myself. In the 80s people would shout at me ” Go back to where you came from!!!”. So I find the question “where do you REALLY come from”, along with little “jokes” about Chinese physical characteristics or people trying out their Chinese language skills on me, both presumptive and offensive. And tiring. And not funny.