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I trusted adults that taught hate.

Stan Pitts
Anchorage, AK

I grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, and was 10 years old during the fateful year 1963. My father was a Birmingham Police officer terribly conflicted between upholding the law and the treatment of the civil rights participants. My trusted adults and role models, the church leaders, scout masters, and teachers, taught me that while “all men are created equal” and that “Jesus loved the little children of the world”, it really meant white men and white children. I didn’t have a black classmate until high school, and my last two years were wracked by school-wide violence, especially during sporting events. I didn’t realize I was a racist until I was drafted and exposed to new people and ideas. I struggled with prejudice until my daughter married a black man. He is a wonderful person, husband and father and they have been happily married for twelve years. I asked my daughter why she married him, knowing the difficulties of bi-racial relationships, especially where she lives in Texas. To my surprise, she said that I had taught her to respect and care about all people, and that’s what she did. I cried.

Nice small town has race issues.

Sara Przybylski
Stevens Point, WI

People think this is a great place to live, work, and raise kids… and it is. Just under the surface, though, there’s a little more going on. I grew up here. I saw my first African American person at the grocery store at the age of four-ish and loudly complimented his “really good tan,” much to my poor mother’s embarrassment. There wasn’t much in the way of cultural diversity (save a family here or there) until the late 80s, when Hmong refugees were relocated to, among other places, Central Wisconsin. Since then, our Hispanic population has also increased (some of the population is migrant, some year-round), and more African-American families and individuals have moved to the area. While the White population sits at around 85% or so, things look different than they did just 25 years ago… and some people aren’t reacting well.

I teach English as a Second Language, and work closely with many of these students who, a quarter of a century ago, would have looked incredibly out of place in our schools or on our streets. On the surface, things are OK… and then you start hearing things. We’ve gotten past the “Hmong people will eat your dogs!” fever of the early 1990s, but I’ve had (college-educated) friends make some comments that could have come straight out of the mouths of 1960s-style segregationists.

“I’m glad I don’t live in that neighborhood anymore. You know, the Hmongs.”

“They all used to live in the John’s Drive housing area. Why are they moving other places? It’s better to keep all those kids at one school.”

“They live, like, 12 people to a house. This isn’t the third world. We don’t live with four generations and an aunt and an uncle under one roof here.”

“I’m glad my kids are in private school so we don’t have to deal with all that.”

These are things I hear from people who I would otherwise have considered to be friends. College-educated, mostly. The half-truths and twisted truths and complete fabrications boggle the mind. The historical hypocrisy of it never ceases to amaze. Yes, many second-generation citizens are still speaking a language other than English at home. You know what? My grandmother, whose grandfather immigrated to the U.S. from Poland before her father was born, failed kindergarten because she couldn’t speak English. So, you know… pot, meet kettle. Know your own cultural history before you shoot your mouth off about someone’s assimilation, or lack thereof. Last I checked, we still eat ponczkis before Lent starts and dance the Polka at weddings, and most Polish-Americans in Portage County are, what, fourth (Fifth? More-th?) generation at this point.

I love you, dear hometown, but you’ve got some work to do.

Imagine not meeting strangers with guns.

Daniel Knoll,
Saint Louis, MO.

These may or may not represent how I feel about race,,,I am in Missouri, and grew up in the town right next to Ferguson..i am a white guy, but the adopted son of a Native American (full Cherokee) mother, and German -American father…not to minimize the legitimacy of the real race issue, and the consistant racism Blacks folks still face, but I am a very pale-skinned white guy, and have received some harassment /bullying because of it…I watched the PBS special about Ferguson MO, and the larger associated issues, and it inspired me to write several of them, and share them,,again, some are my feelings, and some are about the larger issue, and some are reflecting things I’ve heard..

Police harassed undercover cop wearing hoodie.

V.
USA

I’d rather not share my name right now due to the sensitive nature of the incident. While working undercover, I decided to duck into a burger joint to get a bite. It was cold and drizzly outside. I was wearing a hoodie. I am Latino. It was about midnight. I admit that I looked rough in a rough neighborhood, but I wasn’t breaking any laws. As I was ordering, a large white cop approached me and told me to take off my hood. I asked him why and he said “because I said so”. I didn’t think he was serious and I tried to ignore him until he demanded that I take off my hood. I told him no. He grabbed my arm and attempted an arm lock on me to facilitate hand cuffing. He said that he would arrest me. I gave in. I was hungry, after all. I told him ok, and I took off my hoodie. He won. He went back and sat down with a colleague of his.

After I ordered, I walked over to him and sat down with him and the other cop. I gave him a piece of my mind as I tossed my badge on the table in front of him. They said that I should have told them I was a cop and they wouldn’t have treated me like that. I said “so you wouldn’t have violated my civil rights if you knew I was a cop?” They were speechless.

“You’re the reason people hate cops” I said to them.

All races in family equals love

image (1)Val Andrew,
Overland, MO.

My parents taught us early on to accept all people and invited international college students of different races, religions, and nationalities to stay with us during holidays. During the Vietnam War we hosted an AFS student from Vietnam for a year. I grew up a few miles from Ferguson and taught middle school there. I chose where I live now because of the diversity in my neighborhood. Love is the answer.

Lights flipped, pulled over, relax brother

JC Ousley
Houston, TX

In 1998 I bought a new red corvette despite my mother’s plea, she said the car was trouble for a black man. On the day the car was delivered, I was driving to my parent’s home to show off my new vette when I was pulled over by three Chicago police cars, the officers, all white, had their guns drawn as they approached me. There was a black officer who arrived later and remained in his vehicle, I looked directly at him and he looked away. The officers asked me where I was going and what I did for a living (I’m a medical professional). I politely told them and asked why I was pulled over. I never got an explanation. While I waited for them to check my plates and registration, I took the opportunity to have the “talk” with my 6 yr.old son who was in the car with me. The officers returned my drivers license and registration and told me to have a nice evening. Shaken, I continued on to see my parents and I never told of the incident. My son who is now 20, never forgot it.

The police work for you. Vote.

Alf Newlin,
NJ.

These six words popped in my mind while watching the national coverage about Ferguson as well as from a multi year experience centered around a community’s effort to materially improve community friendly public safety. Oddly the demographics for the referred to community are so very different than those communities currently in the national news that the lessons learned are completely relevant.

White folks get to be stupid.

423a-8x10Worokya Duncan, Ed.D.,
Saint Albans, NY.

It grates on my nerves that white folks get to be stupid, and it turns into the fault of that one person or one family. One Black person’s idiocy turns into the fault/problem of all Blacks in America. How does the country STILL rationalize criminalizing people/bodies/colors that have been marginalized and criminally mistreated for CENTURIES??? How is this still a thing? How do we say it’s ok to have city planners continue to redistrict to benefit Whites? How do we say it makes sense to stop and frisk ONLY people of color because they “look” guilty to scared whites? Why are we ALL not appaled by the fact that there are NO instances of rampant accidental killings of white kids by Black cops, but we have the reverse with no consequence? Whites get to be murderers. Whites get to be stupid. Whites get to ignore what their color has done in this country to other people. I’m sick of it.

Hated for being a white cop.

Brett Maisel
Nacogdoches, TX

As a young, naive police officer I mistakenly thought most people would appreciate my sincere desire to help and protect the citizens of my community. I was shocked to find out that some people (who didn’t even know my name, background or what was in my heart) hated the very sight of me only because I was a white police officer.

Lost culture, lost opportunities, lost hope.

Screen-Shot-2014-11-19-at-9.11.29-AMMarvin Hardy,
Ferguson, MO.

Born in and raised in Saint Louis, it’s amazing how much an African-American male has to give to make a success of himself. From a early age in the 80’s, I was told never to travel alone south of Interstate 64. This was the barrier that separated predominantly poor AA’s from the north, from the Caucasian population to south. Amazingly, life here has still not changed. While the Mike Brown shooting has been and remains a catalyst for socio-economic and racial plights, Ferguson and greater st. Louis (the world) have really never changed. I cannot blame White America, many of whom had nothing to do with Slavery and institutional racism. However, the system is made to excluded my ethnic origin. We are the only group within the History Of America that never was accepted or culturally assimilation into society. As a AA male within St. Louis I have been singled out by authorities in every way imaginable. The answer is not simple, however, with access to education, careers (not jobs), a living wage (not minimum wage) society can start to move toward hope.

You are important. Your voice matters!

kathy-in-car-with-kidsKathy Mercado
Temecula, CA

I do not know what it is like to be pulled over by the police because of the color of my skin.

I do not know what it is like to be called degrading names because of my ethnic background.

I do not know what it is like to be profiled because of my race.

I do not know what it is like to be turned down on a job because of the color of my skin.

I am sorry that so many have been treated unjustly, and that it still goes on today. I do know that you are created in the image of God. You are beautiful through and through. You are smart, caring, talented, and amazing. You have a purpose on the earth, and you matter.

Just a few feet from Home

Ronald E. Davis,
Omaha, NE.

I bought my first home in 2003 in a small middle class neighborhood in Western Omaha, Nebraska. My house is situated on a hill and I share a street with young and established families of various sizes. The demographics of the area are predominantly white. Over the years there has been a gradual influx of color. For example, three doors down to the East, on my side of the street resides a Pakistani family. The husband is part of the leadership of the Homes association and we have brief conversation and acknowledge each other while cutting the grass on weekends. Four doors down to the West on my side of the street lives an interracial couple. The husband is white, the wife is black and their children are a beautiful cocoa brown. I see these children a lot as they walk up and down the sidewalk on their way to the playground that is situated at the end of my street. I am the only single black male that lives in the neighborhood. I am a programmer by trade and my work hours were eight to five.

A few of my neighbors came out and introduced themselves. Conversation was free flowing and it felt good to be welcomed like that. I have always been a private person and I generally keep a low profile. Sure, every now and then I would have people over who wanted to see my house. There were no wild parties that are typical of single life. My intention was too settle in and become part of the fabric of the neighborhood. I took my time when buying furniture for my house. At first, most of the rooms were empty and cavernous. Every night when I would come home from work I would take a book, lay on the floor and occupy a spot to read and daydream. My two cats, Tilly and Michael Anthony were also getting their fill of the new digs. Sometimes they would appear separately and other times they would appear in unison requesting food, attention or play time.

I was still shutting back and forth between my new home and my old town house. Boxes, clothes and cleaning equipment had to either be discarded or placed in closets and shelf-space in the house. It was a relief to finally get those tasks done so that I could relax. One weekend, I was out running around doing errands. I live on Ames street which is perpendicular to the main thoroughfare in my area. The speed limit on this street is twenty five miles an hour. I pay particular to that because there are always children playing about and they sometimes dart across the street without looking where they are going. Needless to say, I keep my eyes peeled for anything and everything. At the time, I had one automobile and it was a white Volvo S90. Back in the day, people would have referred to that car as a Yuppie mobile. In my case, since I am black it would have been called a Buppie mobile. If my memory serves, Buppie would translate to Black Urban Professional. I lived in suburbia, so I loosely embraced the moniker.

As I drove up my street, I noticed a police officer driving slowly in my direction. Through years of experience, it has taken me years to dampen the alarms that sound off in my head while driving in the presence of law enforcement. Even though I am DWB(driving while black) and have not committed any infraction, my spidey sense tingles. Its origin comes from a multitude of places. Stories I’ve read, the five o’clock news, personal accounts from friends as well as personal experiences of my own add to the alarm bell that rings quietly in the back of the mind. As we came upon each other I made a point to acknowledge the officer with a head nod. I got no such action in return. As he passed me, I watched him in my rear view mirror and I saw him stop at the stop light. I pulled into my driveway and didn’t hit the control to raise the garage door. I just sat in the car and he proceeded to remain stopped at the stop sign with his motor running. I remained seated in my car and did not turn my head to look right towards his vehicle. I thought, “why is he still stopped at the stop sign?” I was the reason why he remained stopped. It was obvious that he didn’t think that I belonged in the neighorhood. So, I continued to sit my car and he remained at the stop light. I sat there for about five to eight minutes. I thought, “should I sit here and let him come back and get a closer view?” The wild part of me was tempted to do just that. I was sitting in my driveway, in front of my house, in my car that was paid for. I was credentialed in that I had my license in my wallet, my title was in the glove compartment and there were groceries and other items in the trunk. If he were to approach me, there would be nothing to take issue except for the fact that I was sitting in my driveway for an inordinate amount of time. I abandoned that idea and proceeded to hit the remote control. The door raised and all of the lights within flicked on. I looked over in the direction of the stop sign and the officer drove off. Interesting story huh? I have plenty more where that came from, but this one will have to do for now.

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