Susan Tiedemann.
Throughout my life, I’ve had people tell me I’m not “completely white” because of my kinky hair. I’ve been told I should straighten it at different times of my career to “look more professional”, “look more serious”, etc. I was told our babysitter was my Mom because I had hair like hers and my brother was dark like her (he was adopted). Our parents always answered our questions to this as “so what? what does it matter?” They taught us to be comfortable in our own skin because everyone is the “same underneath it all”.
