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Por supuesto que soy su mamá

Sonia Kang
Northridge, CA

Are you their mom? As a biracial mom (Black/Latina) married to a Korean man with children who look more Asian than anything else, we are often looked at with curiosity. They look at them then at me. Is she the nanny? Who can she be? Whether at their Korean language immersion school, Tae Kwon do class or at the park, I get the inquisitive look. There are those that just stare but then there are those bold enough to inquire, are they your children? Of course they are my children!

Too mixed too choose just one!

bangstessTess Escoto,
Citrus Heights, CA.

My roots are in Texas and Mexico. While some may look at me and say that I appear to be Latina, often they aren’t sure. My father’s last name is of Italian origin and my grandmother and grandfather (paternal) both had blue eyes and black curly hair. My mother’s family is proud to be a mix of Native American and Texan heritage. I married a man who is African American, Filipino and Russian. I am amazed at the possibilities and love every difference that I see in those I meet. I could never choose just one race for any future kids I have. Let them choose and be proud of everything they are!

Disabled Veteran: Caucasians only see Latina.

Ingrid Ponce,
Orange Park, FL

In the years of his (Mr. Trump) first Presidency term:

A white man mocked, harassed and tried to run over me with his huge truck in a Florida gas station. His hostility towards me stopped only when a young Asian man at the gas station called his attention and told him to stop.

A caucasian woman sped-up and tried to run over me with her antique sedan in a California shopping parking lot.

They only see a short Latina: they do not know that I am a disabled veteran who stayed for 20 years in the military. They do not know that I sacrificed my mind, my memories, my happy self, and that I now live trapped in constant fear with nightmares, and see and hear things that are not there (that I live with PTSD) after my tour in a war zone. They do not know that I would do it again (enlist in the Military) because I love The United States, that I would sacrifice myself, for their peaceful existence, for their family, for their freedom.

Indian dad, European mom, identified Latina.

11-1Nisha Balaram,
Oakland, CA.

My dad would joke around, saying that my mom couldn’t help but fall in love with him when she first saw him. My mom was usually busy in the kitchen at the time, and would smile and roll her eyes in response to his comment; when the pungent scent of lentils and turmeric finally filled the house, jokes were put aside. Growing up, my mom occasionally laughed and said that if she had any more freckles on her arms, she’d be considered brown too. But I prefer the differences between my parents; they are not perfect, but they are a perfect combination. Growing up, our small family of four was geographically isolated from extended family members, with our relatives dispersed across the U.S. and India. During high school, I found a home in various Latino cultures, and was drawn to the many traditions and large family gatherings. Now reflecting back, I cherish the connection I had with being an “honorary Latina,” because it is within that culture that I found a sense of belonging. However, this same sense of belonging reminds me of my complex roots and the opportunity I have within my own family to connect myself with an intricate and beautiful network. After all, we are all human, and have so much to learn from each other.

Ustedes no deciden quién yo soy.

Sam,
Atlanta, GA

There’s a large amount of emphasis on society defining who I am, what I should identify as, how “Latina” I really am (based on language comprehension, cultural comprehension, immersion). But, my identity isn’t rooted in how society wants those like me to be perceived: I am rooted in my immigrant parent’s sacrifices for me and my siblings, my compassion for people and my curiosity for the world, my tangible passion for exploring the unknown, and my faith. I am the owner of my identity, no one else.

Latina raised in the suburbs….Wepa

Brenda Enid Mejias,
Honeybrook, PA.

True Puerto Rican girl…..
I am the one with all the family recipes…
And I love being her.

Wepa– According to Urban Dictionary
A word of jubilation that is uttered by mainly Hispanics, especially within the Puerto Rican community. It normally is yelled at high volumes in a nasal manner, especially after something that is celebrated. “Wepa” normally means, “All right! Good job! Congratulations! Yeah!”

When saying, “Wepa!,” you must hold the “e” for the longest amount of time, and “a” for just as long. Variations are also acceptable.

Pronounced: Weh – pah; you must say it nasally or there is no true jubilant effect.
Student 1: I just a 98 on my Chemistry final!
Student 2: All right, man! WEPA!

Puerto Rican singer: ¿Estamos listos? (Are we ready?)
Audience: WEPA!!!!

Priest: I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride.
Attendee: WEEEEEEEPAAAAAAAAAAAAA! (applauding the couple as he says it)

What does Puerto Rican look like?

Janet Jimenez
Washington, DC

Puertorriqueño(a) is the “proper” term used to address a native islander from Puerto Rico. Do not confuse with Newyoricans, or anyone else born outside the island to Puertorriqueño parents. A real Puertorriqueño(a) knows the words to “La Borinqueña”, speaks Spanish (FLUENTLY), has lived on the island, and cries to the words of “En Mi Viejo San Juan”. Other terms used to refer to a person from “La Tierra del Encanto” are: Puertorro(a) = a shortened version, Borinqueño(a) = after the island’s Taino name “Borikén”; and Boricua = a variant of the previous. The terms Boricua or Puertorro(a) can sometimes be insulting, particularly to an affluent person. However, average people, especially those from the “caserios”, do not typically mind these terms. I copied this from Urban Dictionary as its the one definition I like the best. People mistake me for Lebanese, or some mixed race Latina. Parents are straight up from PR. Gray eyes on the paternal grandparents side and white skin as well. It’s been an interesting subject to explore. What do you say?

Do you make your own tortillas?

Norma Torres Addis,
Seattle, WA.

The first time I heard this question, I thought it was funny. After hearing it a few times, it made me wonder. If my heritage is Mexican and I don’t know the first thing about making tortillas does that make me less of a Latina? So many times organizations I work with have tried to start the conversations about racism and social justice over ethnic potlucks. While I agree that sharing a meal brings people together, aren’t we more than just the food we eat?

Learn more about Norma Torres Addis’ six words on NPR’s Morning Edition

“The only Mexicans I’ve ever met ..”

Josie Villanueva
Washington, DC

“… pick our melons on my Daddy’s farm.” she said to me, with wide eyes, on one of the first days at Hoosier Girls State. I was one of the very few Latinas in the program, a delegate chosen for my academic excellence and leadership at my high school. I think it was her surprise at seeing me there that was the most heartbreaking. I was 17 years old and the year was 2005.

Latina I am I am me

Carmen Angelica Zapata,
Santa Monica, CA.

I lived in Spain for a year after growing up in the United States and for the first time I was not other. No one yelled “speak English!” no one asked if I was legal, or if I was going to be deported. It was the first time in my life where I looked and spoke like everyone else, I was freed from my identity and was for the first time allowed to just see me.

You’re Dominican? But you’re Black, really.

JLW_BWJuleyka,
Oxford, CT.

This phrase is often said to me by African Americans and other (usually darker) people from the Caribbean who insist that though I am Dominican/Latina, I am Black in the United States because of its racial history and current xenophobic climate. It’s nullifying in so many respects, and usually leads me to lose respect for the person, who is doing to me–classifying, categorizing, boxing-in–what Whites have done to “others” for centuries.

I’m unsure of my own identity

Rosalina Holloway-Vicente,
Edinburg, VA

I am someone who has always dealt with questions of if I speak Spanish or if I’m Latina & I honestly never looked into it. While my complexion is not completely white and I have a white parent and a Guatemalan parent, I have never looked into who I am. I am just an observer to the world, and I am not sure how to feel about it. (LFCC)

No, I’m not faking my accent!

Rachel James,
Syracuse, NY.

Growing up in a Latina household I learned the English that my mother spoke as a Panamanian immigrant. Therefore, I learned to say certain words while rolling my r’s or with an accent and I don’t notice it because that’s how I learned to pronounce them. But because I look more African than Latina people always think I’m “faking it”, “trying to be something I’m not”, or “trying to show off”. Seriously!? No, I’m not faking my accent!

Bicultural and Bilingual should be enough.

Megan Medrano,
Houston, TX.

Growing up Latina in south Texas, I have always been surrounded with rich culture. My home was filled with both the English and Spanish language and I was encouraged to live both my Mexican and U.S. Latina identities. I did not realize how important an ethnic identity was until I came to college. Discussions of “what does being a real Mexican look like?” and “am I more Mexican or more American?” really pushed me to search for my identity. The hidden criticism that people like me face begs the question of “Am I Mexican enough to be considered Mexican and am I American enough to be considered American”. I soon came to realize that striving to be one or the other is not who I should be, but instead embrace the heritage and the country that has made who I am. I am both Mexican and American, bicultural and bilingual, and that should be enough.

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